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1.5m men are victims of domestic violence in Kenya

Filed under: Domestic Violence,General — Darryl Ward @ 8:55 pm Wed 27th May 2009


1.5m men are victims of domestic violence: report

By BENJAMIN MUINDI Posted Sunday, May 24 2009 at 13:18

A report by a lobby group championing men’s rights on Sunday said over 1.5 million in Kenya are victims of domestic violence daily.

The Maendeleo ya Wanaume organisation said even though they are battered by their wives, men find it difficult to report this to authorities for fear of social ridicule.

The findings show the campaign for the rights of the women has led to a reverse of the scenario and now men are at the centre of violence. The group carried out a survey in 40 selected districts in Kenya’s provinces from August 2008 and has found out that between 1 and 1.5 million men are domestically abused by women daily.

The report shows that men have little say on issues that concern conjugal rights in their relationship and that women are the ones who determine when they should get intimate. In an apparent reference to the just-concluded sexual boycott called by a group of women activists, G10, the men said “this was equal to a domestic abuse against men.”

“It has been found out that victims of the violence are physically abused in their bedrooms at night and kicked out of the house,” said Mr Ndiritu Njoka, chairman of the group. He added that the men end up sleeping in the sitting room, bars or in the car. “We also found out that many men are locked out of the house if they come home late or drunk.”

Central province topped the list with 72 per cent of the men interviewed saying they were victims of domestic violence. Other provinces were Nairobi, Nyanza, Rift Valley and North Eastern in that order. “Our visit to the magistrate courts and chiefs offices revealed that many cases at the waiting list were separation and divorce,” he said.

The group observed that most women cases were determined according to the emotions they portrayed even when they were faking. “In Central and Nairobi provinces, we found out that there were rampant fake rape cases charged against men.”

But according to the chairperson of the Federation of Women Lawyers Naomi Wagereka, “the men are missing the point.” She said “the question should be to reduce violence and not who is being harassed more than the other.” The organisation pledged to issue a major press conference in reacting to the report on Sunday.

Nevertheless, Mr Njoka said “women from rich backgrounds tend to henpeck their husbands a lot and more than necessary.” “In a situation where a woman has a big body than the man they take advantage and batter their husbands.”

He said these cases go unreported because the men are scared of the social stigma associated with the act. “In other instances where the cases are reported to the police, the men are always not given a fair hearing,” Mr Njoka added.

According to the report, men stay in abusive and violent relationships to protect their children afraid that if they left they will never be allowed to see their children again. “The man is afraid the woman will influence the children badly by misleading them that he is a bad person or that he doesn’t love them.” The group called for active advocacy to fight domestic violence against men.


  1. Aha. So now I know why there are so many world class Kenyan male distance runners.

    Seriously though. Does this have a familiar ring to it – or what? G.

    Comment by glenn — Wed 27th May 2009 @ 9:20 pm

  2. Meanwhile, the government has announced plans to carry out national campaigns on domestic violence in the wake of reports that men are abused by their wives.

    Kenyan government leads where the New Zealand government fails

    Comment by SicKofNZ — Wed 27th May 2009 @ 10:46 pm

  3. From personal experience, black women are the sexiest and the most charming, but BY FAR the most violent and nastiest. So i can agree with these findings, it is said that black men are bad fathers and leave their kids, but most of this is because of their female partners.

    Comment by martin swash — Wed 27th May 2009 @ 11:11 pm

  4. I don’t think colour or race has anything to do with it!

    Comment by Scott B — Thu 28th May 2009 @ 12:45 am

  5. that is my personal experience Scott, that’s all.And also there must be something behind the vast discrepancy between separation rates in USA where the % of black single mothers is MUCH MUCH more than other races. But as i say , it is my personal experience, maybe it is due to their upbringing

    Comment by Ian — Thu 28th May 2009 @ 11:09 am

  6. The endgame is here gentlemen,

    Just read how you can catch the femi scumbags and thier myopic supporters in the act of screwing you over……time after time after time for only $NZ32 plus postage!

    By the way to all those who scoff atleadership without using a real name…..
    Does this posting with a psudonym stop effective leadership (wink! smirk!)

