I am father of 2 children of different mothers, and for a few years now – a solo parent. I have been involved in the Family court system for a few years now. I have custody of one of my children (A) and am fighting for more access with the other (B).I guess one of the biggest things getting to me(apart from not seeing (B) much 🙁 ) is the council for child, she is the lawyer for both of my children.
(A)There were some very serious allegations i made against one of the mothers (some of which are now substanstiated) but still the childs Lawyer fought for more access for her, or for it to continue, even when the mother did not seem interested. I was also shocked at how quickly CYFS could dismiss my allegations and the way they conducted their investigations.
(B)On the other hand my other childs mother i feel has used the system/allegations of DV against me, affectively limiting and controling the access i have with our child as a manipulative way to get to me emotionally. I do not feel the lawyer for child is pursueing access for my child(B) the way she has in the other case, Even though i am an active father pushing for more access.
I have in the past at times represented myself and raised these concerns with more than one judge but have always been told i was wrong, one time I told a judge i thought the system was geared around the mothers and was severly repremanded for having such a view and for questioning the court!
Psych reports have been done for both cases which agrred i was a good father, but in ways seem to contridict themselves and i beleave are biased toward the womans side, i daren’t suggest that in court.
All this has at times made me start doubting myself and my role or capability as a father, it has certainly changed my opinion of our justice system! and the people that make a living out of working in and around it. All the Best….