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Woman, 33 rapes child, kicks out husband, gets pregnant to child and has child kicked out too.

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — Vman @ 3:50 pm Thu 18th December 2008

A 33-year-old mother was charged with having sex with a minor three weeks after she found out she was pregnant to the boy, a court was told.

The woman was remanded on bail till February 13 for trial in the Timaru District Court after depositions before justices of the peace yesterday.

The woman uttered one word yesterday “No” when asked whether she wished to plead guilty to a charge of sexual connection with the boy, then aged 15, between July and September this year.

The woman and her former husband had known the boy and his family. The boy had often visited the couple’s home.

The boy’s mother told the court that she became suspicious of the pair’s relationship because of the way they acted toward each other.

Her son moved into the woman’s house in August, days after the woman’s husband left the family home. The boy returned home briefly, but was back living at the woman’s house in late August.

When the boy’s mother found out the woman was pregnant, she told the defendant that she was sick, should think of her children and have an abortion.

The defendant’s husband told the court he had tried to be a positive influence in the boy’s life. He had confronted him about being in love with his wife and told him to back off. His wife had said she viewed the boy as a friend.

In mid-July she told her husband she was unhappy with their marriage and he left the family home. Days later, she told him their marriage was over. Soon after the husband left he became aware the boy had moved in.

Within a month he received a phone call from his wife. She was distressed and told him she was pregnant with the boy’s child.

She told her husband she planned to have an abortion and he agreed to drive her to Christchurch for the procedure. She did not keep the appointment and the man laid a complaint with police.

Detective Kevin Byrnes told the court of going to the woman’s house on September 8.

He told the boy he had to leave and was with him as he removed clothes from the main bedroom.


  1. This
    just came in today.

    It will go some way to scotching the myth that only men are predatory abusers of children. Notice the judges language in this clip. He calls the female abusers action rape.

    Comment by Skeptik — Fri 1st May 2009 @ 11:46 am

  2. there is something terribly wrong in the head with this lady.
    i have heard many times “age ain’t nothing but a number”, but in this case
    age is too close of a number. getting oneself into the position that the
    33 year old woman is being inpregnated by someone half her age is obsurd!
    an abortion needs to happen and fast, the poor boy and husband are going to
    need some sort of mental counseling to help them through what the crazy
    lady brewed up.

    Comment by hugh jasss — Sat 2nd May 2009 @ 2:09 am

  3. From

    “Old white guys have always come for the younger girls and boys, preying on their poverty … But these old women followed … they never push the legal age limits, they seem happy just doing what is sneered at in their countries.”

    Experts say some thrive on the social status and financial power that comes from taking much poorer, younger lovers.

    “This is what is sold to tourists by tourism companies — a kind of return to a colonial past, where white women are served, serviced, and pampered by black minions,” said Nottinghan University’s Davidson.

    I’m not sure the hotel manager spokesman has done the definitive research necessary to assure us that the female sex tourists don’t push the legal age limits. Like male sex tourists, women having sex with underage boys will probably not make this obvious. Regardless, the same age, education and wealth gap if in men’s favour would earn the criticism that these relationships are exploitative due to power imbalance. I don’t necessarily agree with that formulation, but merely note the gender-based double standard, for the record.

    Comment by Hans Laven — Sat 2nd May 2009 @ 11:50 pm

  4. Most ‘domestic violence’ accusations are made by paedophile mother’s in order to kidnap their own children from the dad they love.

    Comment by phil watts — Thu 19th February 2015 @ 3:59 pm

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