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Did you experience no access to your children during Covid 19 even though you should have?

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 7:23 am Thu 27th August 2020
We are all used to rules. They are important to safeguard everyone. No one wants to spread the virus. And I am convinced lockdown saved lives and we are all better for it.

That being said there were provisions made for shared bubbles. You had to be family and you had to live in the same health zone.

But what do you do when your recent ex flatly refused to acknowledge the provisions and deny access to you kid under the caveat of lockdown. Is it just another lawyers fee? Say $300 for a letter. A few thousand to appear in court if the letter isn’t responded to. And is there a way in which costs can be claimed? And lets just say you do not have the extra money because you are paying for your ex and her lifestyle and trying to keep a roof over your head with the odd meal of noodles. What then?

And whats the point anyway? The courts were closed and only listened to urgent hearings. And is the abuse of a man and his childrens rights important enough to claim urgent?

I hear a lot about violence. Emotional abuse. It seems to not apply when a mans access and his children are abused.

What happened to you?

Was it to expensive?

Or did you give up? Burnt off from fees?

Your opinions and stories please.


  1. 100%. Even been denied a quick phone call on fathers day with my 3 year old son. Two fathers days in a row. Haven’t seen my child for four months despite the fact. Things will change is what I remind myself. I at least knew where my child was during lockdown, since then and in between he has been out of auckland more times than I had the whole year possibly two lol. Anyway just a rant, this too shall pass 🙂

    Comment by RobinNoah — Mon 7th September 2020 @ 1:30 am

  2. Arrrrrggghhh, gggrrrrhh,, lots of these, Covid-19 and the lockdowns have caused lots of disruption to many families, sometimes the dads have ‘run off’ with the kids !

    At Kidz Need Dadz, we are constantly hearing lots of stories about dads having contact stopped, no video or phone contact, little reason other than ‘covid says’

    Our DadzKare support work went through the roof during May-Jue July this year, we are hiring!

    If you are passionate and willing to work in support of Dads through all sorts of issues, Baby Time, Parenting Difficulties, Shared care, mediation and surviving separation, let us know …

    the job is on Kidz Need Dadz facebook page, DadzKare Support Worker, applications will close soon, based in Onehunga, part time, 20hrs/week, potential for more.. 🙂

    Comment by bg smith — Tue 15th September 2020 @ 1:08 pm

  3. I think everybody should have access to their children, especially during this pandemic. Bike Light Trail Edition

    Comment by earlbennett1516 — Tue 29th December 2020 @ 4:05 am

  4. My most like me brother, has Covid in his house.
    We shared a room together, growing up so has some stories.
    My nephew got sick, while his girlfriend also with Covid didn’t.

    Which is how the virus, spreads so easily.
    While the nephew knows he is sick, and can then stop spreading it.
    The girlfriend could be oblivious, and go to many places.

    All you need is a few, to not know they have it.
    Maybe a dozen is enough, to start something that can’t be stopped.
    Does the single seed, not make many more.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Wed 2nd February 2022 @ 7:29 pm

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