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Women don’t do as much housework as men.

Filed under: General — Vman @ 11:47 am Tue 3rd August 2010

Women wash the care less often:

Then there are the lawns, the garden, the rubbish, repairs, fixing the car, etc etc.


  1. That is a big truth that no one wants to admit. Every woman I know is so lazy that the concept of housework is completely alien. They are very good at manipulating and harassing men into doing the work for them. That is not the same thing as doing the work themselves. But they think it is, which is why there seems to be some misconceptions on the part of women about what housework is and who does it.

    Comment by Darryl X — Tue 3rd August 2010 @ 1:01 pm

  2. A normal couple will share the chores and not take note of who has done what or who has done more this time.

    Comment by Scott B — Tue 3rd August 2010 @ 2:51 pm

  3. I hear you on that.
    When my marriage broke up a wise old woman that I would put a lot of faith in her observations on life said to me “well its to be expected of all these housewives and stay at home mums in this day and age. They have so much time on their hands and nothing to do with it. Of course theyre going to go bad”
    Im not knocking stay at home parents and in fact think the Govt should allow more iniatives like income splitting etc to allow a parent to be home with children specially pre school and also afternoons home for the child when they get in from school. But the down side to this is what does the stay at home parent do to fill their time?
    I have heard all the wailing from predominantly the women who post here as to what a huge job it is and so time consuming and undervalued blah blah blah but in reality I have done it, and the biggest issue I found was Boredom. I can run a house with children and still have everything done by midday most days. And thats with school aged children and keeping the house neat as a pin all the jobs plus the lawns, the garden, the rubbish, repairs, fixing the car, etc etc.
    Most modern household devices are so automated that there is hardly any labour left in them, washing machine, sort load twist and pull the knob (older model I havent bought the new model you just push buttons on) Job done. Vacuum cleaner, disposable bags effiecient suction just walk behing one handed, washing windows modern cleaners and telescopic self soaping brushes a doddle
    Cooking is a breeze in a modern kitchen I mean c’mon.
    Most of the guys I know (there are a couple of exceptions) run rings around women when it comes to housework.

    Comment by mits — Tue 3rd August 2010 @ 3:11 pm

  4. I always have a good smirk when I see ‘research’ and articles such as Lois Cairns’ recent little rant on StuffNZ news website which tries to demonize men as being lazy slackers and glamorize women as domestic superheroes who pick up the slack.
    For several years I job shared with my ex-wife. We took it in turns with my ex-wife to work at home caring for my son whilst the other was doing the job outside the home. The stay at home childcare + vacuuming, dusting, clothes washing, cooking and shopping was fairly routine relatively easy stuff. What was much more difficult were the other physically heavier and more intellectually challenging domestic chores folks like Lois Cairns overlook – house and car repair and maintenance, furniture building and restoration, landscaping and gardening, providing household security, dealing with an unappreciative wife who was morally supported by a toxic male shaming feminist culture.

    Comment by Skeptik — Tue 3rd August 2010 @ 4:34 pm

  5. I agree with Scott B, that reasonable people will share reasonably. I don’t know whether reasonable is still normal however.

    The problem comes from ingrained sterotypes- “of course SHE would have to do your laundry, cook your meals, raise your children etc” which is often FAR from the truth.
    Often, people will refuse to talk to a MAN about things that they think are a WOMAN’S DOMAIN- the worst example I can remember is a school councellor who tried to explain to my child “What your father is trying to say is….” as if I never talked to my children.

    If I was applying for custody, I am sure that these predjudices would work against me.

    I see no reason to tolerate such disrespect now.

    Comment by John Brett — Wed 4th August 2010 @ 12:14 pm

  6. i can hear the complaints of how hard the laundry was to do while they sat there drinking coffee listening to the machine do all the work…her running round screaming how lazy every1 is so they all get up to do something and at the end of the day they have done nothing but scream thier tits off at all and sundry..and the hardest part of cooking is peeling the spuds…then the sob stories about being used and abused…wah wah wah

