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Silent Victims – violence by women against men

Filed under: Domestic Violence — JohnPotter @ 1:50 pm Mon 16th November 2015

There was an excellent article on domestic violence published in the Weekend Australian on Saturday:
Silent Victims: both mothers and fathers can be violent – by Bettina Arndt.

She writes:

Yet where the anti-male bias reaches its zenith is in the current witch hunt over domestic violence. In their determination to promote what is a very serious social problem – some men’s violence towards their partners – the zealots controlling public debate on this issue are absolutely determined to allow no muddying of the waters. Violence by women is dismissed as irrelevant, violence against men is routinely ignored or seen as amusing.


  1. Her assessment of current politically incorrect ignorance is absolutely correct. Politicians cause these problems. Export them all to Christmas Island especially that pony-tail pulling flag waving idiot on the 9th floor.

    Comment by JONO — Mon 16th November 2015 @ 2:14 pm

  2. JONO,

    I know it is called Christian’s Island, but is there enough space to put all of the bigoted christians there?

    It is a bit sad if society will only listen on the topic of protecting men from bullying and abuse, if a woman says it?

    Bettina Arndt’s article can also be read at the 1 in 3 website (Greg Andresen Men’s Health Australia).

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Wed 18th November 2015 @ 11:57 am


    A baby’s father cried for help – but his pleas went unheeded. Talia Shadwell revisits the anatomy of a tragedy that shattered Jerone Ngaronoa’s life as part of a special investigation into New Zealand’s child homicide record.

    Comment by Downunder — Sat 21st November 2015 @ 2:17 pm

  4. …………
    The judge questioned whether Xavier was free to offend on bail because his victims were heterosexual men and therefore treated as less of a priority.

    Addressing the police officer in the case after sentencing, he said: “It’s very rare for a heterosexual male to be a victim of a sexual offence, as we know.

    “I hope the fact that these victims were heterosexual males did not cause them to be put rather lower in the list of priorities.”

    Detective Constable Lucy Marsh, of Wandsworth Police, who took over the investigation after the original officer dealing with the matter lost evidence, rejected the suggestion.

    She said a “waiting list” for downloading mobile phone evidence led to a delay in the investigation.
    The judge had obviously been seriously misled by women DV campaigners. This seriously calls into question whether these judges have a sufficient level of skill at assessing evidence, to be satisfactorily capable of doing their job?
    Possibly the straightforwardness of the police is also rather doubtful?
    There is hope, somewhere?


    Comment by MurrayBacon — Sun 18th November 2018 @ 6:49 am

  5. I think historicaly women were taught to wear the nice uniform;

    Now, girls we don’t pull each other’s hair and scratch each other’s eyes out or get together in a huddle and dream up ways to torment the perceived competitor.

    The bottom line is the female of the species is violent but usually with their own arsenal.

    Feminism played on what had been a well developed supression of female violence, with their, “men are violent, women are not”.

    We’ve seen a progressive development; first a liberation of female violence, then a gradual inclusion of male types of violence in female behaviour.

    Men are ‘supossedly’ not allowed to defend themselves against female aggression because historically society has demanded that females be ‘treated like women’.

    Surely the obvious consequence here, of men not defending themselves, is a growing number of silent victims?

    Comment by Downunder — Sun 18th November 2018 @ 8:04 am

  6. There’s a trail of silent victims in the path of this ‘noisy little oyster’.

    [Reading all the way through, the 20 month sentence appears to be a concurrent penalty for all victims, and she would have got home detention if one hadn’t been her sister.]

    Comment by Downunder — Sun 18th November 2018 @ 2:22 pm

  7. #6,, it is becoming a pressure cooker out there. IN OUR DAY it was expected you left the nest at seventeen…look at us now.

    I can not begin to imagine living with my family for so long,, it is not that we did not get on but living with one another is another story. If you do not leave home your opportunities slim down and you will be lucky to get out. For young men these days, I see them flatting together forever, maybe with women at arms length, you know, those… buddies.
    For women , living with their Mums, that is a worry.

    The breaking Down of our society and its’ values is happening before our very eyes.
    This is an ugly historical happening, here we are quite quiet, unless you are linked to an organisation, in which case you might be hui-ing, in France and Greece they are not so quiet.

    Comment by mama — Mon 19th November 2018 @ 8:03 am

  8. What are you saying here Mama; “Are we all hui-no-doey”?

    Comment by Downunder — Mon 19th November 2018 @ 8:58 am

  9. You could say that Downunder,,, lots of ‘talky tui and no much doey’,,,but only for the priviliged publicky servanty and governy blessy ones.

    Comment by mama — Mon 19th November 2018 @ 11:16 am

  10. We’re getting stitched up for their benefit. That’s very witty, Mama.

    Comment by Downunder — Mon 19th November 2018 @ 11:22 am

  11. no for fear of being rubber duckied… Touche’ Downunder.

    Comment by mama — Mon 19th November 2018 @ 1:31 pm

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