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Petition to stop International Violence Against Women Act

Filed under: Domestic Violence — JohnPotter @ 8:33 pm Mon 25th November 2013

This past Thursday a radical member of the United States Congress introduced the International Violence Against Women Act. Yes, I-VAWA has all the shameful biases!

Help us put a stop to I-VAWA and sign the petition:

Please share with friends in your country and across the globe. We must, and we will stop I-VAWA!

E. Everett Bartlett, PhD, President
Stop Abusive and Violent Environments (SAVE)
SAVE is a 501(c)3 victim-advocacy organization working for evidence-based solutions to domestic violence and sexual assault.


  1. There is a brief overview of I-VAWA on Wikipedia.

    Comment by Downunder — Tue 26th November 2013 @ 11:11 am

  2. Signed the petition. 🙂

    Comment by kumar — Tue 26th November 2013 @ 12:54 pm

  3. MY letter to the NZ Childrens Commissioner in response to his Open letter to NZ men – NZ herald yesterday.
    Feel free to send him your thoughts…..

    Email: [email protected]

    Attention: Children’s Commissioner – Russell Wills.

    I refer to your article in the NZ Herald today and I agree with your comments.

    However I must ask you – what causes men to react violently towards women?

    What is more harmful – Physical violence or Psychological harm to a child?

    You will see my answer to point 1 at the end of this letter.

    May I suggest in my point 2 that both Physical violence and Psychological harm is equally harmful to children. Yet we are NOT placing any effort in dealing with or preventing Psychological harm to children which in many cases is a life long concern for the effected child.

    I have been through the family court system – ten years of nothing but despair and inaction by the system good parents go to for HELP.

    I had two expectations of the family court which offers HELP to parents.

    1. That my rights to parent my child would be upheld.
    2. That my child would be protected from Harm – both physical and psychological.

    After ten years of doing EVERYTHING I was asked to do by the family court, I have not seen a single positive result. Why is this so?

    I have evidence of lawyers for child watching a child ( his client ) be harmed = psychologically and when questioned as to why he did not intervene – his reply was – NOT MY JOB, Im only here to protect process.

    I refused to react to the tremendous PROVOCATION which is leveled at GOOD parents. I had my integrity, my character and reputation attacked with impunity and without consequence for those who made the false allegations.

    I spent a fortune defending my name, lost a business and all the good I was doing in my life – doing the right thing.

    So having not reacted to provocation, having not committed a single act of Violence towards anyone – child or mother – I have still nothing positive to say about the family court system – in fact my evidence tends to support the consensus that the Family court and its officers are the catalyst for VIOLENCE and CONFLICT – because they do NOTHING to help prevent it.

    I obtained at huge cost and time – court orders detailing the Time I was to have with my own child – and when I asked for those orders to be enforced – CYF refused to help me, the Police refused to help me, the courts refused to enforce their own court order.

    So where do good people go, when the very system they go to for help – refuse to help in any way?

    In fact they deliberately refuse to address Parental Alienation at any level. A massive cause of conflict between parents. I submitted affidavit after affidavit identifying this concern to the family court and NOTHING was ever done to help me or protect my child from this harm in any way.

    My child has TWO psychological reports detailing the Severe Psychological harm caused to her by the MOTHER. And NOTHING has been done about this to this day.

    The mother has refused to comply with court orders because there is no consequence and no one is interested in helping enforce these orders for the GOOD parent. Usually the Father – the man is the effected party here.

    I have been married for ten years to a loving wife, with two other children who are also deprived of time with the effected child.

    I am a calm reasonable good person – and I can tell you directly – there have been times when it would have been EASIER to take the law into my own hands which would have ended in violence – which seems to me to be the only path many good parents are deliberately led down.

    Sadly I can relate to why MANY do resort to taking the law into their own hands in the current environment.

    They are left with NO OTHER CHOICE.

    Until you address the causes, there will not be any change to the current concerns, least of all when the very systems we go to for help are refusing at all levels to actually help good people in times of distress.

    If someone is harming your child are you going to stand around and NOT protect them?


    Comment by hornet — Tue 26th November 2013 @ 2:26 pm

  4. Can’t say it plainer than that, hornet !

    Comment by golfa — Tue 26th November 2013 @ 3:07 pm

  5. Golfa, good to hear from you, I just spent a good half an hour on the phone with the Commissioners office – and gave them every detail –

    Until they actually get the lawyers and the family courts to DO THEIR JOB – and help parents see their own kids, they are going to see more and more BAD PARENTS get a biff for not handing over the kids to the parent who deserves to see them…..

    Parental alienation – deal with it and watch the CONFLICT decline – but the wankers in the justice system will not do that, because it will effect their BUSINESS…….

    Comment by hornet — Tue 26th November 2013 @ 3:23 pm

  6. @Hornet Your letter is wasting away as a comment.

    This should be put up in a post so that it is visible both to passers-by and regular readers. That would also show publicly that the issue has been put on their plate and would allow others to add any further contributions and updates.

    You’ve gone to a lot of effort to do this – it deserves to be a post.

    Comment by Downunder — Wed 27th November 2013 @ 6:49 am

  7. Dear Hornet, the familycaught$ milks cases until the money is exhausted, or on occasion cases may complete properly when public exposure leads to them being sorted out in accordance with legislation.

    If you are displaying remaining wealth, then it would be quite unreasonable to expect your case to reach a sensible conclusion.

    (2) You could keep on throwing money at it, good money after bad, as they say.

    (3) You could “run out of money”, as seen by the world and then it is likely to get sorted fairly quickly.

    Which of these 3 options suits you better?

    Sorry if it looks like I am being blunt. I suggest that parents who deal with familycaught$ in good faith, (given what happens in secret in familycaught$) are showing a serious lack of love and care for their children. MurrayBacon.

