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The following pages keeps being deleted from Wikipedia by feminsts.

Filed under: General — Vman @ 6:42 pm Tue 27th April 2010

Marriage strike

A ‘marriage strike’ is the social phenomenon of men seeking to avoid marriage. The ‘marriage strike’ specifically refers to the action of men living within the Western world. Advocates of the marriage strike believe that after a considered cost-benefit analysis, the legal contract that is modern marriage no longer represents an attractive option for men living in the West’s changed legal, economic, sociological, cultural and demographic environment.

Advocates of the marriage strike hold that through the combination of laws permitting no-fault divorce and prevailing conditions in divorce courts that are substantially more likely to favor the wife over the husband in disputes over child custody, visitation rights, ownership of the family residence and other shared property, child support, and alimony. It is possible for a woman to divorce her husband unilaterally while simultaneously depriving him of the right to see his offspring and financially crippling him. They argue that since the divorce rate is high, and since women are more likely than men to seek no-fault divorce, scenarios like the above are a likely outcome of marriage, and that many men, fearing such an outcome, choose not to marry. There have been numerous studies showing that a range of 60 to 93 percent of no-fault divorces in the United States were initiated by women, usually against a man who works a blue-collar job, for grounds cited as “emotional unfulfillment.”
Legal Causations of Emerging Western Marriage Strike
Divorce Penalty

Marriage, while being publicly understood as a union between man and woman, is also a legal contract. On divorce, the court deems that a legal contract is considered broken, and legal consequences come into effect. There is a dissolution of the previously shared financial assets of the married couple. Assets are divided for distribution to both parties by a court ruling. Typically, a woman will receive 50% ownership of the couple’s assets on initiation of divorce. These assets include property, housing, vehicles, savings, and investments.
No-fault divorce

No-fault divorce is divorce in which the dissolution of a marriage does not require fault of either party to be shown, or, indeed, any evidentiary proceedings at all. It occurs on petition to the court, typically a family court by either party, without the requirement that the petitioner show fault on the part of the other party. Either party may request, and receive, the dissolution of the marriage, despite the objections of the other party.
Divorce and Children

In the Western world, family law is structurally more likely to award child custody to a child’s mother in the case of divorce . This legal situation results in fathers often having very limited access to their children after divorce. In an attempt to balance the rights and needs of the mother, father, and children, courts may award a couple joint custody of their children after divorce.
Male Alternatives to Marriage
Cohabitation Without Marriage

Proponents of the marriage strike advise that men should simply cohabit (live with a girlfriend), and not actually marry. Living with a girlfriend presents a legally safer alternative, with marriage’s benefits to men, with a reduction in the penalties found within marriage.

De-facto Law:

However, it should be noted that family law can also be applied in some Western nations (eg, Australia) and other nations (eg Brazil) to de-facto relationships such as these. After a certain length of time, the breakup of a non-marriage, live-in relationship can legally result in a man losing his assets to his ‘de-facto wife’, as considered by the law.
Pre-nuptial Agreement

A prenuptial agreement, commonly abbreviated to ‘prenup’, is a contract entered into by two people prior to marriage. The content of a prenuptial agreement can vary widely, but commonly includes provisions for the division of property should the couple divorce and any rights to spousal support during or after the dissolution of marriage.

Prenuptial agreements are not always fully recognized by law in case of divorce. Prenuptial agreements are, at best, a partial solution to obviating some of the risks of marital property disputes in times of divorce. They are not the final word.
Foreign Women

Full article: Mail-order bride

Another form of the marriage strike is to single out only American women, or women from any English-speaking country (such as the United Kingdom, Canada, Australia, or New Zealand) for shunning. English-speaking women are characterized as rude, aloof, selfish and brainwashed by feminism. Instead, such marriage strikers encourage men to marry women from other, usually developing, countries. Most often mentioned countries are Latin American, Eastern European, or Asian countries, such as the Philippines, Thailand, Japan, Mexico, Colombia, Brazil, Russia, Ukraine and Poland. They state that such women are more likely to appreciate marriage than American women and are much less likely to divorce. Some even go so far as to urge the men to move to the other country and live there rather than bring the foreign wife back to the United States, in case she gets “infected” by feminist ideas; citing horror stories of foreign women using the man for a green card and ripping him off.

In 2005, the International Marriage Broker Regulation Act was attached to the Violence Against Women Act and was passed. The passage of IMBRA includes placing restrictions on visas given to women who meet an American man through an online dating service. Many marriage strikers have assailed the law as a spiteful attempt to protect American women from foreign competition, as a sort of “love tariff”. In fact, despite the term “mail-order bride”, most marriages between American men and foreign women do not use “mail-order bride” services. However, IMBRA can come into effect from any online correspondence, not just through a dating service.
See also

* Alimony
* Bachelor
* Child support
* Families Need Fathers
* Family law
* Fathers’ rights
* Involuntary celibacy
* Masculism
* Misandry
* Palimony


* US National Center for Health Statistics: Divorce rate in 2003 was 50% of the marriage rate
* 15% of men are awarded custody, unchanged since 1994 (see p. 1).
* As a matter of routine in family court, fathers are awarded four days a month visitation to see their children.
* Annual support payments increase 18% to $40 billion paid by 7.8 million separated parents, 6.6 million are fathers
* Up to $4.1 billion available to states that create support and arrearage orders, and then collect (see 6B, 6C, & 6D).
* Divorced/separated men commit suicide 400% more than women (see # 5, 15).

