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Fathers Day Ambushed

Filed under: Gender Politics,General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 2:22 pm Thu 8th September 2016

Thanks to Father & Child and other groups who have generously supported the spirit of Fathers Day this year. Unfortunately, misandrist and femicentric forces have used the commemoration as another opportunity to bash men. A previous post – thanks Jerry – drew our attention to a couple of articles. One was about the ’10 worst fathers’ shown in films and tv. The second was about step fathers, which at least honoured men in father roles and provided some useful information. Jerry was correct though in that an article promoting step-motherhood on Mothers Day would be seen as offensive by women, especially in the absence of other articles honouring biological mothers. This year I don’t remember seeing any article honouring dads, though I guess there probably were some.

A really nasty, patronizing article was written by ‘Emily Writes’ in the NZ Herald. It was called “Emily Writes: Father’s Day can be a struggle”. Well of course the headline is correct because many fathers struggle with Fathers Day due to being alienated, shut out or severely restricted concerning their role with their own children, or threatened with one of those scenarios during the horrible process of Family Court. But none of that is what the article is about and Ms Emily doesn’t mention that stuff at all. For her it seems that the suffering of alienated, discarded and falsely accused fathers doesn’t exist or if it did it doesn’t matter.

No, her article was all about how hard Fathers Day is for the multitude of children whose fathers are “not deserving of a thought let alone a card”, and the brave selfless “mothers who co-parent with grace and kindness even when their ex-partners have put them through the wringer and wouldn’t do the same for them” and “who for the safety of their children have escaped homes of violence and pain to build something beautiful”. Oh yes, sugar and spice and all things nice, huh? Ms Emily encourages people to resist the social pressure to send a card to Dads when their relationship with father is “just too complex” or when “the waters under the bridge are raging”. And of course women who have fertility problems will also find Fathers Day painful. It is ok though, according to Ms Emily, to “honour the good dads”. Gee, we hope we meet the criteria for being ‘good’ dads. On second thoughts, it’s unlikely we would. A self-serving feminist definition of a father is the only acceptable one now.

Ms Emily, don’t you realize that Fathers Day isn’t about all the people who live off fathers’ backs but feel hard done by? It’s actually about showing appreciation for fathers, and we will not allow you to invent feminist-approved conditions that will need to be met by any father in order to be respected on this day.

This article was really just another attempt to turn Fathers Day into a ‘day of shame’.


  1. I attended the father’s day Barbe last Sunday, organised by Father and Child. At that Barbe, I managed to speak to a random guy, who was married with 2 children and was in Ambury park and wanted to buy some sausages. We gave it to him for free…

    When I explained what Father and Child were all bout, his words to me were:

    “Fathers are the foundation blocks of a family bro, my dad was and I am to my children”
    His wife responded “I also have a great father who is my hero”

    They both said “good on ya for the work you guys do for dads”

    Feminism bullshit will not last forever, mark my words…that rubbish is getting out of control.

    Comment by whythepenus — Thu 8th September 2016 @ 5:26 pm

  2. Its depressing, but I keep looking for father positive – well father positive anything really. What now passes as “Father positive” praises same sex couples with children or the “Feminist?” perspective – and on that note – what on earth is the definition of “FEMINIST” – I really don’t meet two persons who hold the exact same definition. Seems like a “see it however I want to- and I’m right” thing to me. Junk rubbish. Anyway the anti father stuff is still flowing. No the news won’t engage in any adult terms with that arranged fight where a solo mum seriously assaulted a school-girl in Hamilton (NZ Herald). If a male did it the story would run for months.

    Most concerning to me is the number of biological males who absolutely and unapologetically fully meet the definition of MANGINA these days. They defend women no matter what and condemn their brothers while having no information on which they base their decision. Where women are concerned, they are all innocent and pure…. Yeah Right!!!! But I do note that when you talk in private with many females, they see and acknowledge the problem their sons face – but for some reason/s they won’t stand up on principle, well on this topic anyway. Those who give this anti male agenda their silent consent are as guilty as those who actively promote it in my view.

    Comment by jerry — Sat 10th September 2016 @ 8:08 am

  3. The Best Way to Honor Your Dad Isn’t Father’s Day
    Watching my kids become independent is more meaningful than a card could ever be

    Comment by Murray Bacon — Mon 1st July 2019 @ 9:56 am

  4. Romans celebrated a mother Goddess, Cybele, every March as far back as 250BC.

    Mothering Sunday has been celebrated on the fourth Sunday in Lent, in the UK and Ireland, since the 16th century.

    The need for the father to be celebrated looking at these time lines corresponds with the social development in Rome and the recovery from Rome where woman returned to a relative position.

    In that respect you could see Father’s Day not as a celebration but as a defence against the increasing demands of women.

    Comment by Downunder — Mon 1st July 2019 @ 10:17 am

  5. Ambushed, geez sounds like a predator is active in the community.

    Today is Mother’s Day.
    My own mother was good to me.
    She may have given me 6 of the best a few times.
    But I know she tried hard, to provide for us kids.
    And deserves my thanks.

    But in the end, the truth shall prevail.
    Pertaining to some mothers.
    So poetry, from my physical writhing.


    Trying to decide.
    What you’re got to hide.
    Showing only one side.
    Trying to keep some pride.

    I’ve heard your stories.
    When I know the truth.
    Little white lies.
    Shaded in size.

    In the Garden of Eden.
    With thorn bushed sides.
    A beautiful entrance.
    Surrounds the welcome sign.

    I know what your hiding.
    I even know why.
    In the Garden of Eden.
    There’s a spider inside.

    Weaving a web.
    Silken strands by your own hand.
    To catch an unsuspecting man.
    Trying to decide, when he never can.


    I do wish all mothers well.
    I read today about prison mothers.
    I did not like what I was reading.
    While a prisoner may have lost rights.
    Removing dignity, is inhumane.
    Common sense, is missing.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Sun 9th May 2021 @ 11:59 am

  6. Sadly, I switch off and ignore both days. I can do so since both my parents are long dead but what isn’t dead is the contradictory tripe that turns up every Mother’s Day, like this article mentions. It’s been this way since late last century.

    Perhaps you don’t see the determined feminist methodology at work where mothers are treated as a single group and fathers as an individual. That’s technically how they manage the persecution of the male in their literary structure and by using these opposing positions we see the significant difference in what we read at these times each year.

    Would this be treated as hate speech? Well they’re a gender attack that threatens the stability of a nation and in-effect terrorism by strict definition if you don’t accept feminist justifications to determine any outcome in government but we’re insidiously trained over time to accept this as normal.

    Comment by Evan Myers — Mon 10th May 2021 @ 7:17 am

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