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Wed 27th November 2013 @ 9:26 am

  8. 6. Downunder post where you think fit, I am not sure how to do it so best you place it where you think it will get the best attention.

    This is a real issue = it is one of the causes as to why NOTHING gets done in family court and its why so many good parents – particularly MEN end up VICTIMS – because they are DRIVEN to violence….

    7. Murray – I have no idea what you are rambling on about – are you responding to my email direct to you or are you responding to my post above?

    All I can say is like many good parents – I tried to do what was right and just for my child and got NO help – you can call that wasting money = but at the time I was more interested in trying to PROTECT my child at any cost by performing diligently all the family court asked of me – the disgust I have now is it would have been easier and obviously less expensive to just take the law into my own hands = because that is my point now = doing the RIGHT thing gets you NO WHERE – and until that is exposed NOTHING will change for the common good of parents and children.

    SO my choices then would have been by your reasoning – do I want to be branded as a violent and aggressive man forever – but at least I got some result and tried to protect my child by taking action physically when the public services refused to help, and as a result I would as you suggest be somewhat financially richer for it – or should I spend money and get nothing in return – child harmed and my rights removed – yes my reputation is intact, and I dont have violence orders or protection orders against me and I am significantly financially worse off.

    Those two options and choices seem to be what is on the table for good parents as lawyers protect this business they have created.

    Comment by hornet — Wed 27th November 2013 @ 10:42 am

  9. Murray – is this not also part of the overall argument – it matters not whether you do everything right, dont react violently in an way and or spend money or not – parents are not getting the most basic HELP they go to the system expecting.

    Comment by hornet — Wed 27th November 2013 @ 10:59 am

  10. Dear hornet, you are exactly right, unfortunately.

    If you remember Kay Skelton’s abduction of Jayden. It was only sorted out for Jayden’s interest, when it was publicly exposed. Chris Jones had spent a fraction of a $million, without any success, because everyone knew that he still had access to more money.

    In essence, I am accusing him of child abuse, for displaying his wealth in front of people like these. Similarly, I have seen women with good incomes ripped off, just as seriously. I don’t see it as sex prejudice, just incompetent, lazy, cowardly thievery. Is there any honour among thieves?

    familycaught$ and all of our caught$ are mental hospitals, where even the staff can’t get competent treatment for their problem behaviours.

    familycaught$ only hurts people who take it seriously.

    Legal workers are trained, experienced and successful at billing people. Do any of them have any knowledge relevant to protecting children, or vulnerable people?

    I have read through a decade’s worth of family law conferences. Out of about 100 papers, a couple covered some child protection issues. Buzzwords, but little knowledge that would help to do the job, to serve any of their customer’s interests, leave alone children’s. If anyone would like to check on my comment, I can assist. One lawyer wrote a pretty good paper, but his income is largely from CYFs. I haven’t seen him actually applying this knowledge.

    If we pay them to abuse us, surely we can’t complain when they do what we pay them to do to us?

    Does a judge create work for appointing more judges, by sorting out a family problem, or by prolonging it?

    We don’t supervise the nature or the quality of their work. The only possible conclusion is that we don’t care about the quality of their work. True whether we consider Parliament, or society.

    I have read a district court judge criticising an employer, who in hard economic times had cut out auditing of his accounts. When the bookkeeper succumbed to the temptation, with gambling problems, the judge criticised the company owner for his negligence contributing to the crime.

    The same goes for Parliament, just trusting judges, without competently checking up on their performance. Judges say that they are a self disciplining group. It just has never happened.

    Their isn’t a real business in the country, that doesn’t to some extent check on the quality of the work that they do. Parliament doesn’t check on familycaught$ performance, principal familycaught$ judge doesn’t check on judge’s performance. Judicial Complaints Hider doesn’t check on the quality of their work. Compare that to the monitoring of health practitioners, drivers, school teachers, plumbers, electricians, engineers, real estate agents, financial advisors. Sex workers and legal workers are the two honourable professions that run without performance checks. (Lawyers have disease checks, but not performance checks.)

    bashier said that he looked into parental suicide, but what did he DO, apart from saying business as usual at a funeral?

    Why don’t we pay familycaught$ judges, by the quality of their performance, not just theatrically, but in terms of protecting vulnerable people, men, women and children? We could have better outcomes and lower costs to all parties too. Lets dynamite the cobwebs off the judicial oath….

    Cheers, Murray.

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Wed 27th November 2013 @ 12:04 pm

  11. Hornet, it is your letter, so you would have to post it as an author.

    Comment by Downunder — Wed 27th November 2013 @ 12:07 pm

  12. Hornet, you need register as an author to make Posts as downunder is suggesting.

    The link to the registration form is on this page: – I will approve you as soon as I notice.

    When you are registered and logged in, you will see a admin bar at the top of every page with “+New”.

    Comment by JohnPotter — Wed 27th November 2013 @ 2:59 pm

  13. It would be interesting if genuine heartfelt letters like this were posted as a condemnation of feminist governance rather than artificially constructed objections to their principles.

    Comment by Downunder — Sun 1st December 2013 @ 9:46 pm

  14. #3 hornet referred to this letter:

    Open letter: to the men of NZ whose violent behaviour is damaging their children

    His letter is curious psychologically. He is appealing to incompetent fathers to give themselves up. What a stupid and pious hope. As ineffective as asking incompetent familycaught$ judges to give themselves up.

    The history of maintaining skills levels, in professions, shows that it always has to be done by someone who has the relevant skills and is able to assess these skills in others.

    Not a single familycaught$ judge has ever resigned due to incompetence, or even been “retrained”. They don’t need any training in the first place anyway, so how could they be retrained???

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Mon 2nd December 2013 @ 7:14 am

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