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Hen-Pecked Man Syndrome

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 11:16 am Tue 6th July 2021

Sounds far more reasonable than battered woman syndrome.

A man on trial for killing his wife during their belated honeymoon in Te Anau said he snapped and he just wanted her to be quiet.

Rodney Stuart Fallowfield admitted the killing, but said he did not intend to murder Shirley Reedy.

The jury trial for Fallowfield (53) began before Justice Jan-Marie Doogue in the High Court at Invercargill today.

He is charged with murdering Shirley Reedy in a Te Anau motel on May 15,  2020.

In her opening address, Crown solicitor Sarah McKenzie said there was no dispute on how and who killed Ms Reedy — both parties agreed the woman was strangled in the hotel room by her husband.

The question of the trial was about his intention and the Crown’s case was that he murdered Ms Reedy, she said.

Fallowfield and Ms Reedy lived in Balclutha and they knew each other about a year before their wedding in April 2019.

Since then, police attended six family harm incidents where Fallowfield and Ms Reedy were both “victims, aggressors, or offenders”.

“Their relationship was not without issues, “ Ms McKenzie said.

The first incident was the day after they were married, when Ms Reedy told the police Fallowfied had a gun in his possession but he did not have a license for it.

At the time, he was charged and sentenced to three months of home detention and the judge placed him on six months of post-conditions release.

Police also attended another five incidents — which included an occasion where Ms Reedy allegedly trespassed Fallowfield from the property on July 2019 and a complaint that Ms Reedy had been raped by Fallowfield when she went to pick up some belongings at his house in December 2019.

Police had not laid any charges in relation to those matters, however, on December 18, 2019 the Department of Corrections issued a non-association order to Fallowfield in relation to his wife.

During the lockdown, on March 25, the man obtained a relaxation on the order  —  he could contact Ms Reedy by phone, attend corrections appointments with her and have walks with her.

Despite the order, Ms McKenzie said it seemed Ms Reedy and Fallowfield were living together.

‘‘The defendant described their relationship during that time as the best they ever have been so much so on May 7, 2020, the defendant booked a motel room in Te Anau.’’

On May 15, 2020, the day which Ms Reedy was killed, the couple checked in at their accommodation and they headed to the township where they walked while holding hands and bought some wine.

After returning to the motel, at 3.22pm, Ms Reedy posted two pictures on her Facebook page, one with her husband and the other she was alone holding a glass of sparkling wine.

She wrote as the caption ‘‘Cheers from Te Anau’’, the court has heard.

Fallowfield has told the police at some stage Ms Reedy changed and they had a ‘‘bit of a tiff’’ in respect to a previous rape allegation made by Ms Reedy against Fallowfield.

‘‘He said they didn’t yell or anything but Shirley Reedy threatened to have him up for rape again. He says he pleaded with her not to and that she started to yell ‘rape’, ‘rape’’’.

Fallowfield told the police he felt dirty and he just snapped.

“The defendant describes going over to Shirley Reedy and straddled her with a leg on either side of her torso, putting his hands around her throat.”

The jury heard when he removed his hands, she laid limp.

‘‘In his interview, he says he cuddled her, told her he loved her and he was sorry.’’

Ms McKenzie said the pressure applied on her neck was not minimal and told the court Ms Reedy was being treated with medication for schizophrenia at the time of the crime.

This is not a case where the defendant did not appreciate what he was doing and the very real consequences of his act, she said.

Defence counsel Katy Barker told jurors her client did not dispute that he killed his wife, nor the mechanism of her death.

‘‘He is responsible and should be held responsible’’.

In the beginning of the trial, Fallowfield denied the charge of the murder, but told the registrar that he pleaded guilty to manslaughter.

Ms Barker said Fallowfield neither intended to kill her nor cause any injury likely to cause her death.

Much of the evidence presented in court was accepted by both parties but the challenge for the jury was the interpretation of them, she said.

Ms Barker said the Crown would not be able to prove, without reasonable doubt, what the defendant’s state of mind was at the time of the offending.

“The defence’s case is that Mr Fallowfield just wanted his wife to be quiet . . . He did not intend to kill her,” she said.

The trial before Justice Doogue continues tomorrow.

The Crown would call 19 witnesses during the two-week trial.


  1. In Australia there is another female designed charge coming.
    ‘Coercive control’
    Cuts both ways though don’t you think?

    Comment by Rocky — Tue 6th July 2021 @ 1:42 pm

  2. Given the experience of feminism this makes me, just a little suspicious;

    “Our governments need to invest in training for police, for the judiciary and for the community.”

    Comment by Evan Myers — Tue 6th July 2021 @ 2:20 pm

  3. @2

    Firstly, I am not going to agree with hurting anyone. People, men, women and children have been the victims of DV. We just do not openly recognise or consider DV against men, boys and fathers.

    It happens, it is common place. It is happing to someone in NZ as I type this.

    Evan, the Police are very aware. There are former members of the Police who are standing up and speaking out. The problem is, the Police are stopped by their employment contract. The problem is they can’t easily interview and arrest women. When they are out or the service, they do.

    Comment by Lukenz — Tue 6th July 2021 @ 3:37 pm

  4. @3 You’ve probably misunderstood me.

    When everyone else needs to be re-educated by the government that usually spells trouble.

    Comment by Evan Myers — Tue 6th July 2021 @ 4:51 pm

  5. Ouch, the police are putting responsibility on the accused.

    Yet they new she was ill.
    But blamed him, for everything.
    He is obviously going to prison.
    But they demand, it be murder.

    She was violent.
    She made serous accusations.
    Why wasn’t she committed for assessment?
    Should they not have provided support to the male.

    To deal with the drama, of an ill partner.
    Bet he got nothing, other than condescending bullshit.
    Who in the police, takes responsibility for this, failure.
    Was Mens Refuge called, or was nobody called.

    What was the outcome, for him.
    Of her yelling rape.
    And the cops, arriving.
    Wearing White Ribbons.

    Trap an animal, any animal.
    It’s behaviours, now predictable.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Tue 6th July 2021 @ 5:07 pm

  6. Evan you are right.

    With time to consider, and only based upon the news which leaves bits out. I think what may have happened is,

    1. The first rape complaint was investigated and failed to get past the Police.

    2. She decided to romance him again.

    3. They likely had consensual sex.

    4. She told him she was going to claim rape again.

    Playing with his mind by holding hands and leading him on. Maybe setting him up from the beginning of that second romance when the first rape aligation failed. Controlling him. That pushed him over the edge, as I suspect most men would be. I suppose you could say he was battered.

    If the genders were changed, she would have a higher chance of being found to have been battered.

    Comment by Lukenz — Wed 7th July 2021 @ 11:03 am

  7. The nagged partner.
    Never ending put downs.
    Then snap.

    That’s probably the Hen Pecked version.
    For no apparent reason, man kills partner.

    While the dynamics in the post case, is different.
    We don’t get to hear all the evidence.
    And her illness likely created some very random and strange events.
    I would be interested in the sexual relationship.

    How much was sex used to control him.
    Or to keep the relationship going.
    It’s obviously been used as a weapon.
    What genuine rape victim, would want to spend time with the rapist.

    How much did those sexual things.
    Those Power and Control behaviours.
    Affect his mental health, even temporary.
    Effecting his ability to think rationally.

    How much diminished responsibility is there.
    So not a nagging, hen pecked case to me.
    Could be wrong, of course.
    But highly likely, it’s a inability to think situation.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Wed 7th July 2021 @ 4:52 pm

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