    Comment by Ford — Wed 4th August 2010 @ 6:42 pm

  7. It’s not exactly a hard job if you can do it in your pyjamas !

    Comment by golfa — Wed 4th August 2010 @ 11:05 pm

  8. I ma not aware of many “normal” couples. Most, if not all, couples I know involve the woman harassing the shit out of her husband about him doing the housework, when she could actually invest her time helping and doing some herself. This behavior reflects the addiction of women to power and control (and sex), believing that their only contribution to a marriage is spreading her legs once in a while as a favor and the man does all the rest of the work. Most men I know are not addicted to the neurotransmitters associated with sex (some unfortunately are), so that is not a big motivating factor in how much housework men do. The most important motivating factor is threat of divorce and loss of children and financial ruin and imprisonment. Men in the US are literally slaves to women and that has always been the case with or without the laws enabling women’s addiction to power and control. Now that there are laws that actually enable her addiction, the men have no choices.

    Comment by Darryl X — Thu 5th August 2010 @ 11:42 pm

  9. There is a basic misunderstanding about housework that needs cleaning up.

    It’s relation to horniness and its nurturance.

    For him, foreplay is fraught with problems. Men prefer 30 to 45 Seconds of foreplay, less if at all possible. For the man, driving back to her place is considered a part of foreplay.

    No woman understands why this is.

    One has to understand what is considered as foreplay by women.

    With the pressures on gender relations today, she is desperate. In our frenetic age where ‘variety’ is shouted from every screen, she seeks stability in the mundane.

    Housework is, to her, erotic.

    Women prefer 30 to 45 Minutes of foreplay, in addition to a bubbly spa with Champagne and dinner out; AND if she is in a ‘relationship’, the usual source of all these studies that have women complaining that he never does enough, him doing the washing up, vacuuming, putting out the rubbish and mowing the lawn.

    As well as grocery shopping, washing & ironing, putting up shelves and re-arranging the furniture. She loves it when the furniture moves around at her command.

    And begging.

    This adds another 12 hours on average to his workload; sometimes a whole week. (Mean 12 hours, S.D. 5 days). Yes, he can never do enough.

    It is a mystery to him why these things didn’t turn her on when she was single and did them all herself. (Apart from the begging)

    She “needs” to be turned on to, and by, him, each time, generally with some effort and elbow grease on his part.

    The housework never ends but waits until the afterglow of her last orgasm wears off. Usually about ten minutes.

    She expects him to be turned on to her all the time she’s there. Only her. Not the hem of any old dress, which she wants him to mend anyway, and iron. Not by any other female. Not by his own hormones. By Her. And the washing up.

    He is to be totally disinterested in sex any time she is out of his sight, and when she is out of the house or out of her sight he must be mopping the bathroom in preparation.

    He has to initiate. He has to reach out to her, be sexually adventurous, interesting, open, inventive and daring. And have the ironing done, the cutlery polished and the pantry shelves all emptied, cleaned and the items rearranged with the tall items at the back, short items at the front.

    “Pantries before Panties” is what she learned from her mother.

    She wants to be ‘taken’. First to the new shelves and then to watch him re-arrange the nick-knacks on the mantlepiece to raise her to fever-pitch.

    Then it comes to tidying and rearranging his mind.

    She sees sex as a form of ‘communication’. She wants to know his most secret sexual thoughts. His history and experience with other women. His fantasies.

    She wants him to ‘Talk to her’. She wants to know what he is thinking as he is cleaning the stove; what special washing cycles did these other women like.

    He is reluctant. He wants to avoid this. He thinks she will not like it.

    So, he asks for her secret thoughts, fantasies, history etc., too, to head it off.


    She lists between 170 and 500 (approx) men who all ‘pursued her relentlessly‘ cleaning fluids and rubber gloves in hand, and to whom some she ‘gave in to’, was ‘swept away’ by, or was ‘forced to do it for /to him’, and were all either fantastic in bed or total jerks who wilted at those difficult corners and stairs.

    Her fantasies are few and involve a 19th Century, Crinoline, a hooped dress and a fan. Mops and buckets feature for many women. Harpsichords and Lutes have been mentioned in some of the more exotic women’s admissions. She doesn’t have any sexual thoughts at all unless she’s with him; and they are about herself and Jiffy Cloths. She does not use a single rude word. She swears it’s the truth.

    He believes her. He tells her. All. The truth, too.

    He confesses about all three women he has ‘known’ and scrubbed for and even the one whose name he doesn’t remember any more who had the upright hoover. And the little red-headed girl in his third grade class that he adored from afar and never spoke to.

