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Happy fathers’ day

Filed under: General — Darryl Ward @ 11:22 am Thu 4th September 2008

Many of you who read this will be fathers and you will be spending some or all of fathers’ day with your children. This is a day to celebrate your role, a role that all too often is not only overlooked and underestimated, but undermined and maligned.

This is a day for all of you to be thanked for all that you have done for your children, whether it was sacrificing precious time (that you would rather have spent with them) working to ensure that there was bread on the table, or spending a weekend building a doll’s house.

This day is for all fathers.

This day is to dispel the negative and terribly wrong stereotypes surrounding fathers.

This day is to remember that children need love and care from both their mothers and their fathers.

This day is to acknowledge the selfless love and sacrifice of our own fathers.

For some of you though, this will not be a happy day, for you will not have any contact with your children. All you will have is a cherished memory, a dog-eared photograph, or perhaps a three-year old card, handwritten in crayon with bad spelling, which is now stained with tears.

If you are a father and this day overwhelms you with sadness, remember that even though they cannot be with you, your children will still be thinking of you on this very special day.

If you are a father, have a happy fathers’ day. You deserve it.

If you are not a father, please pass this on to someone who is…. maybe your own father.

Happy fathers’ day.

Darryl Ward

Those of you with good memories might notice that this message is almost identical to what I posted in 2006 and 2007. This is because I saw little need to change it.


  1. Wonderful positive sentiments. My church is planning a major celebration of fathers.

    Comment by Alastair — Thu 4th September 2008 @ 11:42 am

  2. Thanks for that Darryl, an emotional piece. Is it ok for me to read this out at our Fathers Day Picnic in parliament grounds on Saturday?

    Comment by Hans Laven — Thu 4th September 2008 @ 2:46 pm

  3. I am happy for my comments to be spread far and wide Hans, just so long as I am in no way whatsoever associated with the republicans.

    Comment by Darryl Ward — Thu 4th September 2008 @ 4:26 pm

  4. One more thing, Hans.

    Even though I am not a republican, I hope it all goes well on Saturday.

    Comment by Darryl Ward — Thu 4th September 2008 @ 5:52 pm

  5. Fathers are so important for a balanced and harmonious
    society. The problems associated with fatherlessness are
    only going to escalate if we don’t address at the coal face
    the many working triggers that cause the family breakdown. Our generation has a
    moral obligation to fix these problems for our children
    and grand children.

    Comment by dad4justice — Thu 4th September 2008 @ 6:29 pm

  6. Great piece of writing above


    Now onto the real job before all Children become FatherLess.

    Put Father-Less-Ness into Google and comment

    NZLaw and NZSocial Policy is designed to extract DAD from the Family

    MSD is directing the Courts, WINZ, CYF’s etc. to do so.

    Get real DAD’s we are far beyond the time where sentimental writing will pacify the DAD’s and the Children that have lost each other.

    As Colin-B suggested a few posts back

    Time to hit the streets

    Come put your Father energy into building a-fathers-coalition (Go Google)

    a-fathers-coalition that values all DAD’s, listens to and honours one another, has NO icons, nor spokesman

    All DADS can speak for themselves

    All DADS are valuable

    Go to McD’s and speak with and encourage any lone Dad with or without their Children on Fathers Day

    Go to the park benches and under many bridges on FathersDay and encourage the many lone DADS that have been destroyed by the system

    Just encourage, cause unity and give support – recognise that all are different and all are valuable

    Onward – Jim

    Comment by Jim Bailey — Thu 4th September 2008 @ 9:42 pm

  7. A day that never leaves us but hope rests eternal Fellow Fathers

    All the best to one and all


    Comment by Steve Flynn — Thu 4th September 2008 @ 11:18 pm

  8. Well Fellow travellers I sincerly hope some of you at least had a heartfelt day remmembering your lovely offspring if not being with them.

    Mine are teenagers now and hormoans!–ops control their daily thoughts

    Gotta love teens eh?

    All the best amd look out for my expose of The MSD & WINZ just about to breaK in the news and by Publication of the events of the past 6 years–mindboggling–except to us lot–they will read this of but too late–its already in print
    God Bless All


    Comment by Steve Flynn — Fri 12th September 2008 @ 11:55 pm

  9. Good to hear from you Steve. I hope your health is now better.
    Allan Harvey

    Comment by Allan Harvey — Sat 13th September 2008 @ 12:10 am

  10. YO! Steve – I look fwd to you exposing MSD & WINZ – These are the most destructive forces in NZ
    Onward – Jim

    Comment by Jim Bailey — Sat 13th September 2008 @ 12:28 am

  11. Thanks guys-5 Emergencies into hospital last year was just about curtains–but my revamped Bucket List includes as item 3–The MSD-WINZ expose-and they cant do anything at all–funny the title was In Breach of Trust–but guess what im thinking now—mmmmmmmm? no prizes folks-Oh I retired to Nelson and bought a sort of Mobile Home–all invited as usual Cheers Steve

    Comment by steve flynn — Sat 13th September 2008 @ 2:50 pm

  12. WOW Steve – Stay with us Bro the fun has just begun – I am now on my 7th Stent and they can’t do any more for the reflux – So its 2 pantoprazole a day and all the Mylanta I need – Usually 7/8 double strength a day plus the heart meds — Medical people have been amazing

    Sadly its got bad with Javan as I have been forced to send him to live with his mother for a time as they still fully fund mother while she sunbaths week about and I get NOTHING from WINZ Go

    You be a little ahead on the exposé so hit them hard mate we will follow soon

    The stage is nearly set

    They tried to make a fuss of me thumping a desk to highlight their 8 years of ABUSE to hide there ABUSE.

    We have that well in hand as their own security film shows I was never any danger to anybody – They will not let us show the public though

    Great to hear you have gone gypsy

    Onward — Jim
    Supporting, a fathers coalition and building the Ration Shed

    Comment by Jim Bailey — Sat 13th September 2008 @ 3:27 pm


    “Treat others as you would wish to be treated.”

    Comment by Colin of Nazareth — Sun 14th September 2008 @ 2:27 pm

  14. 7th Stent WOW back Jim–ive only 3 so far and the old ticker is pumping youth again

    Onwards Fellow Fathers

    Comment by STEVE FLYNN — Mon 15th September 2008 @ 1:04 pm

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