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NSW: More women being charged with domestic violence

Filed under: General — Vman @ 2:22 pm Mon 22nd June 2009

“Shocking figures have revealed that the number of women who have been charged with domestic violence-related assault has soared by 159 per cent over the past eight years.

The figures, from the New South Wales Bureau of Crime Statistics, show 2336 women faced court on charges of domestic violence in 2007, mainly for bashing their husbands, compared with just 818 in 1999.

Men’s groups said yesterday they were happy that police were finally taking men seriously but it remained tough for husbands to admit they had been attacked by their wives.

Research shows women tend to use guns, knives, boiling liquids and irons to attack their partners.

The increase in violence, which is often fuelled by alcohol, has sparked calls for refuges for men.”

It’s ridiculous to describe this as shocking – but I am just quoting the source.

Full story:,,25667548-5005941,00.html


  1. At last, looks like people started recognizing domestic violence against men…

    In the above articles mentioned, its only mentioned about the physical violence men face… What about the mental harassments. Men face the most severe mental harassments by their female partners. But, men feel shy to mention them anywhere… Men should stop thinking this way and should start expressing themselves more atleast for the welfare of other men…

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    Comment by Men At Risk — Mon 22nd June 2009 @ 7:21 pm

  2. I’m sure NSW is as close as we need to compare NZ…

    In the Christchurch Health and Development Study, researchers found that at least 90% of those respondents who reported partner violence said that they both perpetrated violence and were victims of violence.

    In the Dunedin Multidisciplinary Health and Development Study, 27% of women and 34% of men said they had experienced one act of physical violence from their partner in the last year. These researchers argue that partner violence is most often mutual conflict between partners.

    There are many definitions of violence and it is hard to survey, but there is also…

    The 2001 National Survey of Crime Victims found 14.4% of men and 21.2% of women had been hit, kicked or pushed by their heterosexual partner at least once in their life-time, for Maori — 19.6% of Maori men compared to 41.9% of Maori women.

    Plus, apparently in 2005/6 NZ Police apprehended 25,356 male family violence offenders compared to 4,135 female offenders, so it seems they have a 4-1 ratio, while surveys give approx 2-1, so do men allow around half of the violent females ‘get away with it’ ?

    Are innefective police or lack of reporting making the difference?

    Apparently men are too ashamed and scared of losing child contact, some laugh about it, maybe sometimes clever women con the cops?

    Comment by Brendon Smith — Tue 23rd June 2009 @ 1:23 am

  3. This is what happens when a man is the victim of a violent woman in New Zealand and he is stupid enough to call the Police.

    Comment by SicKofNZ — Wed 24th June 2009 @ 8:05 am

  4. Regarding the Porirua double murder : more death due these evil family courts and their unjust protection orders . I hope they are happy with the results of their evil secret laws. There will be hundreds more unless you stop the unjustice against men. treat us with respect and equality and most of these killings will stop. It is not men who are the problem it is your laws

    Comment by Martin swash — Sun 28th June 2009 @ 1:15 am

  5. Regarding the video : this is all typical of the NZ police. Similar things happened to me at Kapiti. You can make a police complaint but this is a rubber stamp exercise. If you do try to charge her, such women will say that the man assaulted them first and the cops will believe her. Mine told the cops that i had tried to strangle her after she had punched me while driving with my kids in the back.
    I think that the solution lies in having female police present !

    Comment by Martin swash — Sun 28th June 2009 @ 1:40 am

  6. female police are even worse..

    Comment by karanjiharr — Tue 30th June 2009 @ 1:57 pm

  7. quite a few female cops in the hamilton precinct are from divored relations and out to get at males

    Comment by karanjiharr — Tue 30th June 2009 @ 1:58 pm

  8. I was on the verge of making a complaint about one particularly rude policewoman at Porirua Police Station recently. The way she spoke to a gentleman there was disgusting. She was clearly annoyed at him and proceeded to tell him off for his attitude in quite a loud voice. He was quietly spoken. Her tone and volume was inappropriate, especially in front of my child.

    Comment by SicKofNZ — Tue 30th June 2009 @ 4:55 pm

  9. From experience I can say that a man that is being assaulted by his female spouse has six options.

    1. Defend yourself and hit back as hard as you can, so that she will never lay another finger against you. You may go to jail and you will loose your kids, your house and everything you worked for. (not a good option)
    2. walk away like a sissy with your tail between your legs and ask for forgiveness, until the next cycle “hits” you. She will learn that this is fun and manipulate you for the rest of your life.
    3. Go for counselling. This will not work, because counselling only works with rational human beings, who are able to use their heads. A violent female is not rational! Would you take a pit bull for counselling?
    4. Study a long degree after hours and hide yourself in literature. Make sure you have minimal contact with your spouse!!!
    5. Die…smoke yourself to death, drink yourself to death or shoot yourself.
    6. Leave!! trade her in for a better “model”, or live on your own.

    Leaving was the best thing I ever did. It is the values of another human being that we should love, not their acts of service or their possessions. A violent person is violent, because we allow them to be violent. They will not change. Ever!

    Unfortunately I believe that female offenders get away with it, because there exists a status quo that they are the victims. Males are not inclined to speak out, because it is an embarrassment. There are many males, or “gentle giants”, who have been taught that they should never hit a woman. Have woman EVER been taught not to hit a man? Maybe it is time to teach our daughters this lesson and that’s why I left my “love”.

    Comment by Mikey — Wed 1st July 2009 @ 12:59 am

  10. These “50 Myths of Domestic Violence” put out by RADAR arise from the US situation but many of them are equally relevant in NZ:

    See also the news commentary from Carey Roberts:

    Comment by Hans Laven — Thu 2nd July 2009 @ 8:24 pm

  11. Thanks for that Hans, that report is excellent.

    Comment by Jonathan — Fri 3rd July 2009 @ 8:34 am

  12. haha number 4 made me laugh.
    4. Women never make false allegations of domestic violence. (That’s the biggest whopper of all.)

    My ex-wife of seven years told me recently, in front of a witness too, that I had NEVER been violent towards her. Pft, I already knew that.
    Q.Why does she currently hold a Protection Order over me then?
    A. Because she told them what they wanted to hear so that she could have Power & Control over me, our property and our children.

    Comment by SicKofNZ — Fri 3rd July 2009 @ 9:12 am

  13. Indeed it is Hans. I am trying to destribute it to as many people as I can get to take it and read it. They may ignore it but at least it gets it out there.

    Comment by Bryan — Mon 6th July 2009 @ 1:57 pm

  14. I do the job with these dogs and as far as animal behavior goes, I’m a strong believer in nurture and education. I have met Jack Russell Terriers that I wouldn’t go in close proximity to once again, but have never had a awful encounter with an American Staffordshire Terrier. If you’re talking about their owners- well, which is a various story. Humans are creatures as nicely, and we often every have our personal ideas about “moral concepts”.

    Comment by Hobbs — Tue 16th March 2010 @ 6:25 am

  15. Reply to karanjiharr

    Hate to say it…After my experience with a Kiwi Woman Police Officer who I found out later was a staunch Feminist…I have to concur with you

    Kind regards John Dutchie

    Comment by John Dutchie — Tue 16th March 2010 @ 6:33 am

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