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What We Can Learn From Adele’s Popularity

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 7:40 am Fri 24th March 2017

The heartfelt response to Adele’s songs by so many young people, especially young women, teaches us things. They are songs of love, heartbreak and yearning. After a period in which popular music became harsh, violent, frenetic, disrespectful and unmelodic, youth now revert to being much more deeply moved by slow, musical songs about relationships, emotional security and fantasized happiness. Despite the efforts of feminists to turn young women against men, despite the efforts of our laws to encourage women to avoid or to break up marriages and to not be dependent on men or marriage, the deep yearning of women and men remains romantic. Humans are a social, bonding species needing each other for survival, and the genetic forces will always outweigh political fashions and foolishness. Many of the young people overwhelmed with emotion at Adele’s concerts have experienced the trauma and harm of family break up during their childhood, and their tears and screams to some extent are expressing their pain.

Unfortunately, the MGTOW movement will never progress far because it goes against our genetic program.

Instead of wrecking committed relationships and families we would like to see laws, policies and financial assistance designed to protect the integrity of families and to support stable relationships, mutual gender respect and resolution of relationship problems. Increasing a nation’s economic wealth won’t bring a society significantly more happiness, but increasing the stability of families will.


  1. Very astute comments, thanks MoMA.
    You suggest that MGTOW will not have a big impact, due to going against our DNA grain.
    I suspect that it is having a moderate impact already and this impact is slowly growing all the time. Young men are no fools, despite how some might present them.
    In my opinion, we need to look much more carefully at the incentives that are actually embedded into legislation and other social policies.
    Not what politicians say the objectives of these Acts are, but the actual incentives being delivered to citizens. This analysis needs to include the impacts of police policies of arrest the man even despite evidence and caughts failures to listen to evidence in criminal cases.
    Trust being crushed up, day by day, will take a long time to rebuild throughout society.

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Sat 25th March 2017 @ 8:05 pm

  2. Hi there,

    My interest was piqued by the statement ‘the MGTOW movement will never progress far because it goes against our genetic program.’

    This is my first visit to your site, and I am not sure what MGTOW stands for?

    Also, I was interested as to what you mean about ‘our genetic program’, do you have some articles, books, or documentaries, that you would suggest I look at to learn more on this topic?


    D Taylor

    Comment by D Taylor — Tue 28th March 2017 @ 1:05 pm

  3. D Taylor @2; MGTOW = Men going their own way. Here is my interpretation of it. Its where men do not set up a dependent relationship with a female, but instead live their lives for themselves. They keep all they earn. From what I’ve seen they do have interactions with some females – but only on their terms, and not so as to become bonded to them. A MGTOW will not lose property or assets to women. They live live to the fullest way they wish without being answerable.
    It does go against our biological programming in my opinion – but in fact it is an entirely appropriate response to the anti-male world we now live in.
    Search MGTOW on YouTube – you no doubt will get other perspectives.

    Comment by Jerry — Tue 28th March 2017 @ 6:38 pm

  4. Interesting topic.

    I’ve noticed the songs getting airtime on radio also following this trend. It has been a topic of conversation amongst friends.

    The music and lyrics may disguise this, but you could view this current genre as the contemporary protest songs.

    Feminists and sympathisers in the past have used music to further their cause, perhaps now it’s time for them to bleed.

    I don’t think men going their on way is anything new, we do what is necessary. NZ history is full of adventurers and Māori wives.

    I view MGTOW differently in that it is a consequence of an experience or understanding of a feminist society – a defensive response to social circumstances.

    As a ‘movement’ it is viciously attacked by feminists and I too doubt it will amount to much, but as a social consequence we are already seeing the fall out with some provinces having adult ratios as low as 90 men to 100 women, and declining.

    Comment by Downunder — Thu 30th March 2017 @ 5:26 am

  5. MGTOW exists.
    TGTOW too.

    How many times is it said that our children watch how we behave.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Sat 1st April 2017 @ 4:02 pm

  6. 5, Excellent article!

    Tom says, “My older brother, who’s 20, was dating a girl for a few months. She turned really nasty in the breakup and made a string of allegations to the police. That made me suspicious of women too. My brother’s a good guy.
    “Why should she be able to just say what she wants, accuse him of anything and then get on with her life like that? It doesn’t seem fair to me. I’m not sure what rights I have. Maybe none?”

    Comment by voices back from the bush — Sat 1st April 2017 @ 5:05 pm

  7. This is another article about men protecting themselves from false accusations.

    Comment by voices back from the bush — Sat 1st April 2017 @ 5:15 pm

  8. #7. If you watched Dr 90210 on TV, you would always see a female nurse with the Dr when he was doing a consultation about plastic surgery. With Doctors being so easily sued in America, it’s highly likely the female nurse’s presence is an insurance requirement. And a damn smart requirement too !

    Comment by golfa — Sat 1st April 2017 @ 7:41 pm

  9. voices #7: Interesting article but it avoids mentioning one of the most important issues: the risk to men of being accused of harassment or sexual assault. It’s ironic that feminist encouragement of such accusations is now working to make it harder for women to be involved in the highest ranks of political power.

