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Fri 24th December 2010

Examples of the Pussy Pass in Action

Filed under: Law & Courts — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 11:56 pm

Here are several incredible examples of the pussy pass, sexist chivalry on display in our criminal justice system. (more…)

Wed 22nd December 2010

The Genderisation of Partner Violence

Filed under: Domestic Violence — Phil267 @ 5:45 pm

After reading other members’ contributions I thought you might like to read a presentation I gave at work about what I perceive as a bigotted and sexist attitude towards family violence with social service agencies, the media and society in general.


There appears to be a disturbing trend where males are typecast as the perpetrators of family violence and women are typecast as the victim. This typecast is so embedded into the modern culture of western society, and backed up by pop psychology, that people succumb to it without realising. There are several example of this inaccurate typecast. One example is where a Physiotherapist was totally shocked to hear that the incidence of partner violence is equal between men and women. I have heard a comment at a team meeting stating that women in relationships get violent only to defend themselves. I have heard a Social Worker mention that male on female violence is worse than female on male violence. Bob Geldof on the What About Me CD talks about how men are vilified in society and how it is a great shame.

Sun 19th December 2010

Wake Up

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 11:37 pm

Here is an acoustic version of a song I wrote some years ago and I am just now recording. The mp3 format reduces the sound quality, but anyway, this is the first ever published version of this song.

Fri 17th December 2010

Board of Shame

Filed under: General — Eric @ 6:44 pm

Still battling to see my kids via the Family Court. Not even getting a hearing date. I think the system is on its last legs.

Just had an idea. Has anybody thought about having a Board of Shame on the internet listing all the mothers that prevent fathers from seeing their offspring? I am interested to know if such a thing could be stopped and if so, how. Comments pse.

Sun 12th December 2010

Critics warn on pregnant mother alerts re abuse

Filed under: Boys / Youth / Education,Domestic Violence,General,Sex Abuse / CYF — MurrayBacon @ 10:35 am

Whilst the public debate about child abuse in NZ has been somewhat distracted by deaths and horrific injuries to a very small number of children, the overall social vandalism of larger numbers of children is perhaps more disabling, in the territory of emotional neglect. Although emotional neglect leaves no bruises or broken bones and a few days of neglect is readily compensated for, months of neglect of babies leaves long lasting social damage, that so far has been extremely difficult to correct later on. Our prison building programme illustrates a small fraction of the total cost. Suicide gravestones illustrates another face of the cost of emotional neglect.

Men’s advocates have been slow to notice this distraction device. In some cases, the fathers would be equally unsatisfactory parents, as humans tend to assortively-mate. In most cases, the father of the emotionally neglected child can offer safer and more effective parenting, rather than remove the child from the parents completely, with all of the hazards and risks that this entails. The CYFs Act already provides for this, but in practice some social workers and “judges” fail to follow through with those clauses, perhaps due to unresolved problems with their own childhoods? Even more worrying, the manner of intervention by CYFs sometimes disables fathers from being able to care for their children, when they would have been capable if the intervention was appropriately sensitive to the situation. Pure vandalism.

Due to the apparent impossibility to rectify the damage done to babies and young children by sustained emotional neglect, rather draconian looking measures are required – to be sure that all children are being protected from this hazard. (Future research might discover methods of helping to correct for effects of childhood emotional neglect, but thus far this seems to be very elusive, Prevention is presently far more effective than trying to later cure.)

Sat 11th December 2010

More Misandrist Justice

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:38 am

A couple of interesting recent Court examples of minimization of women’s offending. Firstly, associated with the Murapara gangster murder of a teenager four additional people, three men and one woman were convicted of participating in a criminal group. (more…)

Mon 6th December 2010

Breach of justice as a Suicide Trigger

Filed under: General — MurrayBacon @ 9:42 pm

Breach of justice as a Suicide Trigger
Please note that I am using justice in the sense of police investigation plus caught hearings.
Betrayal of trust can also be seen as being your own worst enemy, by misplacing your trust. Be streetwise!

Massive miscarriage of justice

By Louise Shorter, from insidetime issue November 2010

Legal action set to take place in the Court of Appeal in London could pave the way for hundreds of child pornography convictions, secured during Operation Ore, to be overturned in what is being described by campaigners as a massive miscarriage of justice.

Operation Ore, the codename for the police investigation which began in 2002, was launched after information supplied by US law enforcement agencies purported to show that more than 7,000 UK men used their credit cards to access online child pornography sites. It netted high profile figures such as The Who guitarist Pete Townshend and fed the nation’s fear that paedophilia is endemic throughout modern cyber-savvy society.

