- promoting a clearer understanding of men's experience -
This does not need a summary – just watch it:
Very good speaker, let’s hope our politicians get to hear her.
We need more real women like her to speak out about wrong mis-information and stats and tell the truth.
The problem is that New Zealand is a mirror-image of the United States in all sectors and the Women’s feminist groups there is just like it here and our Government make stupid policies to protect women and children on no grounds but here-say and statistics that have been made up.
I know a Police Sargent very well in my area and he tells me that through Government policy, when the Police are called out to a domestic fight at a private house, in majority of cases, it is the woman that is abusing her Husband/partner and the neighbors have called the Police.
When the Police arrive, the Husband/partner does not lay a complaint with the Police and at the same time, the Husband/partner is then forced to leave the premises by the Police and to spend the night somewhere else while the abuser stays home.
The man has to leave the house and this is Government policy through the Police.
Yes Train Driver (#2): We have numerous accounts from men who either called the police because their partner had assaulted them or whose partner or neighbours called to police when the only violent party had been the woman. Almost always it is the man who is ordered out of his own home. The police ‘safety orders’ are routinely used against men regardless of who was the violent or most violent party, or who initiated the violence. I haven’t seen any gender break-down of police safety orders but I will bet it is rare for women to be ordered out even though we know that women initiate physical partner violence at least as often as men do and that most men would never hit back against a woman. Only in extreme cases of severe injury to a male with absolutely no evidence of violence from him is a woman ever charged by police for partner violence.
My wife told me one day after she tried to punch me (of course she failed) – I asked – how dare you? She said – of course I dare, nothing will happen to you, you are twice stronger and heavier than me. But If you punch me (she said) I will get hurt and could call the police!
Yes that’s the usual cover story we hear isn’t it.
That means I can walk down the street pick out anyone bigger than me and attack them, and claim that I am allowed to because they are bigger and stronger than me. And if they have the indecency to push me back while I attack them, have them charged with assault.
I do remember questioning my wife about her violence when we were still living together.
I asked her ” do you believe you have the right to hit me” She said she does.
I lost count of how many times I was attacked and had objects thrown at me, it would of been up around 30. The last time ended with a PSO order issued against me protecting my wife and my daughter from me for 3 days, from having things thrown at me by my wife.
I remember the officer saying the main reason on having the PSO was ‘the safety of the baby is the most important thing’, but your putting the baby in the care of someone who’s just assaulted someone I told him. He became instantly angry.
The last thing I told them as I left was:
‘If you had to evict violent women from their homes you’d quit your job within the week.’
The whole thing just encouraged her behavior and ended our relationship. She never had to look at her assaults and consider them wrong or inappropriate. The police were always there within a few minutes to reinforce her violent behavior. Her meeting with Womens Refuge (after assaulting me) had her come back convinced that I had assaulted her and because of that, I was likely to hurt our baby.
I’ll never put myself in a position where this can happen again, It put years of my life down the hole and set me back.
Sounds like my situation. Thumped kicked and bitten for years on end and then the hollywood when the police arrived resulting in my arrest and MAF charge (which i beat after great cost and worry)
Her view was that anyone living with me would be compelled to hit me. The judge acknowledged my claims in family court that i had been assaulted on occasion. She descibed a king hit in my face as being “at the lower end of the scale”.
Finally some traction for men in New South Wales, Australia –
Mr Andresen said, ‘We are especially pleased the Committee has recommended that the entire system for preventing and responding to family violence needs to take account of, and be effective for, all victims and perpetrators: not just women and children victims and male perpetrators as has been the case up until now.’
What he is actually saying is that Australians are redefining domestic violence to include men. Can’t see that happening in New Zealand any time soon but it is something to throw at the white ribbon campaign.
About time, now for the rest of the western world to catch up.
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