From The Shower…Again.
I also read the article in the Herald today. Once again I was distressed by the distortions which keep rising and rising.
For example, the graph does not demonstrate the numbers of female violent acts against men.
But most importantly, the data does not even attempt to address the issue of women making false allegations of ‘violence’ for the sole purposes of gaining custody of the children.
No person in their right mind would dispute there are many violent people, both men and women, in all societies. It is my view that any person who is proven to be violent (physically) should be dealt with extremely. But mostly they aren’t.
The authorities seek to remove the victim from further potential abuse by issuing various orders. In most cases these orders are sufficient, in some they are a total waste of space.
But surely, as with all attempts at ‘law-enforcement’ the main problem is, we simply don’t have enough police to enforce. But even if we had a cop standing outside every second house in the realm, the truly seriously violent person will find a way past to kill or seriously maime.
What is not featured in the statistics, other than female-on-male violence, is the number of orders taken out against an accused malfactor where no proof of abuse was offered other than the word of the accuser.
And so the number of false-accusers are lumped in with the genuine accusers, the female abusers are left out completely, and thus the stats are utterly distorted…AGAIN.
And the very reason the stats are so distorted is that the level of proof, within the Family Court (read; all associated agencies) is so far below the standard required in a normal court of law.
It is THIS issue which must surely be our prime focus. Surely, our (disaffected parents) salvation is in finding a way to cause the legal ‘system’ to once again require proof of accusation. Proof which would stand the test of close scrutiny.
At the moment the system seems to assert, ‘It is better to save one child/mother, while destroying the lives of 9 children/fathers. Just in case we miss one.’
Surely? This is madness?
And so, in a knee-jerk reaction to the vile Kahui clan, the system will loosen the reigns on proof and tighten them on the accused.
It’s rather like asserting, “It’s better to have 300,000+ children bereft (and, therefore, seriously damaged as a result) of real and equal input by the other partner, than risk having one child hurt by a partner.”
I wonder how long it will be before vexed employees either threaten to, or actually level charges of impropriety against their employers.
One call to CYFS. ‘Hi. Look I don’t want to be named, but I’ve just seen my boss ‘touching’ his son. Yeah, I just happened to walk past his office…It’s school holidays and all…and I just happened to see him with his hand down the boy’s pants.’
Immediately, the system erupts. Investigators are sent. Investigations are completed. The child refutes. The child is deemed to be in denial. Or the system asserts ‘Insufficient evidence, but an accusation is an accusation, therefore it MUST have merit. Otherwise, why would it have been made?’ The accusation stays on the file for the life of the accused.
But there is NO proof, and without proof all we have is ‘belief’ and we can see how damaging ‘belief’ can be to a society. Go ask all those injured in 9/11 who were victims of the ‘beliefs’ of sundry madmen.
And without ‘proof’ we have statistics churning out asserting that all female accusers tell the truth and that there are no female assaulters.
PROOF. That’s what we must all strive for. To make the system accept only PROOF, and have that PROOF required to be at a standard acceptable to the criminal court.