A message to all children victims of family court.
One day you will bury your father. And that day you will realise you lost the only man who wanted to see you do better than him.
Here are six questions to ask your father before he dies.
Number one. What’s your happy memory of us?
Number two. What were those first few days of fatherhood like?
Number three. What do you want or wish most for your kids?
Number four. When was the moment you felt most proud of me?
Number five. What’s the nicest thing I’ve ever done for you?
Number six. What’s the one thing you want me to always remember after you’re gone?
Fathers are our silent heros carrying the weight of the family on their backs. Oftentimes not getting recognised or appreciated as they deserve. And as life moves forward, we often forget to ask the questions that, so take time out to speak with them now because one day it’s their wisdom and love and presence that you’ll miss the most long after they’re gone.
Read by Denzel Washington.
They are certainly questions we can ask, we all have fathers.
The spectrum extreme, from the absent to the fully involved.
My own father buried his father, we all die with no more days.
The dead may be judged, but they can’t do more or do less.
That’s the burden of living, you can still fix or change things.
I rarely see my father, and I can blame myself for that.
Do they not say he was a good son, just as they say good father.
Just as I could be a better father, I could be a better son.
The burden is always on you, everyone has regrets they can make.
Comment by DJ Ward — Sun 27th April 2025 @ 8:25 pm
“Sons of a Good Keen Man” published in 2022 twenty five years after Barry Crump’s death is not the ultimate book on fatherhood, but quoted his son Martin:
There is one thing he [his father Barry] told me.
He simply said: If all’s to be okay, your kids have to better than you.’
Comment by Busby — Wed 30th April 2025 @ 10:12 am
“ Number three. What do you want or wish most for your kids?”
That’s like a reason for living, that we make the world better.
It’s not enough that it’s only your kids, if the world is evil.
No matter how hard you try, you can’t predict the outcomes.
What if they married a good man, who turns out the abuser.
Helped them into a house, stolen in a matrimonial property case.
They were just the random victim, criminals roam the streets.
Fall victim to false accusations, bigoted policing and laws.
See in many ways humans fail, despite there amazing things.
The world the best it’s ever been, yet the humans are the problem.
It’s like a charade, the main rooms all tidy but the bedrooms a mess.
The government is the same, permanently managing a state of chaos.
The politicians human, the flaws of that inevitable.
Can you imagine an AI being taking over, replacing politicians.
Program it to never lie, that would be a great change.
Comment by DJ Ward — Fri 2nd May 2025 @ 10:37 am