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6 Responses to “Birthday Wishes for my Son”

1. julie says:

   Wed 12th August 2009 at 8:32 am

   Thanks for sharing this. it’s beautiful.

2. Dave says:

   Tue 18th August 2009 at 4:04 pm

   Wow! He is lucky to have you for a Dad.

3. Vince says:

   Sat 22nd August 2009 at 9:24 am

   Great work..mind you I would have thought the ‘adventure’ had already well and truly begun already. Why wait!

4. Doug Jacobs says:

   Wed 16th September 2009 at 7:14 pm

   awesome letter

5. Maymen says:

   Wed 9th November 2011 at 10:35 am

   It made me cry. I have copied most parts of it and sent it to my six years old son. It is really Awesome. Today is my son’s Birthday and he lives with his mum. I wrote it on a card and sent it to him.

6. Skeptic says:

   Wed 9th November 2011 at 10:47 am

   Uktuatara,
   Well done.
   That’s a lovely letter.

   For you and other folks you might consider sending this new free resource to men you value in your life –

   No Man’s Land – A Brief Treatise on Contemporary Masculinity

   My respected colleague Jack Donovan, a writer and a working man, has released a study of masculinity that offers a much-needed counterpoint to the feminist hegemon. The e-book is free for download in both pdf and kindle format (consider a “tip” for the effort), and can be read in about the time it takes to go through a good magazine.

   In addition to analyzing feminist positions, Jack quotes from our material, introducing some of the concepts from the manosphere and bringing up the points we strive to make. The book is well-crafted and makes a great addition to our growing source material – it’s a great example of the kind of effort it will take to turn things around and provide men with an argument and position in their defense.

   Brief excerpts here –

   No Man’s Land on the modern family

   The patriarchal kinship system that demanded paternal investment was dismantled by feminists, technology and the legal system. It was replaced with a system that gave women control over virtually all aspects of reproduction, and where a woman could rest assured that the state would step in and provide for her children in the absence of a husband or father. Divorce, most often initiated by women, offered a way for women to seize control of their families at-will, even when a man had chosen to make a paternal investment. Men had become peripheral players in the lives of their offspring, and they could be cut from the team by coach mom at any time. The managing bureaucrat would then determine what role the father would have in his children’s lives-at best he might be offered a co-parenting role, at worst he could be reduced to a mere paycheck.

   On MGTOW

   While relatively few men would recognize the MGTOW acronym, it is true that many young men are “going their own way.” And that’s exactly what feminists like Rosin, Kimmel, Garcia, Romano, Doupkil, Gabler and Hymowitz have been fretting about. While there will always be exceptions- the ascetics and the passive, herbivorous “bonobo” boys-young men who were raised by women, processed through a feminist-friendly educational system, who see that women probably have better prospects than they do, and who have been relieved of the responsibilities associated with patriarchy see no reason to toil to help women get the things they want, especially in a society that aspires to “equality” between the sexes. As Rosin and others trumpet a future where girls are for the first time more desirable than boys, they must see the gall in asking men to get excited about speeding the plow.

   On Game

   “¦young men have discovered that good grooming and the appearance of affluence is not all they need to get laid. Pick up artists and advocates of “game” like the pseudonymous authors of the popular blog Citizen Renegade (now “Heartiste”) advise men to take advantage of evolutionary psychology and appear to be “alpha”-a primal group leader-when dealing with women. Game advocates say that a man can run game inside a marriage or a long term relationship, but they generally take a dim view of a married man’s chances for well-being and fulfillment-especially financial well- being and sexual fulfillment. Game as a sexual strategy seems to be geared toward providing short term gratification for men and women, but also avoiding long term misery.

   BTW.
   Happy Birthday young fella!