Attendance at assessment and non-violence program
I am sure some of you have attended these. I myself have attended one some 7 years ago. I will start with a question – what is this about?
Let me explain. I have a custody order already allowing supervised access. In the last “programme” I went along (I think it was supposed to be a group activity) and ended up only agreeing with the guy over one thing – pointless waste of time for us both and so ended up on a one-on-one programme – which also turned out to be a waste of time.
So I would have thought that under the Human Rights Act, I have the right to freedom of thought. Am I to go along and be re-programmed by some git who wants to force me to assimilate propaganda like I might have expect in somewhere like China or the former USSR? Surely the old adage about leading a horse to water must apply here?
Has anyone got a good understanding of how this works?
You seem to be adversarial on issues that are rearly insignificant other than obtaining shared care of your kids?
Programs are designed to enlighten you on your actions, and yes they can be a bastard, irrelevant and a waste of time as I am doing right now. Guess what, 2 weeks left of one hour chit chat at SHINE and I am done, a glowing report will go to the Family Court and I can say “Whats Next!”
Play the game and tick the boxes. If you haven’t discovered, its all designed to fuck you off, haha are they winning.
Admittedly its only 6 weeks and costs me money through lost work hours but tick that one off.
Now that my son wants to live with me full time the ex has now stated I am psychologically abusing my son. I can’t wait till he answers the Judge on that one.
How is your stock pile going (Whiskey), or have you decided to go it alone rather than pay someone to CONTROL YOUR OUTCOMES.
Some previous comments on MENZ Issues:
Man X – you’re a legend!! I thought it was just me that was going crazy – it turns out that we have an FC that could be compared to One Flew Over The Cuckoo’s Nest – “Medication Time!”
Has anyone brought this up with an MP or The Human Right’s Commission? – Let me guess, no MP is interested, and not under jurisdiction of HRC?!
Buster is it only 6 weeks? (not that only is a short time). Can I make it more, like what if I don’t get it, or if I want to stay and learn more – can they extend it for me?! Like if I say “can you explain why giving her the bash is wrong again, I didn’t quite get that?” will that help me?
Irish spelling of Whiskey, is that your ancestry coming through?
You know I might be out of touch and I am sure many of you have seen this before: DV Hui
where it state that these (compulsory anti-DV programmes)are effective and worthwhile – once again I am feeling like an outsider or in the words of the “Boss” in the movie Cool Hand Luke – “What we got here, is a failure to communicate!” because I’ve been on one before, it sounds like Buster collects them like trophies, and they don’t seem to be working. Now I can’t speak for anyone else, but I find this report by Boshier insults my intelligence not because of his report as such, but based on what I would consider to be bullsh*t studies and research.
So correct me where I am going wrong – never hit or charged with any form of “violence” in my life until I married this “thing” and now am faced with being labelled violent person. So you can’t say that I “turn on the violence when I am with her” as I am not with her, as far as I am concerned she is just the mother of my kids, lives separately and I have little to do with her. Why then is she different than the rest of the world – it’s all a crock – I think we are heading into another “dark ages”.
I’ve done on of those courses too.
Only about 3 of 12 people doing it needed it.
Some being voluntary participation.
Rest forced on them.
Not one partner or ex partner required to do a course as well.
It has some good points and some bad.
On balance it was condescending feminist bullshit.
Even then Women’s Refuge wanted the course closed down.
It wasn’t demeaning and biased enough.
Had to watch a Women’s Refuge indoctrination video.
Had 3 examples of experiences women had.
Hell I could have put a dress on, told my story, playing all three parts and nobody would have noticed the difference.
But I’ve got a penis so I was the offender.
No course for the ex.
While we are threatened with imprisonment if we don’t attend.
Thanks DJ Ward. So does anyone know of anyone imprisoned for not attending?
But here’s the thing 3 of 12, needed it. I know what you are saying, but I’m saying you only need it if you will learn from it – we could send everyone to school cert maths refreshers – we all need it, but wouldn’t many attend and learn little to nothing?
Now I realise (and too late it is) why the judges have been suggesting I attend a “non-mandatory” course before I hit the hearing – so they could say “hey Toby, you is such a good house nigg*r, you do as massa says!” Our country needs a good firm talking to (in a non-violent PC manner, while asking for it’s opinion and considering that opinion as being equal or better if it’s transgender or female).
your comment struck me as very astute.
But the painful reality, would those 3 people actually benefit in the intended way, from that course?
My guess is that maybe 1 might and also maybe none would benefit.
So for a huge expenditure of time, effort and cost, surprisingly little value is delivered.
What “evaluations” as have been prepared, have just evaluated courses against their intended deliverables in class, not on long term social value. These evaluations have also neglected to study and measure perverse outcomes. One example is a man who feels aggrieved deciding, I will kill the b(woman) when I get the opportunity.
Serious propensity for explosive violence needs to be addressed in a much more careful and intensive way, than an hour a week.
Then we also need to consider the damage done by seeking perpetrators from only among men. Could we be neglecting a large proportion of perpetrators and parties to mutual violence? What consequences are caused in our society, by a jUSTICE sYSTEM that is so slow and dense?
Maybe we would do better to leave violence between adults not addressed at all and make sure that children are protected from not competent parents, both mothers and fathers. Maybe surprisingly, a lot of women have a lot to fear from a successful, working child protection system.
I suggest that a few more women would be not allowed to care for their children while very young, if judged on actual skills, than fathers?
Shoot me, if you need to!
Well, the positibility of a loose axe head ricocheting off a backswing is a big ask!
I know what you’re saying, but it is only in some cases, for various reasons, that they already have the skills.
But given the opportunity, most would still try and succeed, while the mother was still throwing her toys out of the cot, and the baby out with the bathwater.
This was an observation I made through UOF
“MUM, she’s not looking after the baby, show me how to do it.”
I remember a very good example of this where Judge Jan Dogue (fucking idiot) issued a warrant and gave a baby to the sole care of a drug addicted mother who was lapsing in and out of 48 hour benders/comas.
When it comes to shooting people, I’d be more than happy to put a bullet through Dogue’s head for what she put that child through.
Reading RNZ this morning:
An Otago University academic Sue Bagshaw says: (regarding youth suicide)
If you remember the case of the mother who continually left the baby in the bath unattended, and the father who continually raised the alarm – then the baby died.
It is a good illustration of the male observation of risk.
I fought hard for information and reviews both through the Children’s Commission and the ombudsman on the basis of what evidence the police should provide to the Coroner’s Court based on the fact that the Police withheld evidence from the manslaughter trial.
As you would expect, the wall just kept getting built higher.