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Filed under: General — triassic @ 2:17 pm Sun 16th July 2006

Torture is any act by which severe pain, whether physical or psychological, is intentionally inflicted on a person as a means of intimidation, deterrence, revenge, punishment, or information gathering.

Ask any prisoner of war and he will tell you that the worst torture of all is psychological. Physical pain can be endured by a strong person but psychological pain has broken almost every person who has endured it.

Why is it that the DV bill doesn’t include the word torture? Could it be that the word violence best describes what men do? To use the word torture might give weight to the reality that most men endure torture when their partner wishes to hurt them.

I have endured torture over the last three and a half years. It has nearly broken my spirit and that of my extended family. If I had a choice of passing through a gangs initiation line up and my ex wifes anger I would happily spend a week of getting “the bash”. I am living proof that the system allows a female to persue a course of torture. Although I have had 4 judges from the family court find in my favour she still carries on. If I was of a weak mind and to kill her in order to end my misery I would become another statistic to illustrate that men are violent.


  1. I underwent extreme psychological abuse (torture)with my estranged wife for more years than I care to remember and,yes,physical abuse signs fade and disappear within days..psychological abuse takes years,if ever,to dissipate and evanesce.

    Comment by Mike — Sun 16th July 2006 @ 6:37 pm

  2. 2001 CYFS report into none existant sexual abuse allegations made by a vindictive ex mother in law states ; Family Compostition /Interactions ” Mother & Father still good friends . Family appear to have a normal relationship ,children enjoy the company of their father and obviously feel safe with him .”
    In the same year July 18th the filth hit me with protection orders to cover my ex , my daughters ,the maternal gran parents , the ex’s sister !!!! The pain and torture when you become a victim of a huge miscarriage of justice is beyond belief and only those who have experienced know what I mean. I think of my lost daughters every minute of the day . It would be so easy to kill one of the 25 judges involved as they will not admitt to a mistake has been made. I got nothing to lose as society views me a dangerous criminal !!!! Bang bang down goes a judge -simple as that …. I think they call it natural justice ? At least rotting in prison I will be comforted that I tried to fix the injustice of permanent protection orders x 6 . The frustration will erupt as the bastards can ruin a man on spurious grounds – then they shut the gate on ALL EVIDENCE that can clear his name !!!

    Comment by Peter Burns — Mon 17th July 2006 @ 7:18 am

  3. Hi Peter,

    I can understand you having those thoughts. But time WILL pass and if any of us do something like that we have to live with it the rest of our lives. It is only a short term solution and in 10 years (which will be) we might all find that justice, honesty, truth and all the other good in life was there for us in the end.

    Comment by julie — Mon 17th July 2006 @ 7:46 am

  4. I would never resort to any sort violence, and I was only expressing my feelings as a pissed off parent .I thought a holiday to Australia with my 21 year old twin sons might be in order to get my head straight but no I get in the mail today : ” Your New Zealand conviction record dated 29 June 2006 was fully examined and it has been determined that , based on that information , you may not pass the ” character test.”
    False allegations in the family court have put me in same boat as a terrorist. I got a letter from the Australian Attorney General Phillip Ruddock Feb 2006 inviting me to meet with him if I am ever in Camberra ???He liked my submission on shared parental responsibility . Its a funny old world eh ???Maybe I write to him again as the useless bunch that run this sad state are not worth talking too !!!!
    God help us – 4 the kids -dad4justice

    Comment by Peter Burns — Mon 17th July 2006 @ 5:32 pm

  5. Hi Peter,

    I was not taking you seriously but you are not the first to think it. You should here some of the plans I hear.
    Al D Rado’s head would even spin.

    Yeah, it sucks that you cannot go for a holiday to Aussie.

    Comment by julie — Mon 17th July 2006 @ 6:49 pm

  6. Who’s been spinning my head eh?

    Peter – remember Immigration share the Police’s database of untried / unproven convictions. This site is a legal publication. Even humoured suggestions to shoot judges can be misconstrued and held against you.

    So the Police have it on record you have been accused of maybe oneday (past or future) being violence.
    I presume you’re a NZ citizen. I’ve never heard of Aussie stopping NZ’r holidaying there, let alone living there, based on a police record!

