Torture is any act by which severe pain, whether physical or psychological, is intentionally inflicted on a person as a means of intimidation, deterrence, revenge, punishment, or information gathering.

Ask any prisoner of war and he will tell you that the worst torture of all is psychological. Physical pain can be endured by a strong person but psychological pain has broken almost every person who has endured it.

Why is it that the DV bill doesn’t include the word torture? Could it be that the word violence best describes what men do? To use the word torture might give weight to the reality that most men endure torture when their partner wishes to hurt them.

I have endured torture over the last three and a half years. It has nearly broken my spirit and that of my extended family. If I had a choice of passing through a gangs initiation line up and my ex wifes anger I would happily spend a week of getting “the bash”. I am living proof that the system allows a female to persue a course of torture. Although I have had 4 judges from the family court find in my favour she still carries on. If I was of a weak mind and to kill her in order to end my misery I would become another statistic to illustrate that men are violent.