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Fathers Day Ambushed

Filed under: Gender Politics,General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 2:22 pm Thu 8th September 2016

Thanks to Father & Child and other groups who have generously supported the spirit of Fathers Day this year. Unfortunately, misandrist and femicentric forces have used the commemoration as another opportunity to bash men. A previous post – thanks Jerry – drew our attention to a couple of articles. One was about the ’10 worst fathers’ shown in films and tv. The second was about step fathers, which at least honoured men in father roles and provided some useful information. Jerry was correct though in that an article promoting step-motherhood on Mothers Day would be seen as offensive by women, especially in the absence of other articles honouring biological mothers. This year I don’t remember seeing any article honouring dads, though I guess there probably were some.

A really nasty, patronizing article was written by ‘Emily Writes’ in the NZ Herald. It was called “Emily Writes: Father’s Day can be a struggle”. Well of course the headline is correct because many fathers struggle with Fathers Day due to being alienated, shut out or severely restricted concerning their role with their own children, or threatened with one of those scenarios during the horrible process of Family Court. But none of that is what the article is about and Ms Emily doesn’t mention that stuff at all. For her it seems that the suffering of alienated, discarded and falsely accused fathers doesn’t exist or if it did it doesn’t matter.

No, her article was all about how hard Fathers Day is for the multitude of children whose fathers are “not deserving of a thought let alone a card”, and the brave selfless “mothers who co-parent with grace and kindness even when their ex-partners have put them through the wringer and wouldn’t do the same for them” and “who for the safety of their children have escaped homes of violence and pain to build something beautiful”. Oh yes, sugar and spice and all things nice, huh? Ms Emily encourages people to resist the social pressure to send a card to Dads when their relationship with father is “just too complex” or when “the waters under the bridge are raging”. And of course women who have fertility problems will also find Fathers Day painful. It is ok though, according to Ms Emily, to “honour the good dads”. Gee, we hope we meet the criteria for being ‘good’ dads. On second thoughts, it’s unlikely we would. A self-serving feminist definition of a father is the only acceptable one now.

Ms Emily, don’t you realize that Fathers Day isn’t about all the people who live off fathers’ backs but feel hard done by? It’s actually about showing appreciation for fathers, and we will not allow you to invent feminist-approved conditions that will need to be met by any father in order to be respected on this day.

This article was really just another attempt to turn Fathers Day into a ‘day of shame’.

4 Responses to “Fathers Day Ambushed”

  1. whythepenus says:

    I attended the father’s day Barbe last Sunday, organised by Father and Child. At that Barbe, I managed to speak to a random guy, who was married with 2 children and was in Ambury park and wanted to buy some sausages. We gave it to him for free…

    When I explained what Father and Child were all bout, his words to me were:

    “Fathers are the foundation blocks of a family bro, my dad was and I am to my children”
    His wife responded “I also have a great father who is my hero”

    They both said “good on ya for the work you guys do for dads”

    Feminism bullshit will not last forever, mark my words…that rubbish is getting out of control.

  2. jerry says:

    Its depressing, but I keep looking for father positive – well father positive anything really. What now passes as “Father positive” praises same sex couples with children or the “Feminist?” perspective – and on that note – what on earth is the definition of “FEMINIST” – I really don’t meet two persons who hold the exact same definition. Seems like a “see it however I want to- and I’m right” thing to me. Junk rubbish. Anyway the anti father stuff is still flowing. No the news won’t engage in any adult terms with that arranged fight where a solo mum seriously assaulted a school-girl in Hamilton (NZ Herald). If a male did it the story would run for months.

    Most concerning to me is the number of biological males who absolutely and unapologetically fully meet the definition of MANGINA these days. They defend women no matter what and condemn their brothers while having no information on which they base their decision. Where women are concerned, they are all innocent and pure…. Yeah Right!!!! But I do note that when you talk in private with many females, they see and acknowledge the problem their sons face – but for some reason/s they won’t stand up on principle, well on this topic anyway. Those who give this anti male agenda their silent consent are as guilty as those who actively promote it in my view.

  3. Murray Bacon says:

    The Best Way to Honor Your Dad Isn’t Father’s Day
    Watching my kids become independent is more meaningful than a card could ever be

  4. Downunder says:

    Romans celebrated a mother Goddess, Cybele, every March as far back as 250BC.

    Mothering Sunday has been celebrated on the fourth Sunday in Lent, in the UK and Ireland, since the 16th century.

    The need for the father to be celebrated looking at these time lines corresponds with the social development in Rome and the recovery from Rome where woman returned to a relative position.

    In that respect you could see Father’s Day not as a celebration but as a defence against the increasing demands of women.

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