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Evidence that women are interested mainly in rich men

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:13 am Sat 11th September 2010

I came across this research done on a US dating site called OkCupid. Of particular interest was the graph with the title “How Many Messages a Man Gets, By Age & Income”. The authors sum up the situation:

…if you’re a young guy and don’t make much money, cool. If you’re 23 or older and don’t make much money, go die in a fire.

This of course was a US population, but I doubt it would be significantly different in NZ. Men seem to be in a double bind: on the one hand they are despised for earning a bit more for the kinds of jobs they tend to do while on the other hand they are valued and selected for earning more. (The only significant remaining justification now put forward for maintaining the NZ Ministry of Women’s Affairs is the mission to correct the sickening outrage that men earn around 20% more for the jobs they do, jobs that place men at about 100 times the risk of being killed or maimed relative to the jobs preferred by women).


  1. Like in a lot of other instances, men and women tend to ignore the fact that both sexes are powerfully influenced by very primal instincts. One of these instincts is that women are driven at a biological level to find a provider capable of supplying for them and their offspring. This is well documented.

    Robert Winston states in his book “Human Instinct” in the section “What women want.”

    “…consider an interesting study investigating personal adds – placed by men – which were most successful in eliciting replies from women. The following factors were found to be the most important in stimulating female interest: age, education level and income. All three are predicators of financial stability. Time and time again this, rather than a “nice personality”, stand out as the defining features of what women want in a man.”

    Women HATE to admit it, but there is certainly no doubt that all women are natural gold diggers by nature. When this natural inclination is combined with the ability to use the law to strip a man of his resources, thereby giving women the ability to get access to money without even needing to stay in a relationship with the man who has earned it, it is a lethal combination.

    Research asside though all most men have to do is look to past experience to see this in action. Most men with a few years on them have experienced the responses of women to their own financial setbacks, or if dating have experienced the sudden change in attraction that women display when finding out that a man is not as financially established as she thought.

    Nowhere is this more obvious than the number of marriages that end because of “financial problems”. Money problems are one of the leading causes of divorce and don’t forget that it is women who end at least 75% of all marriages. It certainly appears that ending a marriage is an acceptable way of dealing with tough financial times for a considerable number of women who simply find their man no longer suitable based on his lack of money.

    Comment by Phoenix — Sat 11th September 2010 @ 5:19 pm

  2. Women HATE to admit it, but there is certainly no doubt that all women are natural gold diggers by nature. When this natural inclination is combined with the ability to use the law to strip a man of his resources, thereby giving women the ability to get access to money without even needing to stay in a relationship with the man who has earned it, it is a lethal combination.

    Amen to that.

    Looking at the numbers of women vs men graduating with higher qualifications in countries like USA especially it’s looking mighty grim for an increasing number of women. As men there opt out of the traditional ways of being masculine by becoming zeta males the residues of available gold for women to dig decline as we speak.

    For an in depth look at this process view –

    The Plague of Modern Masculinity Pt. 1

    The Plague of Modern Masculinity Pt. 2

    The Plague of Modern Masculinity Pt. 3

    Comment by Skeptik — Sat 11th September 2010 @ 10:44 pm

  3. I saw this amusing advertisement on Trademe for a nice looking Mercedes Benz…

    selling due to marital seperation so naturally now is minus one airbag. However these are readily available….. and generally come flocking when they see you in a car like this……

    This is a cool car, has GPS. Last time I checked being an import it indicated we were about 3kms offshore of Tokyo. However has an intimate knowledge of how to find most beauty therapists, Naturopaths, day spas, hair salons & Shopping Malls.for inspection call 021946919

    Has 19″ Brabus wheels.also lwb so lots of room for friends!!!

    Will truly miss this car…… is the epitomy of luxury motoring.keywords valiant fairmont camry calais commodore falcon lada skoda bmw you know the deal anything starting with m means lots of money mazda mitsi merc mortage marrige all of the hit has already been taken here

    Comment by Hans Laven — Sun 12th September 2010 @ 10:03 am

  4. Personally I don’t have a problem that women are attracted to men who earn a good income or have the potential to earn a good income. The problem, as Phoenix pointed out, is that the advantages of this income should be firmly tied to marriage. If marriage ends so does that income.

    The ideology goes that the wife married and had an expectation of continuing to be financially supported by the husband.

    Two big problems with this:
    1. 3 out of 4 times the wife ended the marriage.
    2. The husband had an expectation that he would continue to raise his own children.

    If the wife gave up a career to raise the children one could argue that she should be compensated. However remember that she will still get at least 50% of all assets. In other words she has been compensated. The other thing to remember is that most often the husband is not given a choice as to whether he can give up HIS career.

    As a secondary note it is obvious that the divorced husband needs to earn and keep more income than the ex-wife if he is to re-build his life and attract a future partner. This is something that is never discussed.

    Comment by Dave — Mon 13th September 2010 @ 11:11 am

  5. Here’s a fairly typical example of women’s expectations of men. Note the reference to be treated like a princess, to be entertained and not having to work for the rest of her life. The clip gets fairly annoying and self-indulgent as it continues, but just over halfway through there is also an interesting attitude suggesting violence is ok when done by women towards men.