    This article shows how lucrative allegations of harassment can be and how good are the chances that a woman will not even have to back up her allegations because she will be paid out simply to avoid further publicity for her allegations.

    The whole idea that a woman should expect to be made a multi-millionaire simply because she felt sexually harassed (or claimed to) is ridiculous. The implication is that being uncomfortably propositioned by a male in an ‘inappropriate’ context so badly damages a woman that she needs enough compensation to last for the rest of her life, as if the harassment disabled her from being able to earn her own income in the future. Of course, it’s rare or never happens for a man to get such a huge payout claiming to be harassed. In fact, it’s rare for a man to get such a huge payout when he has actually been maimed through someone’s wrongdoing and his future work ability has been truly compromised.

    Comment by Ministry of Men's Affairs — Sun 2nd April 2017 @ 11:16 am

  10. DJ Ward #5: Thanks for finding this article; it brings out for the public some important truths about men’s experience in the era of feminist law.

    However, interesting that the only ‘expert’ comment in the article comes from a female. She expresses some insight into the destructive forces from the gender war but she doesn’t mention the fact this war is being perpetrated by feminists misled by feminist ideology and waging their war through getting parliaments to pass short-sighted, bad feminist laws that abandon fundamental principles of justice and fairness, among other strategies. She also seeks to define relationships as women’ self-delusional fantasies would define them, and thereby fails to recognize what men actually would need to rely on in a marriage or committed relationship in order not to feel the need for MTGOW.

    Comment by Ministry of Men's Affairs — Sun 2nd April 2017 @ 11:31 am

  11. I was recently talking to a nephew.
    He was talking about a relationship that just ended.
    He talked about how she would say she loved him.
    Then change completely to how much she hated him.
    She was on antidepressants and anything else she could get.
    She was also not loyal to him.
    He ended the relationship as he couldn’t take it anymore.
    I could tell he wanted to love her.
    But couldn’t, as the hurt was to much.

    So I defended her.
    I told how her how doctors failed her.
    That she went to get help, but they failed her.
    I told how she was taught that men are bad.
    That she was educated, but they failed her.
    I told how she wanted love, but cannot love.
    That it was not her fault.

    I week later she text him.
    “I love you but goodbye”
    He didn’t know what she meant, and it worried him.
    So he phoned around to find a flatmate of hers.
    They checked on her to find her attempting suicide.
    Overdosing and cut wrists.

    I am so grateful he still loved her enough.
    To call to check on her.
    The burden of ignoring her cry for help would be devastating.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Sun 6th December 2020 @ 6:23 am

  12. DJ Ward at no 11 – the woman you are describing has borderline personality disorder. Ten percent of women have this disorder. She will be back. Make no mistake

    Comment by Jed — Sun 6th December 2020 @ 8:42 am

  13. You are correct, I am guessing that she has BPD.
    Guessing because I have not met her or talked to her.

    It was a conversation with him and his best friend.
    The conversation was about all the girls they knew were on antidepressants.
    That they were all crazy.
    That they wanted girlfriends but couldn’t find one.
    So 10% might be an understatement.

    She was a child and society made her.
    Bipolar is genetic but a person may not develop bipolar.
    It develops as PTSD in childhood and the PTSD is not fixed.
    The flaw in the brain developed and is carried into adulthood.
    The less PTSD experienced, and the better it is fixed when it happens.
    The less harmful the Bipolar will be.
    The same will be the case with BPD.
    As it is also genetic and effects the same system.

    Yes I think she will be back.
    I have not seen my nephew to talk to him.
    I did mention BPD to him.

    Make no mistake.
    I will be talking to him.
    He will need help.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Sun 6th December 2020 @ 9:39 am

  14. I came across him on my birthday.
    A conversation took place.
    I drew for him an imaginary line in the sand.
    One side is suffering.
    One could stand on the line and temp fate.
    One side is compassion.

    I warned him about her lust for him.
    How she will harm him to get it.
    That he would become her slave.
    She can be magnificent and frightening at the same time.

    I ended with two comments about compassion.
    Be nice to her.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Wed 9th December 2020 @ 8:46 pm

  15. I heard today the same thing.
    From a man I trust.

    All young females are on antidepressants.
    And young men can’t find partners.
    I had the best of conversations with him.
    He corrected me, with an example in his own life.

    Sex in a relationship is about healing.
    Love is healing.

    They are taught to hate the desires of men.
    As they are only lust, for pleasure.
    But men want to love.
    And there desire for love is hated.
    How then do men love if they are hated.
    I see vanity by women everywhere.
    I have none and are free.
    I see judgement by women everywhere.
    I have no fear of judgement and are free.
    I see demands by women everywhere.
    I make no demands and are free.

    I recently was in the company of a man.
    A brother, of my brother.
    He had done the most horrible of things in his past.
    With also many relationships.
    And many times in prison.
    He has judged me and mocked me in the past.
    For my lack of vanity and freedom from judgement.
    Yet he watched me talk to another man.
    Who was judging another man for a mistake.
    I defended him, for his mistake.
    I showed him the judgement was wrong.

    As he went to leave.
    He came to me and gave me the best of hugs.
    It was him I also defended.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Sun 13th December 2020 @ 3:32 pm

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