    PS – not much surprises me anymore Julie – not since my ex decided to slander me by telling various people I may have sexully abused my children. The judge said there was no evidence; I wait for her to disprove her allegations as malicious, and slanderous.
    Then she can start disproving her perjury, which she has now in-not-so-few-words admitted.

    a few weeks ago, when I was eoving a razor blade from a young girl’s hand, as she was in desperation for love and attention, cutting her arms, it hit home what false allegations in court do. I don’t believe this girl will see 25.

    Last year, as I walked along a rocky short, hand in hand with a young girl of seven, who wanted to call me dad, I realised what domestic violence truly does. That young child has come as close to witnessing the worse possible DV our country has to offer; she will be a mess when she is an adult.

    My head no longer spins; I’ve heard it all.

    Comment by Al D Rado — Mon 17th July 2006 @ 8:21 pm

  7. Oh yes,

    Having a record does stop you from NZ visiting Australia and visa versa.
    But, you can reapply after a number of years. I think it is 5 years. 5 long years staying out of trouble with the law. (Does not include traffic fines and I’m not sure about drink driving.)

    Al D Rado,

    Wow! Is your partner coming clean? And righting the wrong?

    Comment by julie — Mon 17th July 2006 @ 9:58 pm

  8. My completely unsubstantiated theory on why women turn so nasty in separations is that SOME women think they don’t have much power in ordinary life and are passive aggressors. therefore, give them an opportunity to wield power and have a lawyer do the dirty work for them makes it an attractive opportunity to put the boot in without having to have a confrontation themselves. They like to be seen as victims and are unwilling to take responsibility for themselves. As long as the battle continues they can see their partner on a regular basis and make them suffer for what they have done to them.
    What do you think Julie?

    Comment by Chrissy — Tue 18th July 2006 @ 5:22 pm

  9. No Julie, she’s not coming clean – she’s contradicting her sworn oath, which means she’s proving she committed perjury.
    Since a ‘substantive’ court has found “NO” evidence of sexual abuse, for her to have asserted I may have done anything is slander – effectively proven. She wouldn’t have a show of defending heerself in the High Court!

    Give them enough rope, I say – they soon hang themselves …

    Comment by Al D Rado — Tue 18th July 2006 @ 7:17 pm

  10. I give you suckers some advice that cost me $1.7 million in defence. For 12 years I fought to protect my prenuptial and my children. Every time I won in the family court it was appealed in the high court.

    Lawyers and Judges are a reflection of the society and time we live in. It is misandric and will remain that way for at least another generation. IF YOU ARE A MASOCHIST THEN BY ALL MEANS TRY TO GET A SYSTEM THAT IS FAIR. However, if you want to have a happy life for the small time you are on this planet then accept a cynical fact, you will never change the system.


    Believe anything else and you are a fool!!!

    Comment by Kevin — Tue 18th July 2006 @ 8:41 pm

  11. Chrissy,

    To be honest with you, I don’t know much about the FC. Nor about the cases that go there. I have lots of information on the subject but I have not got around to reading it. I am just starting to get involved with both sides through single parents and I must tell you, it is very stressful.

    I would think that it is some sort of power struggle and that one throws dirt at the other and then the other throws dirt back. But lucky for the female because she has a few tools laying on the side. Game over.
    But both should be careful because both can lose to CYFS if they throw enough dirt.

    So, I agree with you but I think both sides should take responsibility.

    Comment by julie — Tue 18th July 2006 @ 9:46 pm

  12. if you want to have a happy life for the small time you are on this planet then accept a cynical fact, you will never change the system.

    Well Kevin, I question if you are really happy? Ever wondered why children experience happiness with so little? It\’s due to their lack of cynicism. To have your attitude day in day out must sap you of all positive energy. The freedoms you experience right now were fought for you by someone else buddy. Fact is that a terrible amount of male blood has been shed for females to enjoy their freedoms as well. It takes BALLS to stand up to the system Kevin, what happened to yours?

    Comment by triassic — Wed 19th July 2006 @ 9:42 pm

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