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Filed under: General — Downunder @ 7:50 am Fri 26th May 2023

In a perfect world men would be in love with all woman but chose only one to be their life partner.

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  1. DJ Ward says:

    Is it love all women, then magically only love one.
    That’s what feminism demands, that men are loyal to one.
    It is a culture not reality, that humans are monogamous.
    It’s like we need taming, of our natural instincts with marriage.
    The female captures a man, and he magically can’t ever love again.

    Infidelity is not gendered, females are just as bad as men.
    But look at culture attacking the man, breaking the rules.
    Female infidelity slips under the radar, like it doesn’t happen.
    Men can’t control there desire and love, for other women.
    What is it that women can’t control, what’s there excuse.

    In a perfect world, love wouldn’t have rules.

  2. DJ Ward says:

    As an evolutionary argument, what is the natural result.
    If you can imagine culture disappearing, what’s the result.

    As I understand it, we are designed to stay together.
    And it’s duration, is tied to child survival.
    If the male has biology, making them stay for two years.
    The baby is fifteen months old, and less reliant on breast milk.
    It reached a milestone, with the mother needing less support.

    And sex chemistry for relationships, does behave like that.
    So one must look at it logically, how it evolved like that.
    We didn’t evolve getting to 80 years old, we got to our thirties.
    If you give a woman one child, the child is likely to survive.
    But if she has many, then she has less resources per child.
    So many mothers with one child, is an evolutionary strategy.
    Every two years by design, the man moves on to the next mother.

    The mother gets genetic diversity, from many fathers.
    The father gets genetic diversity, from many mothers.

    Yet humans do have monogamy, with permanent relationships.
    That also is an evolutionary strategy, for child survival.
    The father staying around, as a protector and provider.
    He still has many children, just like the polygamous male.

    So where exactly are we, on the evolutionary tree.
    Our success could be, half are polygamous and half are monogamous.
    We survive as a species due to diversity, randomly you are one or the other.
    But we are today, well past nomadic cave people as a society.

    The flaw has become, the development of the child.
    The many mother strategy, loses badly on that subject.
    It exists because of statistically more children, not because of results.
    But our nearest relatives, don’t really have any paternal relationship.
    So monogamy is newer, our ancestors are polygamous.
    It has the better results, in development of children vs polygamy.

    Our success may all be due, to evolution and monogamy.
    We found an evolutionary edge, called child development.
    Yet we can’t magically fix, we are a polygamous animal.

  3. DJ Ward says:

    It’s turning into a sad world, for relationships.
    As easy as it ever has been, you can leave a relationship.
    But unlike the past, the relationship now follows you.
    You could just walk off, into the distance for a new life.
    You now have an IRD number, today you can’t escape.

    The post asks the question, why isn’t all relationships for life.
    Why is it that bad relationships, don’t actually begin at all.
    If all relationships were good, no bad ones would begin.
    We do have relationships of virgins, happy for life.
    But there is many more, that end like one night stands.

    Imagine the extreme, and society has done similar.
    You are made to marry, if you begin a relationship.
    Or both parties first meeting, at the arranged marriage.
    History is full of success, of relationships for life.
    Desire or lust even love, had little to do with results.

    If I look at my own relationship, it should have ended.
    She should have left me, for things I’ve done.
    And I left her, for things she has done.
    Both of us guilty, both of us the victim.
    Is it for better or worse, or the worst for the better.

    I now watch my children play, I have all my reward.
    But it asks the question, about the culture of relationships.
    The extreme is permanent, but we are a permanent culture.
    You can’t escape the relationship, if there’s children.
    No generation can escape, culture solving that problem.

    Maybe a sexual revolution, is abandoning permanent relationships.
    But the reason for them, is not going away.
    It’s the best formula, for raising children.
    Maybe even adults, it’s also adults needing the same thing.
    The revolution gave freedom, but ruined being content or happy in life.

    Society more depressed, also less in relationships.


    Today I shared memories, with my partner.
    Her talking about an Octopus dinner, me about meeting one.
    A story of me snorkelling for crayfish, but finding a large Octopus.
    As alien as a creature can be, slightly scary and moving.
    My partner witness to my exit from the sea, happy as ever to see one.
    We could then relive the trip, finding memories that could have been lost.
    We were in love, having a holiday together.
    Decades have past, but the good memories remain.

  4. DJ Ward says:

    The young person, is exposed to points of view.
    More that ever those points of view, can be distasteful.
    Girls taught Only Fans, is how to get rich.
    Having a sugar daddy, and a baby daddy.
    Free as ever, girls can do anything.
    Sleep with the boss, is a big winner.

    But the boys, look at what they listen to.
    Body counts, and the score out of ten.
    Do everything to never get pregnant, it can ruin your life.
    Is the boy in that 20%, that get all the sex.
    Points of view like Tate, that can often be called sexist and disturbing.
    The male is still stereotyped, as having a role in his mind.

    Society has made sex, something that can harm you for boys.
    Girls view everything as predatory, because it’s evolutionary true.
    But the boys now get taught the same truth, girls are also predators.
    How can you treat something with respect, if it can harm you.
    How can you trust anyone, when you’re taught not to trust them.

    Humans now fail badly, becoming useless at reproduction.
    One can only imagine the cause, lots of sex is happening.
    With only half of pregnancy’s, with the males consent.
    What’s next, teach the girls to get better at it.

    Funny a politician said, NZ needs more babies.
    Was he asking the girls, or asking the boys.
    What type of deal, is the politician offering.
    Guaranteed, child support.
    Men who got there lives wrecked, are teaching the boys.
    You cannot stop it or the internet, the damage is done.

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