Women are being barred from men’s health conference
A Men’s Health meeting has prevented women from taking part in a two-day conference on male suicide rates.
The National Council of Women supported the decision, saying it was about participants feeling they could open up.
The Human Rights Commission said there was nothing illegal or discriminatory in the way the conference was being promoted or held.
Barry Young, President of the Prostate Cancer Foundation of New Zealand told me that most enquiries they received for prostate came from women as wives and daughters. The lovely lady who organised the Men’s Health meeting in Waitakere told me (I wish I could remember her name because she does a huge amount of work for health) …. women were to be targeted for men’s health because women can make men go to the doctor.
Wairarapa suicide prevention coordinator Barry Taylor said women were excluded to encourage men to take responsibility for their own mental health. “Men’s mental health has been a hidden subject over many years. Part of the problem is that they don’t talk about their feelings and they don’t ask for help.”
Mr Taylor also said some women had asked to be part of the conference which is of no surprise because many women care about their partners, children and other male family members and male friends. But they were told “No”, they couldn’t attend.
Barry says, “So often men have delegated their emotional issues on to the women in their lives. It is vital that … we take responsibility for dealing with the issues.”
“Statistics show the urgency of the problem of depression, often fuelled by relationship breakups, alcohol and drug abuse, crime and antisocial behaviours. More than 500 people die by suicide every year but it is New Zealand men who are three times more likely to kill themselves than women across all ages and races.”Men were more reluctant to seek help or may dismiss the seriousness of their problem, he said.
I think it is excellent women have been asked to stay away. This is a men’s issue and only men can work out how men are to deal with this. I’m sure in time brochures will be available for women to read and there will be phone numbers for women to ask questions.
I agree – John Kirwan’s (sp?)work is great too. Just as an aside … if anyone on this site reading this ever suddenly starts to get a feeling they have never had before and are afraid that this will be what life will be like for the rest of your life – it won’t – go to the doctor. It will pass. Probably will start with sleeplessness and confusion – the ability to concentrate on anything. It will pass. It’s called depression and is common post-breakup.
I agree with the ban, except for media etc with no speaking rights. Women have long totally excluded men. There are “Honary men” women who have matured and express sense in a way men accept. Julie is one like this. Unfortunately for this group some chose to drive away an attendee. Some will hear what happened!
One could just as accurately say; often fueled by
marriageor often fueled by having children
Statistics show the urgency of the problem of depression, more often fueled by Family Court discrimination against fathers after a relationship breakup.
More than 500 people die by suicide every year but it is New Zealand men who are
threealmost four(3.8) times more likely to kill themselves than women across all ages and races.
Absolutely major life events can trigger it. Here’s the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale as copied from Wiki:
…just a little update…
Life event [followed by] Life change units
Family Court Misandry 299
Thank-you Angela. That’s very helpful IMO. Could you please provide the link? (URL)
julie, It’s a classic scale. I would rather you Googled “Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale” and found the links available yourself as this would give you a better idea of its validity.
Cheeky! I asked because it is polite to give a link when you quote someone else’s work.
Thank you Angela. While Wikipedia by it’s very nature is not absolute, it is none the less a good starting point.
I wouldn’t mind the web address for this, though with almost 30 emails yet to go through I may find it.
The following articles confirm your assertion that Wikipedia content is not absolute.
The National Post – Regarding Climategate & Wikipedia: The Climategate Emails reveal something else, too: the enlistment of the most widely read source of information in the world – Wikipedia – in the wholesale rewriting of this history. William Connelly was removed as a Wikipedia administrator although Wikipedia normally takes no stance in disputes about Wikipedia content or administration. Wikipedia cites Mr Connelly’s cyberbullying for his dismissal rather than his wholesale rewriting of history (5,428 articles) by his cohorts and himself.
The Wikipedia page where Angela copied her information from: Holmes and Rahe stress scale
Thank you for this.
As a scale it is quite useful, so long as it is not treated as an absolute.
Before I heard of this scale, I made my own, at a time when dealing with a cobination of stressors (lost my home, lost my business, lost all my posessions, had to leave my family, had been clinically depressed for 3 yrs, just the usual stuff that blokes go through).
Each day I would score the biggest stressors on an arbitrary scale of 1-10, and add them. If the total came to more than about 50, then I was unfit to achieve anything, so had to deal with one or two items to reduce the score. I even used to do “emotional weather forecasts” to help schedule things.
The big surprise to me was when I realized that the marriage was OVER- that I no longer had to try to hold it all together- that I no longer had to put up with all the rubbish-
My stressors fell away, and I was able to start to rebuild.
So- for me:
DIVORCE= not negative 73 + separation negative 65, but POSITIVE about 500
So- the sale is good as a guide, but in no way are the values absolutes for everybody.
Thank you for your pleasant greeting. Agreed regarding the scale. Sheilas have some usual stuff to go through themselves. I had a friend whose scale revolved around whether she could remember where she had parked her car at the subway station that morning – there were probably 75 to 100 red Honda Civics in the huge car park 🙂
A frequent commenter on men’s rights going by the penname ‘Irlandes’ often recounts how excluding women (usually second wives or current girlfriends) from a divorced men’s group that he ran resulted in the suicide rate of the group dropping to zero. He speaks a great deal about the dynamics of group situations where women are present, and offers some interesting ideas about why suicide amongst men remains stubbornly high when women are part of the discussion. Of course, it would only be another opinion among many if he hadn’t actually excluded women and seen the difference.
Unfortunately I can’t recall where he last made this argument, but I know he’s made it many times and it’ll show up in multiple places if someone’s keen enough with Google.