    Comment by Hans Laven — Fri 17th September 2010 @ 11:52 am

  6. Serendipity- is a propensity for making fortunate discoveries while looking for something unrelated.
    I worked hard in my marriage, supported her, supported 4 children, built a nice house, paid it off, worked worked worked worked. Eventually I hit the wall (like a cyclist after 2 hours and no nutriment).
    I had bought her a business, I had left my career for her, I had moved everything to a new town- working ever harder until I was like a punch drunk boxer.
    So, like an broken down fridge,( broke, clinically depressed, all the gas leaked out) I was wheeled to the kerbside for disposal- (My Father’s day present!!)

    I found a room to rent, allowed myself the time I needed, cried, laughed, had adventures, met new people, woked a little here and there (temping)
    Then invented the perfect business, met a REAL woman, made a million dollars, have property, have a yacht, a big motorbike, several nice cars, am training to do the Taupo cycling challenge, and on and on…

    One of my children told me that my ex was not doing too well, with her eternal benefit, eternal illnesses, eternal bitterness- poor silly thing. She had a good husband once, who would never have thought about leaving her- pity she never thought to look after him.

    I LOVE father’s day now- the day my new life began

    Comment by John Brett — Fri 17th September 2010 @ 4:05 pm

  7. I tried watching this video and lasted 30 seconds.
    The sheer narcissism, pea brained mentality and cutey doll voice made my skin crawl.
    If anyone ever wants to extract a confession from me there’s no need for water-boarding, sleep deprivation or fingernail extraction, just play this to me for over a minute. I’ll sign anything gladly after that.

    Utterly horrendous to think women like this actually walk the planet.

    Comment by Skeptik — Fri 17th September 2010 @ 6:38 pm

  8. Here is something that fits right in there…
    “A Message from David” on the Blog of our friend ‘Forester’ who is writing the online magazine MENZ (which despite having the same name as this site is not an extension of it)
    To quote ‘Fidelbogen (Forester): ” The topic of discussion today is whether men should pay the full bill on a date. Seems innocuous enough, right? Well, follow the below link and tell me whether anything troubles you” :

    Comment by Max — Fri 17th September 2010 @ 9:59 pm

  9. Wow! Talk about narcissism!
    This takes my breath away!

    Just imagine if a man married himself!
    Oh my God and many people say men are the ones with ego.

    Comment by Skeptik — Sat 23rd October 2010 @ 11:48 am

  10. “To quote ‘Fidelbogen (Forester): ” “

    Hello. Fidelbogen here. Yes, the notorious counter-feminist. That’s ME!

    FOR THE RECORD: I have no idea who “Forester” is, but I am not he, and he is NOT ME.

    Fidelbogen and “Forester” are not the same person.

    I have NO idea where that idea came from.

    But. . I am NOT ‘Forester’.

    I am Fidelbogen the Counter-Feminist. The one and only.

    Thank you! 😉

    Comment by Fidelbogen — Sat 23rd October 2010 @ 6:13 pm

  11. Noted.
    Sorry and cheers.

    Comment by Max — Sun 24th October 2010 @ 8:15 am

  12. Hi looking for a kind caring loving rich man to love and take care of me I’m 36 years old kind caring and loving please reply x

    Comment by Anna — Sun 16th June 2013 @ 4:41 am

  13. Dear Anna- I don’t doubt that you are all that you say, but your sales technique is a little lacking. Try focusing on buying motives, what you might have to offer, what would motivate any man to be interested. Check the personals in the newspaper for some ideas.
    btw- I could be interested in a kind loving rich woman to love and take care of me.

    Comment by John Brett — Sun 16th June 2013 @ 7:08 am

  14. Anna,
    this should help

    Comment by Skeptic — Sun 16th June 2013 @ 9:30 am

  15. Anna, you have a good chance that your little advertisement will get genuine replies, though perhaps not here. Interestingly though, dating site research has shown, for example, that men who advertise for a richer woman to take care of them financially get no replies. Also, advertisements showing a man standing next to an older, cheap car get no replies but if he is shown standing next to an expensive car it will get lots of replies; the number of replies is directly proportional to the value of the car shown. What does that say about gender equality in the feminist age?

    Comment by Man X Norton — Sun 16th June 2013 @ 11:08 am

  16. so- multichoice:
    A Hi looking for a kind caring loving rich man to love and take care of me I’m 36 years old kind caring, and , ex model, dancer, please reply.
    B Hi looking for a kind caring loving rich man to love and take care of me I’m 36 years old, qualified motor mechanic, advanced trade, love me love my Harley- kind caring and loving please reply
    C Hi looking for a kind caring loving rich man to love and take care of me I’m 36 years old, university lecturer in sociology and women’s studies, kind caring and loving please reply.
    D Hi looking for a kind caring loving rich man to love and take care of me I’m 36 years old, beneficiary, four children, own Housing corp unit, kind caring and loving please reply.

    Comment by John Brett — Sun 16th June 2013 @ 7:45 pm

  17. e Hi looking for a kind caring loving rich man-fool to love and impregnate me. I’m 36 years old, DPB-career minded, want a child or two, love me love my bank account – you’ll be contributing for nineteen years! please reply

    Comment by OMG you're *)(&%^& — Sun 16th June 2013 @ 8:01 pm

  18. Love can work in strange ways….

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Wed 27th March 2019 @ 10:20 am

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