PAS yeah right!
Â PAS…yeah right? is this for real?
My child hates me. “I dont love you and I dont want you to be a part of my life I dont want to have anything to do with you, uncle, xxxx, xxxx and anyone who takes your side you ARE an unfit parent so stay away from me you CREEP leave me alone this is harassement. Leave me alone your you WILL be sorry”.
When I ask my ex wife when I can see my daughter she replies “she does not want to see you and I will not force her”.
Anyone familiar with this?
Time ticks away. One month, two months, three months…In fact time freezes. My daughter refuses to see me, my ex does not encourage her to see me. When I make contact, I get told that I am “harassing” them. The belief that “we don’t need him” seems to be the foundation of her philosophy. I have been successfully alienated and it hurts like hell.
Now it seems to me that there are two beliefs. One. I deserve it. I have done something so immensely wrong that my child has reason to hold a grudge for the rest of her life and forgiveness will never be on the cards. She also hates everyone on my side. Two. She is convinced that there are two sides (as stated), the good side and the bad side. She needs to side with the good side, because the good side needs her help. Like a team player who feels a need to align with the team. If she leaves the team there may be consequences.
Speak to anyone about this and they think you are nuts. The child feels like this cause you are a ….!!
Here is the flip side.. My daughter has a twin. She comes to me half week and everyday after school. I have another younger daughter that comes to me half week and after school. I have my house filled with children every weekend. Kids love me! I am a good dad.
Why does my daughter reject me. I have asked her and this is my profile. “you sleep with whores”, “you abuse mum emotionally”, “you put mom in financial difficulty”, “you have put her in jail”.
Yes…my ex went to jail for a night. Smashing my car to pieces and then assaulting a police officer. You see, most angry people believe that youÂ “push their buttons”. My child believes and is convinced that I have pushed mum’s buttons.
If you believed my profile, would you choose not to see me? This is PAS…and why do some people do this? Because they want to hurt you by stealing your kids.
If anybody has been through PAS and knows what to do, please let me know. I don’t want my child growing up without a father.
And by the way…I stuck it out with her for many years because she threatened to kill herself if I left. Are my kids under the same pressure?