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Family in strife after kids left alone in park

Filed under: General — Julie @ 5:55 pm Wed 1st July 2009

Sunday Star Times 28 June 2009
A Christchurch dad who let his nine-year-old son and four-year-old daughter play at a school park unsupervised is furious the government’s child welfare agency is now investigating his family. The case highlights the dilemma parents face in striking a balance between protecting their children and risk them becoming bubble-wrapped kids and giving them a taste of the freedom and independence parents themselves enjoyed as youngsters. READ MORE
Children’s Commissioner says parents took ‘risk’ letting kids play alone The Press 29 June 2009 READ MORE
Family First Comment : The concerning aspect about this case is that CYF is investigating the family. Parents take ‘risks’ every day as they allow their children to undertake potentially ‘dangerous’ activities e.g. letting a son play rugby, letting a daughter do gymnastics, walking to school etc. Previously we could trust our communities to keep an eye out for each other. We are quickly creating a ‘paranoid parenting’ environment. An investigation by CYF suggests that these parents are being irresponsible. Or is that where we’ve got to as a society??

Read More: Family First News


  1. Cyfs is dangerous to the social well-being of this country, just as is the family court and women’s refuge. They are the arms by which the authorities want to control the society. The approach is easy. Threaten to remove their children. The children are easy as they can manipulate them with lollies and have them say things against their parents. I find it a criminal activity to interrogate a child about his parents when the child has not developed the required ‘Me’ that allows him to know the consequence of his replies.
    In my case the lawyer for the child got this answer from the child by induced questioning.
    Lawyer: Did you ran to the wardrobe when dad was about to give you a smack?
    Child: Yes
    That must be frightening? is not it?
    Child: Yes
    A fully developed adult knows the consequence of the reply. Not a child
    They do not tell them: Well you may not be able to be or see dad for a long long time. Is not that criminal.
    I add more: At know time, the lawyer represented the views of the child at court. Because they told her. We want dad at home.
    She just sat there at the hearing for the protection order saying absolutely nothing. She managed, by lying and deceit to prolong the process for three years now. And that is what the family court expects from her. To be deceitful.
    As for Cyfs watch this video about couragous parents who fled abroad when Cyfs buldogs were closing in

    family torn apart 1

    family torn apart 2

    family torn apart 3

    Comment by tren Christchurch — Wed 1st July 2009 @ 6:40 pm

  2. Nice one Tren. I’ll have to go over these threads.

    Comment by julie — Wed 1st July 2009 @ 7:30 pm

  3. Social workers don’t lie….yeah right. WAKE UP!!
    It seems to me that this social worker became abusive and threatened these parents with the removal of all of their children in retaliation for not getting her way.
    The parents did the right thing. The social worker was exposed and had to lie to her employer while blaming the parents for the situation that developed.
    Shame on you Ms Social Worker! You can’t afford another complaint of this nature now can you?
    Complain in writing. Complain in writing. Complain in writing. ALWAYS!
    Clean out the unprofessional rogue element from CYFS. Make them accountable for every unprofessional action that they choose to make.

    Comment by SicKofNZ — Wed 1st July 2009 @ 8:00 pm

  4. I’m sorry to say that I have little sympathy for the CYFS workers that are losing their jobs in the current government belt tightening. As always children will be the biggest losers but when you read this type of article and the hundreds of similar ones you really wonder what on earth we are doing allowing ourselves to be socially controlled like this. Remember when you were young ? Were there risks then ? Yep. More than now ? I would say less since most play areas for kids are safer, and people are generally more vigilant. For goodness sake NZ, get a grip on what we are becoming ; a paranoid country.

    Comment by John (Doe ;) — Wed 1st July 2009 @ 8:26 pm

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