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Roast Busters and the throw away dad

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 9:16 am Sat 9th November 2013

I would like to focus on what lead these boys (not men as the media first suggested becasue they were 15 and 16 at the time) and to a lesser extent the girls to the situation they find themselves in today. The mere fact the girl drank until she was drunk and boys posting a video on line is testimony the boys thought at the time it was funny or they were proud of their actions.

Before writing this next bit I am going to state I am guessing these kids didn’t have a caring dad in their lives. Were the boys from a solo parent family? What sort of up bring did they have? Did the mothers of these boys or girls even had a dad to begin with?

In a traditional well balanced family by the time a kid reaches 13 they should have had direct life examples of what society considers acceptable behaviour.

The advancement of making divorce so quick and easy to obtain, having fatherless children indeed worthwhile financially beneficial to woman has to have some side effects. And this is one of them.

Moving on to Willie Jackson and John Tamihere. To question a female friend of the girls what lead up to the teens behaving in this manor is a good thing as we don’t want to hear the story half way through. We want to hear it from the beginning and good journalism looks at all angles.

So lawmakers and people of New Zealand and the rest of the OECD don’t expect fantastic teenagers to derive from the acceptable throw away dad syndrome actively encouraged today.
The rights of any baby, kid or teen should be to have active involvement with their dad. Mucking around with this creates so many of the problems we have today.


  1. 24th anniversary of UN Convention on Rights of the Child.

    In a brief statement UN representative Dennis McKinlay uses the Roast Busters case to take a swing at New Zealand’s inadequate response to the needs of children.

    Today is the 24th anniversary of the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child.

    UNICEF wants to honour this by putting a spotlight on violence against children in New Zealand.

    UNICEF NZ Director Dennis McKinlay says the recent Roast Busters scandal is evidence of the country’s inadequacy to deal with sexual abuse.

    He says more needs to be done to bring abuse out of the shadows, but praises child help line 0800 What’s Up, which celebrates its 10th anniversary today.

    What’s Up deals with over 100,000 calls a year from children in need.

    Comment by Downunder — Wed 20th November 2013 @ 10:49 am

  2. I agree with Dennis successive NZ govt’s have not honored UNCROC.
    The Family Court Matters Bill was passed and offered some really good initatives that were never implemented and will not be under Ms Collins current reforms.
    I also agree with Mr McKinlay that the What’s Up charity offers a great service to children with 0800 phone counselling. I think it is Barnardoes that is behind What’s Up.

    Comment by Allan Harvey — Wed 20th November 2013 @ 1:25 pm

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