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A mention of thanks to two fine women.

Filed under: General — anon @ 5:12 am Fri 15th August 2014

Three years ago I was newly separated in auckland and I joined the single parents trust. I wanted to see how other parents remained close to thier children after separation.
I found support and new friendships and the experience was extremely rewarding. My daughter and I joined in many exiting activities, well organised and without a shred of gender indiference.
An organisation where dads are valued and I highly reccomend it to any single parents.
Julie Whitehouse runs the single parents trust and regularly contributes to topics on this site.
I truely admire Julie as I wonder just how many other men she has helped.
THANKYOU ! Julie Whitehouse. ,

Another fine woman is Lee-Anne Cartier.
She is the sister of phil nisbit who was murdered by his wife helen milner.
Nz police had botched the investigation.
Cartier was tenacious and committed and after huge expence and effort managed to get the case reopened and Milner put to trial.
What a fantastic woman that she took on nz police and refused to be told to go away.
Her brother was murdered and she stood up.and got busy!
Nz police had written it all off as just another male suicide.
Lee-Anne Cartier…has changed the course of history and she did it, not just for her brother , but for all men who mightve been milners next victim.
Lee-Anne Cartier, Lee-Anne Cartier, Lee-Anne Cartier !
Im just so impressed with her!,

Feel free to add yours to the list ive started.


  1. I thought I would drop by and see what you dedicated men are up to. Oh my gosh, what a fabulous gift you give. Thank you very much.

    I hear journalists, etc, saying, “I only hear bad. I never hear good”. It seems people have abundant energy to complain but giving a compliment that motivates is too much trouble. Seriously, you need to be cloned, IMO. 🙂

    You have passed on a lot of energy to me. Again, thank you.

    Comment by julie — Fri 15th August 2014 @ 3:06 pm

  2. I am embarrassed to say that I am at a loss with pseudonyms, dunnuffinwrong. I am guessing who you are, of course, but now that I know you personally, I am excited because we are working the same. Can you please contact me at [email protected]

    Comment by julie — Fri 15th August 2014 @ 3:17 pm

  3. Hi yes id thought youd figure it out ,Julie.
    Yes ill email ya soon.
    And you are absolutely correct… im at a loss with a su-dun-em myself lately.

    Comment by dunnuffinwrong — Fri 15th August 2014 @ 5:30 pm

  4. @unnuffinwrong

    Who’s the MP you’re taking about in your comment on the other post?

    Comment by Downunder — Fri 15th August 2014 @ 5:45 pm

  5. Long time ago I was in the unfortunate position of being a solo Dad of two daughters and with a full time job. There were many people both male and female who helped me during those difficult times. My thanks to all of those and to Julie and Lee-anne [who ever they are, I don’t know them] for helping people in this mixed up world of ours. People can be very supportive, let us never forget that. For myself living in a rural situation there was no group or organisation but people still helped. Give thanks for people of good will.

    Comment by andrew — Sun 17th August 2014 @ 2:34 pm

  6. Hi Julie…thanks for your “Very” comforting words….which also made me momentarily a bit emotional

    Comment by kumar — Mon 18th August 2014 @ 12:30 pm

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