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Hot Tips on Growing Boys with Ian Grant

Filed under: Events,General — Julie @ 11:55 pm Mon 16th March 2009

Let’s believe in our boys and ensure they have the best opportunities to become secure and loving men.

Boys can be bold, bright, challenging and fun.

This seminar will not only share the latest research on boys, but will also give great ideas and insights to help boys thrive.

Ian Grant is brilliant! Nothing else can describe him.

He speaks on radio all the time about the breakdown of families. His workbooks have been picked up by Psychologists, foster parents and others working with children. He had, when I attended a seminar years ago, taught the police in New Zealand and Australia how to deal with youth and may still be doing this.

If you can attend this … you will not regret it.

When: Tuesday 24 March, 7.30pm — 10.00pm
Where: Dunedin Town Hall, Dunedin – Show map
Restrictions: All Ages
Ticket Information:

* Double : $35.00
* Single: $20.00
* Buy Tickets — 0800 53 56 59



  1. Ian Grant could do better- MUCH better
    Have heard his material and find it trite and unoriginal- and it avoids the hard issues
    Better than nothing I suppose

    Comment by John Brett — Tue 17th March 2009 @ 8:14 am

  2. It will be no good if we don’t get more male teachers etc. The system is failing them more than fathers are.

    Comment by Scott — Tue 17th March 2009 @ 8:30 am

  3. Ian Grant preaches that “Boys need male role models- that boys can ‘download’ maleness from other males in their lives”
    These are weasel words to avod the hard issue that BOYS and GIRLS both need FATHERS.
    A ‘role model’ is scarcely a replacement for a father who would give his life for his children.

    Lets see Ian Grant say that girls don’t need mothers, that female role models (such as their dad’s girlfriends) will do as female role models.

    Either Ian Grant lacks conviction about parents, or is too afraid to step up and say so.
    Ian Grant is beholden to the feminist establishment too much I think.

    Comment by John Brett — Tue 17th March 2009 @ 4:50 pm

  4. OK, I admit I did a 2 day seminar listening to this man and his wife. His words still rest in my mind.

    But just because this is about boys does not mean at all he doesn’t care about girls.

    This is a men’s site John. But if you want me to talk about women and girls, I can accommodate. lol

    Comment by julie — Tue 17th March 2009 @ 6:17 pm

  5. Great stuff Scott. Is there where you want to concentrate your work?

    Comment by julie — Tue 17th March 2009 @ 6:18 pm

  6. John,

    It doesnt fit his business model or his parenting model to promote anything else but mum and male role models.



    Comment by Scrap_The_CSA — Tue 17th March 2009 @ 6:22 pm

  7. Hi Julie and Scrap-
    Many of the things I thought were common knowledge seem to be anything but-
    I have discussed these issues with my children- even been told by my daughter “Dad- you are supposed to be a ‘partner model’ for me- so shouldn’t you be buying lunch (etc)”
    Boys- look to dad for a model for a man’s behavior, for a model on how to treat women, for unconditional love even if they are DIFFERENT to dad, or think they have failed to live up to expectations. Dad can also be an ‘anti-model’ if they DONT agree or respect his behavior.
    Girls- look to Dad for a model for a man’s behavior- maybe they want to copy some aspects- maybe they don’t, but gain respect for what a man does. They also look for a partner-model, can be positive if they love and respect dad- can be an ‘anti-model’ if they don’t.

    With MUM the same things apply in reverse- I have found that women I have loved remind me of my mum in the important ways- when I have been disappointed, it is because my love has not lived up to my mother’s outstanding example.

    I attended Mum’s funeral last week, along with my sisters, nephews and nieces, and was contnually reminded of Mum by their behaviours- Mum surely does live on in her offspring in Genes, and in Memes.

    Miriam and I will be back next week attending the wedding of my neice, she will have in her spray of flowers some lillies from Mum’s grave.

    Hugh Grant can keep his “male role model” idea for his PC friends- I deal with REAL families, not the socialist constructs that Grant has been (or pretends to be) supporting.

    Best wishes for your boys Julie- I think they must have a great mum.


    Comment by John Brett — Tue 17th March 2009 @ 8:17 pm

  8. This doesn’t match you. But how do you know (if) he doesn’t promote fathers?

    Comment by julie — Tue 17th March 2009 @ 8:28 pm

  9. Julie, I keep trying to do things, yet everytime I do, I end up having to focus on my own situation and sadly right now it is pretty bad. I am hoping like crazy that it soon settles down so I can put energies into men’s issues.

    Comment by Scott — Tue 17th March 2009 @ 10:34 pm

  10. Understandable Scott. I am pleased you are here and commenting. It can help to be around others who understand the madness.

    Comment by julie — Tue 17th March 2009 @ 11:34 pm

  11. I attended Mum’s funeral last week,

    So sad to hear of your mother’s parting, John.


    I know how important daddies are to girls. It is just that Ian is stepping forward to do something positive for boys and he will pass on much information.

    I don’t see this as a bad thing.

    Comment by julie — Tue 17th March 2009 @ 11:46 pm

  12. John,

    My condolences on the loss of your mother.


    Comment by Scrap_The_CSA — Wed 18th March 2009 @ 8:05 am

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