    To be fair.

    She hates them. Scrubbers.

    Her eyes narrow.

    He tells of his fantasies. They often involve several people, some entirely fictitious. They are quite focused on sexual pleasure with a lot of grinning and moaning. And in many forms, all ending with very satisfied smiles and exhaustion all around. They are a visual and verbal feast of body parts.

    And sweat.

    And other fluids.

    She hates him.

    None are antiseptic fluids.

    He talks ‘dirty’. But he never mentions washing the sheets and changing the pillow-cases. She reaches for the tissue box and berates him for ‘hiding’ it deliberately in a drawer.

    The more initiating, adventurous, daring, interesting, inventive, communicative, open and reaching out to her he is, the more ‘demanding’, ‘needy’ or ‘perverted’ he is likely to be considered.

    That means an extra two weeks of Ajax and Mr Clean for him.

    For him, foreplay is more than just very complicated.

    It is terrifying. And friggin’ exhausting.

    Comment by amfortas — Sat 7th August 2010 @ 4:53 pm

  10. OMG, Amfortas. You are brilliant in both your observation of housework as an expression of foreplay and in your expression of it literally. Yes, women are addicted to the neurotransmitters associated with control, power and sex. And they cannot distinguish sex from power and control. And when they can manipulate a man into polishing the silver (so to speak), then this IS foreplay and they love it. Mmmmm. Nothing like polishing the silver. I did not realize this disposition at first, but learned it over time. When in absolute control, women are very happy. The problem is that it takes more and more control to satisfy the addiction to neurotransmitters as habituation sets in. Wow, you nailed it. Brilliant observation. So, extrapolating from your observations above, our present circumstances under feminism are simply a demonstration of foreplay and at some point in time, all us men can expect a great big orgy. Let’s hope sooner than later. You are absolutely brilliant. And I’m not being sarcastic. You’re interpretation here is spot on. Wow. It’s something more people need to be aware of.

    Comment by Darryl X — Sun 8th August 2010 @ 1:19 am

  11. Yes very funny, i first read it in over 2 years ago, i liked it then too

    Comment by BigEddy — Sun 8th August 2010 @ 1:50 am

  12. Thank you Darryl and Big Ed.

    Yes it is an oldie of mine. I keep adding to it. 🙂

    It is actually from a very much longer ‘book’ that I wrote some years ago entitled, ‘WMD – Weapons of Mass Distraction’ which detailed the findings of the UN – Iraqi Weapons Inspectors as it would have been written if their brief had been about everyday terrorism between the sexes. It has over forty chapters, (some of which I drop part of onto MRM sites from time to time), each one a specific aspect of female behaviours which infuriate men and a few male behaviours that infuriate women.

    It also has some rather erotic illustrations !!

    The real ‘Butler Report’ (Richard Butler was later the Governor of Tasmania) was never released to the public. It wasn’t as funny as mine.

    Comment by amfortas — Sun 8th August 2010 @ 2:24 am

  13. Where can I get a copy of your book? Lots of copies. I know lots of men would appreciate it. It will make a great Christmas gift for man. There are even some women I would love to send it to. Of course, I’ll probably be arrested and sent to the slammer. But the contents of your book sound absolutely priceless.

    Comment by Darryl X — Sun 8th August 2010 @ 2:43 am

  14. A gift that keeps on giving.

    Comment by Darryl X — Sun 8th August 2010 @ 2:43 am

  15. It still exists on my HD in ‘Word’ format, and a couple of file copies are floating around the world. It isn’t the sort of thing that would get published.

    But of course if someone wanted to…. and gave me 50% ….

    Comment by amfortas — Sun 8th August 2010 @ 2:55 am

  16. Don’t be so sure. I think it would really strike a cord. You should try and publish.

    Comment by Darryl X — Sun 8th August 2010 @ 5:44 am

  17. Re Amfortas book, beware, the modern woman is a multi headed beast. Some of them deliberately hog the housework as they have no connection with their children, but it sounds interesting, electronic publishing is usually free, you may need a good publishing company/website, an editor who will just make it easy to read, and a few good publicity tricks, but don’t be put off by the idea that no-one would read it, blog it, you’ll see!

    Comment by Real Kiwi — Sun 8th August 2010 @ 1:41 pm

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