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Filed under: General — mama @ 3:47 pm Fri 17th August 2018

See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil..what a wonderful world we live in, as long as your are not one of the ‘accountables’…

Accountability is the new handshake and the spoken word a whisper….

Sitting in the Smoko room with a woman colleague, I mentioned a bit about a news item I had seen the evening before. She had no comment except to say “I do not really like to watch the news, just brings me down”… I am finding that people all around me do not want to hear of the ‘bad’ things, they dont want to be accountable, by opinion, even by thought.

Now I am self employed again, have been most of my working life and I am accountable for what I do….. In my industry accountability has stepped up a knotch and made me tick so many , many, boxes..many arses covered..all this work I do to make me more accountable, if I need to be shown to be.
However some people are far more ‘accountable’ than others any their accountability keeps them on their toes.
Business is accountable, workers are accountable, fathers are accountable. We all pay to be accountable

Children are not accountable, Solo Mothers are not accountable, Victims of anything are not accountable, beneficiares are not accountable, even justice is not accountable, unless something goes wrong.

I guess some of my point here is that when you are talking about the areas of making money and making cogs turn , this is the area where by you are accountable.
However in the area whereby you are either looked after by government, work for government or assist both of these categories, you are not accountable, unless something goes wrong.

So as a society we penalise the people who work to make money by making them pay to be accountable and in turn we get to support the unaccountable ones??


  1. As children our older generation were taught to be accountable.

    Think before you speak.
    Consider before you act.

    We were able to rely on the advice of the previous generation even if sometimes we needed failure to remind us they were speaking from experience themselves.

    Our education system changed. The cooperation between parents and schools diluted.

    In this new utopia for the child they were told to be liberal and expressive and not conform to previous norms.

    The consequence perhaps is that our children grew up lacking the ability to manage their own accountability.

    While many of our social structures dissolved their level of accountability, even to the level of corruption, and we are very good at hiding that from the world.

    Comment by Downunder — Sat 18th August 2018 @ 12:23 pm

  2. Yes but to be Seen to be accountable is a differing accountability, normally accountability would come after the fact.

    What I was initially saying in this post was that honour came first and with honour comes accountability, when and if required, you can not really say you are being accountable up front.

    Comment by mama — Wed 29th August 2018 @ 12:41 pm

  3. A USA House of Representative’s member is calling attention to harm being done by USA Government.
    She wants the harm to be understood and stopped as soon as possible.
    Also to limit future damages that may have to be paid out.
    As Downunder says above:
    Think before you speak.
    Consider before you act.
    The freshman lawmaker’s call for a ‘9/11-style commission’ to investigate family separation gives the atrocity the moral weight it deserves.
    She isn’t talking about the USA familycaught in general, she is only talking about the much smaller crisis of ICE Police border “protection”.

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Fri 26th July 2019 @ 9:48 am

  4. Quote from link

    “The public needs and deserves to bring our government to account for atrocities committed in our name. It’s not enough to “move on.” Moving on without acknowledging the problem only means the problem will reoccur. There has to be a process by which we can investigate our failures, disavow them, and change.”

    Comment by JustCurious — Fri 26th July 2019 @ 12:27 pm

  5. Truth sometimes reads like poetry 🙂
    “Even if you separate a kid from their parents for two days you have already created lifelong, lasting trauma,” … she said. “Lifelong trauma …”

    Comment by JustCurious — Fri 26th July 2019 @ 12:33 pm

  6. “There’s value in being the national conscience — especially in a nation”, OR WITH A SYSTEM, “that’s not known for heeding its conscience”.

    Interesting times….

    Comment by mama — Fri 26th July 2019 @ 1:45 pm

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