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Birthday Wishes for my Son

Filed under: General — uktuatara @ 8:14 pm Tue 11th August 2009

I sent an email to my son today on his birthday and share it only becuase it will hopefully remind us all what wonderful children we have, I am not seeking any credit or back patting for this, just thought you might like to hear it.

Dear *edited*,

It is seven years ago today that I held you for the first time, and I knew then that you would become an amazing kid, and then grow up to become an exceptional man.  I am so excited to see this coming true.

My son, I wish you the very best birthday anyone could ever have.  I love you more with each passing day, your brother and you are everything to me.  You are the reason I get up in the morning, and the reason I work so hard to see that your future is exciting, full of adventure and has the potential to fulfil every dream you have.

I want to tell you once again, that the reason I left your Mum to live a happier life was NOTHING to do with anything you had done, it was in fact because I wanted you to have a happy start to life, and through the tears you have cried, and the hugs we have shared, you will begin to understand.  You can ALWAYS ask me whatever you like, and I will always answer honestly.

Now that *edited* is in my life, to help me be the best Dad I can be, we commit that we will do everything we can to make your life a success.  She loves you intensely and will be your support whenever you need someone to hug or talk to.  Together we are cool little family, and I can’t wait for the adventures we will all have together.  I love her so much, and I thank you for letting her be a part of our future.

Remember when you are not at Dad’s that you must respect your Mum and treat her with the same manners and behaviour I would expect at my house, I know you can do this because you have very high values my son.

I loved being your teacher for a day, if I was able to do it everyday, I would.

I love you *edited*, you are a great young man destined for great things.

Your Dad


  1. Thanks for sharing this. it’s beautiful.

    Comment by julie — Wed 12th August 2009 @ 8:32 am

  2. Wow! He is lucky to have you for a Dad.

    Comment by Dave — Tue 18th August 2009 @ 4:04 pm

  3. Great work..mind you I would have thought the ‘adventure’ had already well and truly begun already. Why wait!

    Comment by Vince — Sat 22nd August 2009 @ 9:24 am

  4. awesome letter

    Comment by Doug Jacobs — Wed 16th September 2009 @ 7:14 pm

  5. It made me cry. I have copied most parts of it and sent it to my six years old son. It is really Awesome. Today is my son’s Birthday and he lives with his mum. I wrote it on a card and sent it to him.

    Comment by Maymen — Wed 9th November 2011 @ 10:35 am

  6. Uktuatara,
    Well done.
    That’s a lovely letter.

    For you and other folks you might consider sending this new free resource to men you value in your life

    No Man’s Land – A Brief Treatise on Contemporary Masculinity

    My respected colleague Jack Donovan, a writer and a working man, has released a study of masculinity that offers a much-needed counterpoint to the feminist hegemon. The e-book is free for download in both pdf and kindle format (consider a “tip” for the effort), and can be read in about the time it takes to go through a good magazine.

    In addition to analyzing feminist positions, Jack quotes from our material, introducing some of the concepts from the manosphere and bringing up the points we strive to make. The book is well-crafted and makes a great addition to our growing source material – it’s a great example of the kind of effort it will take to turn things around and provide men with an argument and position in their defense.

    Brief excerpts here –

    No Man’s Land on the modern family

    The patriarchal kinship system that demanded paternal investment was dismantled by feminists, technology and the legal system. It was replaced with a system that gave women control over virtually all aspects of reproduction, and where a woman could rest assured that the state would step in and provide for her children in the absence of a husband or father. Divorce, most often initiated by women, offered a way for women to seize control of their families at-will, even when a man had chosen to make a paternal investment. Men had become peripheral players in the lives of their offspring, and they could be cut from the team by coach mom at any time. The managing bureaucrat would then determine what role the father would have in his children’s lives-at best he might be offered a co-parenting role, at worst he could be reduced to a mere paycheck.

    On MGTOW

    While relatively few men would recognize the MGTOW acronym, it is true that many young men are “going their own way.” And that’s exactly what feminists like Rosin, Kimmel, Garcia, Romano, Doupkil, Gabler and Hymowitz have been fretting about. While there will always be exceptions- the ascetics and the passive, herbivorous “bonobo” boys-young men who were raised by women, processed through a feminist-friendly educational system, who see that women probably have better prospects than they do, and who have been relieved of the responsibilities associated with patriarchy see no reason to toil to help women get the things they want, especially in a society that aspires to “equality” between the sexes. As Rosin and others trumpet a future where girls are for the first time more desirable than boys, they must see the gall in asking men to get excited about speeding the plow.

    On Game

    “¦young men have discovered that good grooming and the appearance of affluence is not all they need to get laid. Pick up artists and advocates of “game” like the pseudonymous authors of the popular blog Citizen Renegade (now “Heartiste”) advise men to take advantage of evolutionary psychology and appear to be “alpha”-a primal group leader-when dealing with women. Game advocates say that a man can run game inside a marriage or a long term relationship, but they generally take a dim view of a married man’s chances for well-being and fulfillment-especially financial well- being and sexual fulfillment. Game as a sexual strategy seems to be geared toward providing short term gratification for men and women, but also avoiding long term misery.

    Happy Birthday young fella!

    Comment by Skeptic — Wed 9th November 2011 @ 10:47 am

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