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DIY – check it out

Filed under: General — JohnPotter @ 3:17 pm Sat 1st September 2007

A NZ site called DIY Father launched today in Wellington has already had more publicity in the last few days than the MENZ site has in its entire 10 year existence! Messages from the Children’s Commissioner Cindy Kiro and the Police National Family Violence Co-ordinator Ged Byers demonstrates that the founders have friends in high places indeed! They write that the site was started by:

dads Scott Lancaster, Eric Mooij and Stefan Korn who recognised the need for a dedicated website for fathers. Based on their own experiences of struggling to find useful parenting related information from a male perspective they created

Watch the video of Scott Lancaster being interviewed by Pippa Wetzell on TV1’s Breakfast show here.

They have certainly done an impressive amount of work so far with blog postings every few minutes far into the night; will they be able to sustain this magnificent effort? It will be interesting to see what happens when babies Pyper and Noah start teething – then we’ll find out whether they really are superdad material!

Anything out there promoting positive messages about fathering is great, as far as I’m concerned. I wish them all the best.


  1. But this week both fathers and mens perspective on TV has been more than the negativity of the last 30 years or so. The only bit of negativity I thoulht was that email from a female to close up complaining about the discomfort of screening tests. I wonder if that same female would like to be trapped in a coal mine for many days, work in filth and muck, end up injuring her body working with heavy weights continually, or even out in all weathers. Might damage her makeup??????

    Comment by Alastair — Sat 1st September 2007 @ 3:38 pm

  2. I just checked the new website out and I can’t see a section on how you can handle corrupt family courts judges stealing your children for six years ? Any advice would be helpful -yeah right !!!

    Comment by dad4justice — Sun 2nd September 2007 @ 11:27 am

  3. Hey

    Thanks for the comments, I believe we have a great site and look forward to hearing from you guys if you would like to contribute any articles or information that you have. Dads4justice we dont have a “corrupt family court judges stealing children for six years” but we would love to hear from you, there will no doubt be a few other fathers in this position, in fact ask Eric one of the other directors he has been down this track and has had some great results, he lost his 3 children. Im not superdad material but Pyper is going to grow up making sure that she knows i will be there for her no matter what. Maybe she is teething early she has been a little grizzly of late :-).I hope you guys can post some comments – we want the best for men and parenting that simple!

    Thanks and we look forward to hearing from you


    Comment by Scott Lancaster — Mon 3rd September 2007 @ 9:40 pm

  4. Good on you Scott.

    Comment by julie — Mon 3rd September 2007 @ 9:46 pm

  5. I agree Scott any exposure for Dads and Fatherhood is great in country run by a marxist matriarchy, who are hell bent on saturating our small nation with Fatherlessness . Best of luck and I will support you 100%

    Comment by dad4justice — Mon 3rd September 2007 @ 10:01 pm

  6. Hey

    I think you will probably have a great story to tell, so if you are ever interested in telling us then we would welcome it. The best gift you can give some one is knowledge.


    Comment by Scott Lancaster — Mon 3rd September 2007 @ 10:33 pm

  7. Yup – it’s going to be tough keeping up the pace we set for ourselves. The great thing is though that it’s not so much about us (writing, knowing it all) but what comes back from the community of dads out there. About 1/3 of the articles has been contributed by others – so we are hoping that the contributions will keep coming in.

    Also, Noah has started teething now 🙂


    Comment by Stefan — Tue 4th September 2007 @ 9:23 am

  8. Great post JohnP thank you.
    The stand that Dad4justice has is a hot topic which I will be happy to handle on behalf of
    I am very happy with the direction the site is going Scott and Stefan are new dads and I have nothing but support for the success of their family, and I wouldn’t wish my experiance on any family.
    Keep the comments coming

    Comment by Eric — Tue 4th September 2007 @ 12:22 pm

  9. Well done!Just saw the piece on tv3 and just wanted to say-Great stuff!Good on you Guys!!Really good to see this happening and very touching too.

    Comment by Joanne Henderson — Wed 12th September 2007 @ 7:36 pm

  10. Thanks for the encouragement looking forward to seeing more fathers on the site also.

    Thanks Scott

    Comment by Scott Lancaster — Wed 12th September 2007 @ 10:04 pm

  11. You can watch the TV3 video here.

    Comment by JohnP — Wed 12th September 2007 @ 10:09 pm

  12. John,

    that is because the general public are not comfortable with uncovering injustice from an instiution on which we all must rely in order to affect a system.

    This is why your site is deemed protagonist: even if the wider public would be forced to agree with the principles of injustice, defined as indisputable through the weight of their existence.

    It is good that fathers’ are now getting the necessary affection of the public and it has taken a long, long time, by many many men. Yet I request of you independently that you do not minimise the effect thast you have generated and commanded where, as Paul and I once reflected not that long ago, that your website and its initiative was head and shoulders above any other site accessible, in NZ anyway, and that that effect was of paramount importance for those who used its support.

    Benjamin Easton.

    Comment by Benjamin Easton — Thu 13th September 2007 @ 11:42 am

  13. Kia ora men.
    I enjoyed reading some of the comments. I have 1 daughter. Shes 2yrs 4mnths. She lives in otaki. I live in Whanganui. I pick her up every weekend and school holidays. The week days are the hardest. I miss her like crazy. I never really understood the meaning of that sentence until now.
    To any other fathers enduring the same pain. Chin up, cheer up brothers.
    Kia kaha.

    Comment by Selwyn — Tue 26th August 2008 @ 11:23 am

  14. Selwyn,
    I have a father who I have helped at Otaki Beach with a 3 year old who you might like to contact and swap stories with. He did every second weekend Hamilton to Otaki for 18 months before he got shared care through the FC and he then moved to be closer to his son once their was security she wasn’t going to flee somewhere else again. Big sacrifices but he is more than happy.
    you can e-mail me at [email protected]

    Comment by allan Harvey — Tue 26th August 2008 @ 12:59 pm

  15. Hey guys

    Good work and great to hear that there are some positive success stories

    Bring them on and keep them coming!

    We need more of this, we have too much negativity around in the media.

    Regards Scott

    Comment by Scott Lancaster — Tue 26th August 2008 @ 6:27 pm

  16. DIY Dads is great. Yes there as some positive stories out there, which is great to know and hear about, but there are plenty that are not positive as well. Negative stories need to be told and heard, even more so that the positive. My daughter is now 21 and I have not had any proper contact with her since she was age 5. Now she is running riot in Melbourne, being banned from nightclubs for punching other patrons who end up needing stitches, etc. Her only maternal uncle died the other week age 46. Her mother, and their parents (all who live locally and knew of the death), didn’t even bother going to his funeral. Appalling! He was a good guy, but my daughter’s mother and her parents are trash. My daughter’s mother has a fraud conviction too. The ‘Family’ Court has a lot to answer for!

    Comment by PR — Mon 6th July 2009 @ 4:07 pm

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