Further reading

* Dump Your Wife NOW! Blog – A blog united with the men’s movement. Thought provoking original articles on men’s liberation, masculism, as well as articles taking aim at radical feminism and the marriage strike.
* No Marriage – A case study against marriage to an American woman
* Why Men Won’t Commit: Exploring Young Men’s Attitudes About Sex, Dating and Marriage by Barbara Dafoe Whitehead PhD and David Popenoe PhD
* The Marriage No-Shows by Carey Roberts
* Have Anti-Father Family Court Policies Led to a Men’s Marriage Strike? By Glenn Sacks and Dianna Thompson
* Women Lose When Feminists Bash by Carey Roberts
* The Marriage Strike by Wendy McElroy
* Lysistrata Complete text of the play Lysistrata by Aristophanes
* Eternal Bachelor blog – The thoughts and musings of a man who has cheated a woman out of a divorce settlement.
* Stay Single, Young Man! – by Vox Day.
* Don’t Make Her Mad – Thwart the false pretext of a divorce (domestic violence/fear thereof) via surveillance of the false allegation.

Index: A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z

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  1. Fox News made the point that divorce is slavery for men.

    Comment by Dave — Tue 27th April 2010 @ 6:45 pm

  2. And this is a very interesting blog on the subject.

    Comment by Dave — Tue 27th April 2010 @ 6:47 pm

  3. I am victim to the these statistics, a woman unilateraly deciding to end a relationship, take child and block access, yet she was violent.

    I think marriages should be bound tighter and the act of walking away based on a few bad emotions needs to be curbed and prevented.

    How can a woman be prevented from acting out unilateraly. Perhaps some additions in a marriage contract that default main custody to the man should the woman decide to walk so easly. Not so easy to prove.

    I moved to China about a month ago to live with a Chinese lady and have to say what a wonderful experience. My heart is at one and we have talked about the future often.

    We will be getting married soon as we both are commited to a life long relationship and to never give up on each other.

    We have set 3 conditions for the only reason to part, one is negotiable, depending on circumstances.

    Constant violence (none negotiable)
    Cheating (maybe one chance)
    mental abuse and/or constant lies

    I have to say, the deep feelings, care and commitment is stronger than I imagined.

    I will never return to NZ. I now make a life here and raise a family of my own.

    Comment by Minbari — Tue 27th April 2010 @ 10:05 pm

  4. Thanks Dave for this special posting.
    I’m pleased to see you add the names of familiar Blogs that have fascinated and informed me for quite a while now.
    Finally we’re getting some traction with the idea of a marriage strike which is great to see.

    Congratualtions Minbari on escaping the misandric toxic wasteland of western ‘marriage’.

    “First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win.”
    — Mahatma Gandhi

    Comment by Skeptik — Tue 27th April 2010 @ 11:40 pm

  5. Hi Minbari, I think you answered while you asked.

    You ask, “How can a woman be prevented…..”.

    Then you answered.

    We have set 3 conditions for the only reason to part, one is negotiable, depending on circumstances.

    Constant violence (none negotiable)
    Cheating (maybe one chance)
    mental abuse and/or constant lies

    This is normal for second and third marriages although in NZ weight gain is also popular. I say third because often men and women take their baggage from the 1st into the 2nd and learn to let it go by the 3rd.

    I hope things work out for you.

    Comment by julie — Wed 28th April 2010 @ 12:10 am

  6. I find it very interesting that feminists keep deleting this page.
    They can’t have men discussing the cost/benefit/risk of marriage now can they.
    Anyone up for a battle on Wikipedia?

    Comment by Dave — Wed 28th April 2010 @ 12:43 pm

  7. Hey Dave,
    Here’s an idea – just drop the guys at Mensnewsdaily a line and I’m fairly confident they’ll take it up as a project.
    By the way I thought your posting on the marriage strike was great. Very comprehensive and loaded with great links for folks to follow.
    Feminists and chivalrists (often one and the same) can bury their heads in the sand, but as you so powerfully pointed out with the depth of men’s websites already linked to the issue the conversation is already underway.
    You can add to that list Angry Harry (for folks new to Harry I say don’t be put off by the name, if you check out any of his Youtube videos you’ll see he’s actually a pretty calm reasonable type of guy, a registered psychologist with a decades long interest in men’s issues too)

    Comment by Skeptik — Wed 28th April 2010 @ 4:09 pm

  8. Yes- the Wikipedia entry has been deleted repeatedly, and no longer exists.
    There is clearly a concerted attack on this knowledge
    A Google search on Marriage Strike finds a whole list of references
    which DO workincluding this one:

    Comment by John Brett — Thu 29th April 2010 @ 9:58 am

  9. I have placed an innocent and polite inquiry as to why the page was deleted before I re-create it. 😉

    Comment by Dave — Thu 29th April 2010 @ 11:49 am

  10. On the other hand I have yet to meet a woman in this country who actually wants to get married.
    The women I know want all of the trappings (a pretty wedding, house, kids etc) but do not want to become an equal partner in a marriage relationship, preferring to maintain their ‘individuality’ and ‘rights’ in spite of the bollocks spouted about love, loyalty and relationship during the wedding ceremony.

    Comment by Scott — Thu 29th April 2010 @ 3:07 pm

  11. Yes Scott – me too. (assuming you are referring to the 30+ age group). There are such women out there – but of course they are already married. They know what it takes to have a lasting relationship and so that is what they have. The single ones simply don’t have the qualities required.

    Have a look on some dating sites. You’ll see plenty of examples of NZ women who claim they want a long term relationship but also make a point of stating that they are ‘independent’. They may as well put up flashing red warning signs.

    Comment by Dave — Fri 30th April 2010 @ 11:45 am

  12. The following pages can NEVER be deleted by wikipedia.
    Get your copy of Men’s Rights Magazine (MRM) latest edition and the previous 3 deitions free here.

    Comment by Skeptik — Mon 3rd May 2010 @ 8:28 pm

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