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Advocate asks Govt to register ‘wife-bashers’

Filed under: General — UF @ 11:21 am Tue 15th April 2008

Auckland’s domestic violence victim support agency wants a national register of the most violent offenders to be set up so new partners can be warned about dangerous men.

Preventing Violence in the Home director Jane Drumm told a child abuse conference in Manukau yesterday that the safety of women and children should override the privacy of offenders.


  1. I have tried to find an email address for this organisation or their leader Jane Drumm, but no luck.

    Comment by Hans Laven — Tue 15th April 2008 @ 11:24 am

  2. No register of violent females , then ? Now that is a surprise.

    Well we will all end up on the register, after all , we do terrible violent deeds like “arguing in front of the kids” and “have scared our wives”. I guess throwing things at men does not count though, because we all have penises.
    This warrants us being thrown out of our kids’ lives , doesn’t it ?
    WHEN WILL ALL THIS CHANGE ? FOR GOD’S SAKE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Comment by ZubbaZubba — Tue 15th April 2008 @ 11:25 am

  3. The organisation Preventing Violence in the Home was formally called The Domestic Violence Centre , and Jane Drumm is their Chief Executive. Contact details are on their website.

    In 2002 Jane Drumm and her collegues attempted to shut down the Inner City Group for Men, which was an approved provider of Stopping Violence services in Auckland. When ICGM director John Binsted appealed the decision, the High Court at Auckland ruled that the Northern Region Domestic Violence Approval Panel breached the Inner City Group for Men’s right to natural justice.

    The court drama has revealed a behind-the-scenes fight for funding control, with philosophical battlelines drawn over whether feminist ideology should dominate anti-violence programmes.

    Comment by JohnP — Tue 15th April 2008 @ 12:05 pm

  4. I keep a register of violent females in Access 2002. I will add add any female provided I can be satisfied of the bona fides of the allegation, unlike P/O’s. It presently has a little over 120 entries. As far as I am concerned it is open property – as opposed to “MINE” Anybody who asks I will send a full copy or extract data. It’s a bit “Lumpy” as I put it together in a bit of a hurry and didn’t fully think through the reporting aspects. None the less, It can report.

    I am just starting another holding all the sychophants of the family court. It is imminent on going live.

    To read either you need access 2002 or later.

    Comment by Alastair — Tue 15th April 2008 @ 2:00 pm

  5. Dear Readers,

    Unlike Jane, I have to go out and earn an income to support both ourselves and the clients that arrive seeking temporary refuge (mostly men)from abusive relationships therefore am unable to flit around at do-good workshops.
    I take offence to the article as presented and suggest that any person within the Domestic Violence Industry, who has conscience rather than agenda, start to independantly investigate the reasoning behind this latest and blatent demonization of Men.

    Kindest Regards

    Paul Catton
    East Auckland Refuge for Men and Families
    (09) 940 6236

    Comment by Paul Catton — Tue 15th April 2008 @ 9:36 pm

  6. Fully supported Paul, maybe I should also add suffer the abuse of the feminist movement.

    A further aspect of their so called “Non violence” courses is they produce and reinforce powerful feelings in the perpetrators forced to attend. These feelings stem from the perpetrator being in denial and feeling victimised. These results are resultant on the feeling of not being listened to.

    A further question, Hans may be aware of the answer, Was not the Duluth method thouroughly debunked as pure psychobabble some time ago.

    Comment by Alastair — Tue 15th April 2008 @ 9:50 pm

  7. I would like to add my African wife to the list of violent women, Claire RUDASINGWA. She eventually took out a protection order against ME for “making her feel scared” and made false allegations saying i was violent to one of my sons. She then stopped me seeing them for 3 months, and the useless lawyer for child was intrumental in allowing her to do this.
    This was despite documented police complaints in Belgium, involving several violent incidents, once where i nearly lost my eye. I reported her to NZ police after she punched me in the car in front of our twin boys, and the police officer said that “In NZ it is only men that make the domestic violence”. She also stole quite large amounts of money and credit cards from me. This women lives in Kapiti and on the face of it seems to be the most charming person you will ever meet, but underneath is a violent woman who could easily kill.

    Comment by martin swash — Wed 16th April 2008 @ 4:57 am

  8. Hi Martin,
    Good to hear from you. What are you up to? Allan.
    Flick me back an e-mail to [email protected]

    Comment by Allan Harvey — Wed 16th April 2008 @ 8:00 am

  9. Loaded Martin. My other Database will be storing details of Sychophants (Look that one up in the dictionary) of the family court.Could you email be correct name, address, practice name, anything else that enables us to tie the same person together even though they may receive a new job or shift.

    You can contact me via Allan

    Comment by Alastair — Wed 16th April 2008 @ 9:59 am

  10. a man of great wisdom speaks…

    Comment by cb — Wed 16th April 2008 @ 12:10 pm

  11. Does anyone know an email or postal address for Jane Drumm or “Preventing Violence in the Home” organisation?

    Comment by Hans Laven — Thu 17th April 2008 @ 10:16 am

  12. Yes, we can all give her some home truths, the F***ing bitch

    Comment by ZubbaZubba — Thu 17th April 2008 @ 11:07 am

  13. In theroy, a register like that would be a great idea, but it would need to be worked so that it is equal though out genders, and with the police and courts, favoring women, to the point where A man makes an acusation against a woman, even though he has blood driping out his eye, where his wife has just wacked him over the head with a 4X2, and the cops just turn around and say, harden up man, it will never work.

    Comment by nzleagle — Fri 18th April 2008 @ 4:04 am

  14. In theroy, a register like that would be a great idea, but it would need to be worked so that it is equal though out genders
    Comment by nzleagle – Fri 18th April 2008

    Luvly, we’ll call it a “bastard’s and bitch’s” list, hey – why not go one further and pair them up and put them on a desolate island and add a reality t.v. show to boot… a few new couples each week, now with that kind of exposure, who needs a bloody register drumm the nunn (stop trying to play mother teresa) the pope is doing a good job as things are….

    Comment by cb — Sat 19th April 2008 @ 12:04 am

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