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Filed under: General — triassic @ 2:07 pm Tue 21st May 2013

Having been deprived of the pleasure of active fatherhood by the State I was pleased to see that I am now able to ensure a more secure opportunity of fathering a child into adulthood. All I need do is enter a marriage with another man and adopt. Should we ever part company and the matter of access go before a court I could then be sure that I would be treated as an equal parent.

I started looking for a partner as soon as the law was passed but my problem of sexual attraction has dogged me. I approached social welfare with my problem and was offered funding to undergo aversion therapy. For two weeks I was forced to read hundreds of affidavit’s from females wishing to destroy their male partner. At night I was made to sleep with headphones delivering speeches from third wave women’s rights groups. My room had full length posters of Helen Clarke, Judge Somerville and Louise Nicholas, however this had no effect. The State is very keen to offer me funding to have a full sex change but, alas, that will not assist me to become a homosexual.

Being an active father and experiencing the joy of raising my children is an integral component for the meaning of life to me so i am at my wits end. Has anyone any ideas of who or what might help me?


  1. You could always get the sex change, become a ‘womyn’, hook up with another womyn and then get massive of state support as a lesbian who either adopts or gets some schmuk to give you some sperm.
    You can then sucker the silly sap for 18 years of child support/tax too all the while wallowing in affluent (by global standards) self pitying ‘victimhood’.

    Comment by Skeptic — Tue 21st May 2013 @ 2:55 pm

  2. When the family court deals with heterosexual couples it makes decisions about a caring parent and a paying parent. Why would you assume, that the court would treat homosexual couples equally and not according to the law.

    Comment by Down Under — Tue 21st May 2013 @ 3:00 pm

  3. 32.. easy answer.. becuase both are females..they wouldn’t know what to do..

    Comment by kiranjiharr — Tue 21st May 2013 @ 3:24 pm

  4. #2 Down Under you have a better sense of humour than me. I also thought the Law played a part in the court system. Judge McHardy ruled in my case in favour of my child’s mother for a relocation. I was therefore denied any chance of equal shared access. As a part of that application the mother put a strong case forward that she was Catholic (not when she was with me) and wanted the child to go to a catholic school. Her lawyer was smart. McHardy granted that as well thereby depriving me from having a say in my child’s religion. I later was to learn that McHardy is a fanatical Catholic (and other things that i wont mention here). In my opinion he should have removed himself from my case due to conflict of interest. The truth is that Family Law is badly written, whether that is deliberate or not is inconsequential, and Judges have no problem at all in circumnavigating it.

    Comment by triassic — Tue 21st May 2013 @ 6:10 pm

  5. Nice one triassic I will marry u as long as Im not the letter box.

    You need one more poster of Sue Bradford she is the poster child of why society is such a basket case. I reckon I will be your man then.

    Comment by Ritche — Tue 21st May 2013 @ 6:33 pm

  6. I have to be careful not to let it out too often it usually – that would just be cruel.

    Comment by Down Under — Tue 21st May 2013 @ 6:52 pm

  7. marry you mate, adopt twins then seperate and both go on the dpb as you will have one child each

    Comment by craig — Wed 22nd May 2013 @ 3:37 pm

  8. craig,
    that sounds a bit like the lesbian couple I knew in Thames. They had a kid each, both were on the DPB, they lived right next door to each other in state provided houses and use to pop next door for a quickie when the fancy too them. Each had a car and the Coromandel beaches and coffee house for their daily holidays whilst the state provided free daycare for their kids. They even used to brag about it openly. Not a bad gig if you can swing it (sorry about the poor pun there) and live with yourself.

    Comment by Skeptic — Wed 22nd May 2013 @ 4:49 pm

  9. Hey Craig that sounds bloody attractive to me; however, that kind of devious inventive thinking can only come from a troll feminist. I have no doubt that if i take you up on the offer you will dissapear. Be honest, you work with woman’s refuge or the ribbon bunch don’t you? Or maybe your a Family Court judge trying to inflict more pain. You bastards just can’t stop your sadistic ways.

    If you are the real deal Craig answer the following question….. After 3 years together we separate. I owned my own home before I met you and we live in it. We don’t get a prenup I just trust that you have integrity.
    Do you-

    1. Demand half the value of my home because the Law allows you to?

    2. Keep your integrity intact and thank me for giving you free accomodation for 3 years and we depart with a child each and be friends?

    Comment by triassic — Wed 22nd May 2013 @ 4:59 pm

  10. Triassic, That question was my life a few years back, I lost half my house,kiwi saver car etc, fought throught the Family COurts to have access to my son and ending up getting shared care where I have him 60% of the time. I Now pay $250 every week in child support. All I was saying in previous post was the system can be worked around and exploited.

    Comment by craig — Thu 23rd May 2013 @ 10:28 am

  11. I hear you Craig…… my response to you was a facetious one. The Family Court
    is based on devious and pernicious ideology. One can only fight fire
    With fire. Good on you for getting 60%.

    Comment by triassic — Thu 23rd May 2013 @ 1:47 pm

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