But the police operation which ran for more than five years is steeped in controversy, with critics claiming the computer database of users’ names and credit card details was riddled with fraud. Defence experts say the fraud being perpetuated was simple and effective: owners of websites including legal adult pornography re-used credit card details supplied to them to sign up for their illegal services, child pornography. Chris Saltrese, the solicitor representing Anthony O’Shea whose case will be heard at the Appeal Court this month, says: “there are hundreds of people who’ve been convicted of one of the worst crimes imaginable. Lives and families have been destroyed. But the evidence now shows that many of those convicted weren’t paedophiles at all. They were victims of straightforward online credit card fraud.”

Sun 5th December 2010

Survey on “Prenuptual” Agreements

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:52 am

I am conducting a survey on use and experience of “prenuptual” or relationship property agreements. I would be grateful if you could complete the survey and also if you would pass on the link to other people or groups so that I can get a meaningful sample. I welcome any comments about the survey itself, the questions etc, keeping in mind that the free version of the survey only allows 10 questions. You can access the survey here. Thanks all!

Thu 2nd December 2010

Should gender studies be scrapped?

I went back to school as an adult student to study business, with an accounting major in the hope of starting my own business a number of years back. While studying the last papers I phoned my tutor and said I was disappointed because I felt the amount of compulsory social papers took up time I could have been studying actual accounting in this fast evolving field.

I thought about complaining to the New Zealand Institute of Chartered Accountants (NZICA) but came across either their site or another national accounting site that had already noticed what I had and from 2010 you only have 2 compulsory social papers.

Now don’t get me wrong, ……I have no problem learning about social issues. It’s just the WAY I have to learn them. Instead of a discussion or really thinking for myself, I had to write papers agreeing with theories already in place. That’s very frightening for gender studies IMO, and based on my experience, I’d scrap gender studies in a heartbeat because it’s built on ‘Feminist theories‘. In fact, it’s very devious to change women’s studies to gender studies and make out it’s for men too.

Amanda Fisher of The Dominion Post has an article titled ‘Axing gender studies ‘setback to rights” that has an opinion poll asking, “Is there still a place for gender studies at universities?” – And there’s quite a number of interesting comments with men being mostly concerned men’s study should be things that concern men like work deaths instead of how they can serve women’s wants and needs.

It’s great to see men sticking up for themselves these days, yet they’re not alone.

Back in September 2010, German’s Family Minister Kristina Schröder in charge of women’s issues slammed feminists and their theories.

Wed 1st December 2010

Suicide awareness and prevention presentation

Filed under: Events — Julie @ 3:49 pm

I thought I’d put this up here because it’s become a big event and men’s representative Jim Bagnall is presenting something special about fathers plight and suicide and by the looks of it Murray will be video taping the event. Also, I chased up a teenager who left a comment on a post by Mike in May 2008 and then met up with the mother the article was about. She [Maria Bradshaw] is remarkable and already changes are taking place in New Zealand regarding suicide awareness.

We’d love for men and women who read this site to come along and support as well as learn some.

ORGANISATIONS are banding together in the battle against suicide, which claims more Kiwi lives per year than the road toll and you are invited to come listen to speakers sensitive to the subject and the latest unfortunate events in Papakura.

Debbie Swanwick, of the Auckland Single Parents Trust, says East Auckland has the highest rate of suicide of men aged 40-60 in the western world.

Suicide prevention group Casper and the trust are holding a public meeting to share personal stories, current practices and other options to try reduce the number of people who take their own lives.

The meeting will take place on Sunday, December 5, from 3-6pm at the Senior Citizens Hall, 8 East Street, Papakura.

Casper, which stands for Community Action on Suicide Prevention Education and Research, was co-founded by Maria Bradshaw, who has been campaigning for suicide awareness and change since the death of her son, Toran Henry, at the age of 17 in 2008.

Jim Bagnall, of Project Reunion, who has worked with more than 10,000 fathers and mothers dealing with separations over the past 12 years, will present “The Black Hole”, a place people reach prior to taking their own lives. “People naturally revert to their instinctual level where self harm or harm to others can take place”, he says. “The system to some degree is not coping and experiences can fill in the gaps”.

Other speakers include representatives of Counties Manukau Mental Health and a secondary school student who has experienced depression.

The meeting will coincide with the opening of the South Auckland division of Auckland Single Parents Trust, and will start with a performance by dance group The Geeks.
For enquiries, email info@singleparents.org.nz

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