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Fathers Missing Out

Filed under: General,Law & Courts — Julie @ 12:57 am Fri 1st May 2009

1. Children Penalised in Parenting Orders
Family First Media Release 30 April 09

Family First NZ says that children are missing out on access to both their parents as a result of parenting orders being made in the Family Court, and that there appears to be a clear bias against fathers. Figures obtained by Family First NZ under the Official Information Act show that only 13% of disputes results in a 50-50 parenting split.

“These figures are a tragic reminder that children are the ultimate losers when there is a breakdown in the parent relationship,” says Bob McCoskrie, National Director of Family First NZ. “The greatest injustice is that a parent can lose regular and sufficient access to their children when they may have done nothing wrong and never agreed to the separation in the first place.”

The figures for the three years since the passing of the Care of Children Act also show that mothers are more likely to be granted the most time, gaining sole day-to-day care in 2/3’rds of cases , but the father has only a 12% success rate .

2. Ethnic Groups Confused by Anti-Smacking Law
Family First Media Release 28 April 09
Family First NZ says that research just released from the Families Commission shows that immigrant families are confused by the anti-smacking law and still see non-abusive smacking as a viable option for correcting their children. The research report funded by the Families Commission and carried out by Victoria University entitled ‘ SETTLING IN: parent-adolescent family dynamics in the acculturation process ’ documents the experiences of migrant and refugee families in New Zealand adapting to NZ culture and laws.

The report said ‘A major issue of both frustration and change in the families studied was discipline and the rights of children. Most of the families came from a culture where physical discipline was the norm. Many of the parents mentioned that they found the New Zealand law concerning the rights of children difficult to understand and to follow. The corporal punishment of children was still seen as a viable method of reprimand by some parents, although they knew that this was against the law .’

…“The Families Commission needs to pay attention to their own research and the views of the majority of parents if they want to maintain any credibility as a voice for families.”

The Families Commission responds
READ the full report – (if you can handle it!)

Referendum August ’09
“Should a smack as part of good parental correction be a crime in NZ?” (of course not!)


  1. Well I think it’s obvious who all fathers should be voting for come the next election …

    Comment by Blocky — Fri 1st May 2009 @ 9:50 am

  2. This is a most encouraging media release from Family First regarding the Family Court which is guilty of large scale unlawful gender discrimination. Custodial maternal families often poison and brainwash the children against a heartbroken and often falsely accused estranged dad. Access is limited by judges who will NOT recognize the harmful affects of the insidious parental alienation syndrome. I wish judges could see that damaged children created in the sordid world of the sinister Family Court are unhappy and unsettled kids who just hurt, because dad has gone from their lives.. Take my case for example, everybody at the Christchurch courthouse knows about the “Burns Case”
    The damage to the children is horrific and the Family Court SHOULD be held accountable!

    Comment by dad4justice — Fri 1st May 2009 @ 9:55 am

  3. The judges of the family court should be made accountable to the decisions they make.
    As a society we prosecute mps, doctors, health worklers and artichects for misconduct
    and mistakesbut not judges. It is why they do what they do.

    But the law itself is an ass. A perception of violence is enough to serve protection order.
    Women’ Refuge in most cases encourages women to split from their partners as they promise them how life will be better without the ‘bastard’. They hire a lawyer (legal aid) for the woman and tells them what to do to get full govt benefit.

    Cyfs in their case use threats as a way to get clients.

    Comment by tren Christchurch — Fri 1st May 2009 @ 7:12 pm

  4. In my case the slimey “Solicitor For child” Rohan Cochrane from Porirua SIMPLY asked what my wife wanted, despite the police statements of her violence against me (he wasn’t at all interested in them), and the false accusations that the ex made. He was not in the slightest interested in me, he was more influenced by his lesbian legal partner, i thought. I was not really aware of what was taking place, i expected justice, reasonableness, all i got was this smarmy git with an agenda giving my kids away to this woman who had been unfaithful, all because i would not buy her a half million dollar house on the beach.
    THANKS Mr Cochrane, Remy is being bullied at school now and was taken away from a school where he WAS TRULY happy, i hope that you are content, it was YOUR decision that made that, was that really in the interest of the child, was it, YOU IDIOT , STUPID LITTLE MAN OF COURSE IT WASN’T! You took my children from a loving PROVIDING father. You allowed a violent unfaithful WOMAN to emotionally terrorise me, all to swell your coffers, making money at the expense of misery and INJUSTICE
    NZ state had to pay 10s of thousands of dollars of DPB, air fares, they lost out of my tax and child support too. All the legal workers filled their boots, of course

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