Male Blaming Assumptions in COVID19 Outbreak
This story highlights the male-blaming assumptions commonly held by police, in this case, an ex-policeman. He saw a car come to a screeching halt outside his place, saw a woman get out of the car ‘quickly’, then said “Doors were slamming open and shut and they were obviously having quite a heated domestic”.
This language obfuscates the facts; who was slamming doors open and shut? Probably the woman who got out but no need to mention that. Why did the car stop so suddenly? Perhaps because a crazy woman was threatening or trying to leave the car while it was moving. The ex-policeman, keeping a safe distance then ‘found out she was trying to get away from her abusive partner’. How did he ‘find out’ that? If she was trying to get away then why was she in the car with her partner at all and why was she still there opening and slamming car doors? There was no mention of her running down the road or seeking help. Oh right, the ex-policeman ‘felt’ that the woman’s partner had ‘probably come back to try and get her’, and this because he was trying to contact her on the phone. Yes of course, now we understand, not! So on his white knight horse the ex-policeman jumped and drove her to the police station to ‘get a protection order against her partner’. (He probably meant a Police Safety Order, almost always given to women regardless of who is the aggressor.)
Turns out that the woman knew she had tested positive for COVID19 but didn’t think to warn the white knights about this. And she had intended to catch a bus (and possibly visit a laundromat with her washing)! But from the ex-policeman’s perspective she had done nothing wrong, he didn’t blame her for trying to get away from an abusive partner who ‘was riding around in a car all over the place and god knows where he’s going or what he’s doing’. Hey Mr ex-policeman, the woman was also riding around with the man who at least was in his car, didn’t get into your car or put police at the station at risk by withholding information, and wasn’t planning to catch a bus. But of course, never hold a woman accountable for her actions, her contribution to relationship conflict, or in this case for her irresponsible withholding of information about her illness.