NZ ranks 6th.
According to this source, New Zealand has the 6th highest divorce rate in the world.
In several countries the overall numbers of divorces are slightly reducing just recently. However this is primarily because the number of marriages are reducing.
At the same time the amount of traffic on the internet shows that men are discussing the sexist injustices of divorce more and more.
Here is one such article:
“Consider this: statistically, the first person to file for divorce usually wins. While 70% of all divorces are initiated by women, 85 to 90% of custody awards go to the women. The numbers alone reveal the ugly truth when it comes to men: marriage has become a gamble in which the odds are heavily against us.
Family courts have become synonymous with tragedy and injustice. Once made to protect women from deadbeat dads, these courts are making a mockery of fairness by being instruments of disgrace for men and families.”
The news today shows divorce AND MARRIAGE rates are down.
Lest anyone be tempted to airbrush NZ marriage into becoming something that’s miraculously become man friendly get too excited they should notice that whilst it’s true the rate of divorce is down also MARRAIGE RATES ARE DOWN TOO. The newspaper report (linked above) calls that drop ‘plummetted’.
Hmmmmmmm.
Less folks getting married leading to less folks getting divorced.
Could it be the men’s marriage strike is taking hold as they realize that with no fault divorce and family law being so biased towards women that marriage is a BAD deal for modern men???
I cetainly hope so for reasons explained here and here.
For I’ve gotten mightily tired of seeing those with a vested interest in creating more fractured families and solo parenthood hold sway. Tired of reading from anguishged traumatized faathers who’ve been shafted. Tired of meeting feral underparented kids. Tired of listening to entitled women who parrot nonsensically feminist hate speech about the rate of fatherlessness being because of dead beat dads.
I’ve also grown tired of seeing those with good intentions who try to change the system into one where men post divorce get a fair deal get stonewalled time and time again.
I would have thought the solution to such a glaringly obvious scenario was obvious -> if your a man in NZ and you expect to get a more than 50% chance of being in a successful long term relationship with a woman forget it. Chances are higher than average you’ll be dumped by cup cake (maybe when you least expect it too!).
Likewise if you expect to be one of those who get divorced and get treated fairly and reasonably forget that too. There’s decades worth of anecdotal evidence supporting that notion on this website alone.
Don’t think with your gonads dear chaps. Think, period.
If you’re a young man, say 30ish (avarege age for NZ men marrying – record high age at that too) imagine yourself 7 years down track (average length of marriage at time of divorce in NZ) and think aout this….
You’ll be homeless as the chances are greatest that your ex-wife will get to keep the kid/s and the kids will need a home/stability. So you’ll be living in the second class digs, not her, she’ll get to keep the castle.
You’ll be reduced to seeing your kids only as much as it suits your (probably embittered ex-wife)
You’ll also be paying ‘child support’ for up to 19 years if it’s a newborn, less if the child/ren is/are a bit older. Still a lengthy period of time to be indentured for kids you may never see again.
Don’t believe me? Just ask amongst men in NZ. I’m sure you’ll find like I did you’ll be overwhelmed by the horror stories NZ men tell you. And I implore you at all times remember despite what the demonising lace curtain media tries to portay these are good decent men and fathers too.
Comment by Skeptik — Thu 6th May 2010 @ 5:04 pm
Thanks for not censoring the thread by deleting my comment.
I think the marriage strike is a very important discussion that should be taking place.
I can’t help but notice the total silence though. Hours go by and no-one else has commented.
Come on folks.
Cat got your tongues?
NZ men boycotting marriage/de facto relationships with women there will save them having to pay a HUGE emotional toll and exhorbitant ‘child support down the line’ as well.
NZ men boycotting marriage/de facto relationships with women there will also drain the divorce industry (and I choose those words VERY carefully) of it’s lifeblood – good decent fathers.
NZ men boycotting marriage/de facto relationships with women there will ensure yet another generation of fatherlessness doesn’t get created.
Less fatherlessness = less youth crime too!!!!!
So take your pick unattached men of NZ – marry and take a huge risk of loss like you’ve never known before! OR forsake marriage and live without such risk.
By the way there’s a wealth of amazing women elsewhere than NZ.
Why restrict yourself to only NZ when looking for a decent woman to couple with?
Comment by Skeptik — Thu 6th May 2010 @ 7:15 pm
Can’t help noticing- that three of my children are now 36, 32, and 30, and have shown NO interest in marrying or raising a family.
My two sisters have NOT been affected by divorce, and their children are marrying and having families.
Marrriage Strike based on parents experiences!
Comment by John Brett — Fri 7th May 2010 @ 9:08 am
Yes John I think so. My personal experience and observation is that parents experiences is a very major factor in how their marriage/relationships are conducted.
Comment by Dave — Fri 7th May 2010 @ 4:01 pm