    And just think gentlemen….. these great devices will only get smaller, cheaper and morepowerful, plus the male pill is on it’s way.

    Feminism is f+++ed thanks to MALE ingenuity!

    Comment by Skeptik — Thu 28th May 2009 @ 10:55 pm

  7. Haha I remember my ex-wife being overly nice to me one evening while also trying to bait me to argue with her. Weird I thought. That is until I noticed the dictaphone under the couch. She had no idea that I had noticed it. It was a great opportunity to calmly mention some things that she’d hate to be publicised and while she was on her best behaviour. Man=1, Abuser=0

    Comment by SicKofNZ — Thu 28th May 2009 @ 11:46 pm

  8. Yes it does.

    Comment by Darryl Ward — Fri 29th May 2009 @ 12:11 am

  9. I believe that I can safely assume that this is not a serious contribution, but is malicious vandalism of the site to make look the men’s movement look bad.

    Comment by Darryl Ward — Fri 29th May 2009 @ 12:13 am

  10. That is, yes it does skeptic (in answer to your question).

    Comment by Darryl Ward — Fri 29th May 2009 @ 12:14 am

  11. Yes Daryl,
    that’s the conclusion I’m arriving at too.

    John Potter, would you please toss out the abusive comments from ‘Bret’ and ‘Sam’above to cleanse the site and bring it back to it’s proper state?

    Comment by Skeptik — Fri 29th May 2009 @ 12:45 am

  12. Not in my book

    Comment by Skeptik — Fri 29th May 2009 @ 12:47 am

  13. I think Brett and Sam are just feminazis trying to stir trouble.

    Comment by John — Fri 29th May 2009 @ 1:04 am

  14. J.P.
    In fact in light of their recent postings please just block them from the site.

    Comment by Skeptik — Fri 29th May 2009 @ 2:35 am

  15. it was probably written by a feminist to make us all appear in a bad light, oh that is your conclusions too ! Pathetic !

    Comment by Ian — Fri 29th May 2009 @ 4:12 am

  16. Or someone from the abuse industry whose income depends on misandry.

    Comment by Darryl Ward — Fri 29th May 2009 @ 7:50 am

  17. As Sam’s inappropriate comment (promoting violence against women) has now been removed, I assume Darryl has discovered that authors can moderate comments on their own posts.

    In future, please do not make public responses to anything which needs to be deleted, or we end up with lots of irrelevant comments like those above.

    If you need to get a message to a moderator please use the contact form, or email JohnP directly.

    Comment by JohnPotter — Fri 29th May 2009 @ 9:59 am

  18. I assume Darryl has discovered that authors can moderate comments on their own posts.

    Ummm, … Darryl knows now no doubt. (after you said so)

    It is a shame the comments now look strange. I left Brent’s alive which sort of makes no sense. I touched the wrong thread. Sorry about that John.

    Comment by julie — Fri 29th May 2009 @ 10:12 am

  19. In 2005 there were 2 million men reporting domestic violence. Thats reported!!! So reality.

    Let’s face it gentlemen, the sun has set on feminism. The truth is out about all their lies and myths and with reference to FTM domestic violence, even the PC UK is now admitting the reality. Gone are the days when you could only refer to the female victims but it is now PC to acknowledge that BOTH sexes are equally likely to be a victim. But none of this is rocket science. Men are brought up to protect and not hit women. Women on the other hand……. well that’s a different story!

    Comment by Masculist UK — Sat 30th May 2009 @ 8:54 am

  20. From xtra news…

    All Black Adam Thomson will not stand trial for assaulting his partner Joanna Holley.

    Thomson was in court today charged with two counts of assault after being arrested in Havelock North in December last year.

    Television presenter Joanna Holley gave evidence of what occurred between her and her partner, Adam Thompson, at a wedding in Havelock North. She told the court Thomson never assaulted her, never hit her and never slapped her.

    Ms Holley says she overreacted when she thought Thomson was ignoring her at the wedding and became hysterical. She says she should not have called the police and regrets what happened.

    Comment by Scott B — Tue 2nd June 2009 @ 3:13 pm

  21. Oops I was meant to just copy the link. If I have broken rules etc please just leave this one…

    Comment by Scott B — Tue 2nd June 2009 @ 3:14 pm

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