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New book: Have You Seen My Child

Filed under: Law & Courts — JohnPotter @ 5:53 pm Tue 31st July 2012

Hi fathers, Since December 2008, some of you will have read about the then Deputy Chief of the NSW Fire Brigade who was searching the world for his the 3 yo son, abducted from Australia by his wife. Against all odds, he succeeded, after a cycle crusade conducted over 6500kms around Europe. After more than three months of pedalling and searching, an alert teacher spotted the boy in Amsterdam. I helped the father with media advice and support and, as I am a writer ( I now have written a book about this inspiring father.

Below you’ll find the links to my new book Have You Seen My Child, which tells the story from the ‘inside’ of this father’s desperate search around Europe to find his abducted son. The whole world ‘cheered’ when he succeeded. Now information not previously able to be published is contained in this gripping account, although due to very strict Australian Family laws, not much can be said about the ongoing battle to keep his son safe now he’s home in Australia..

I wonder if you could please put the links to my book, see below, so that lone fathers, or left-behind fathers, can read this father’s extraordinary story? Could you suggest that if they have a Facebook page, could they please put the links there? As we found out from the 3-year search for this little boy, Facebook is a very effective means of communication. Or simply forward the links to your email list.

Thank you..


LINKS: If you don’t have a kindle, you can download the story to your computer from Smashwords (second link) or download a Kindle app to your ipad and then use the Amazon link.. 43549364&sr1-9&keywordsrobin+bowles


  1. Robin Bowles own grandchild was abducted by her daughter-in-law and she wrote Taken In Contempt, about this. Her book was the first public comment that I had read, warning that 80% of abductors were and are mothers.

    This book was earlier mentioned on MENZ:


    You can now access the first 20% of the book at Smashwords: Taken in Contempt 20%

    and it is in the Gold Coast Library too, but not in Auckland Library.

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Tue 31st July 2012 @ 8:10 pm

  2. The whole world did not “cheer” when Ken Thompson’s child was found. On the contrary.

    And you cannot read the book anywhere any more because it’s the subject of a defamation case – full of untruths and also published illegally.

    Comment by Ginger Meggs — Fri 18th April 2014 @ 12:11 pm

  3. Awww – published illegally. LOL

    Comment by Downunder — Fri 18th April 2014 @ 12:19 pm

  4. Ginger Meggs has suggested that Ken Thompson’s book has been removed from sale. Certainly Amazon has cancelled it.

    It appears that the Family Caught of Australia have shutdown publicity relating to this case. The earlier newspaper reporting remains available on internet. This may be due to the unlikely possibility that the mother will be prosecuted for abducting their child out of Australia, in breach of an access order.

    Kidnap mother may escape jail in new deal

    Ken Thompson – Father of missing Andrew John Thompson

    Ken Thompson wants answers on his son’s parental abduction

    Statement of Ken Thompson – Father of Andrew Thompson


    It is also true that several Youtube videos supporting the mother’s side have also been cancelled (see the YouTube links in the article link just below).

    A Radical Profeminist

    This blog exists to challenge the oppressive forces of white, heterosexual, and male supremacy. I understand each to be institutionalized ideologies that are mutually reinforcing. They work together as braided practices which are misogynistic, heterosexist, racist, genocidal, and ecocidal.
    The “guy” who writes the Profeminist blog is quite a mixed up character.

    So, can any conclusions be drawn from all of this?

    Ken Thompson has put his view quite publicly and cogently. The Family Caught of Australia has supported him, in that they refused to believe accusations that he sexually molested his boy and didn’t destroy his Hague Convention application to return the boy to Australia.

    By comparison, the mother Melinda Stratton has had supporters, but their rhetoric, as far as I can find, is just sarcasm and irrelevant tirades. They say that this is because they were restricted by caught orders, from being able to say anything meaningful. I don’t believe this, as there were quite a few things that they could have said, to bolster her position, but not relating to the boy directly. For example, to show that she was not in poor mental health and suffering from paranoia. But they did not make any such statement.

    I could not find anything by her supporters, that seemed to back up her claims, in a sensible way.

    The end result is that the Australian and Dutch judges see a mother’s role as so important, that it should shield the mother from criminal liability for child abduction. desuetude

    There is no point in having legislation, if it is never prosecuted. In this case, the legislation becomes simply misleading and dishonest, if fathers are prosecuted and mothers not prosecuted. Dishonest legislation is not just mischief, but socially damaging.

    It seems that in the minds of Australian, NZ and Dutch “judges” mothers may abduct their children with impunity. We need judges who have knowledge of children’s best interests. Best we get a new set of judges, who have the stomach to do their job honestly and competently.

    Being abducted isn’t part of a good upbringing.

    Ginger Meggs, although you attack Ken Thompson, history seems to back him as being honest and being a skilled and proper parent? The mother only escaped jail because of the ignorant softness and lack of child protection knowledge on the part of the judges.

    Comment by Murray Bacon — Fri 18th April 2014 @ 10:41 pm

  5. Yeah right, it’s illegal to publish anything that self-serving women might not like. And even if it’s not illegal feminists can bully libraries and bookshops into censoring anything they don’t like. Go girls! What a wonderful new world they are creating!

    Comment by Man X Norton — Sat 19th April 2014 @ 11:03 am

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  8. Hi everyone in the NZ! One of my all time favourite towns in the world is little Oamaru, where we were stranded for a week on the first day of a motoring holiday because my husband fell ill. Great hospital, fabulous people in the town. Thanks NZ! I am writing because I need to remove all mention of my book Have You Seen My Child from the internet. It’s a legal matter and I’ve given the Family Court an undertaking that I will try to remove it from the www. I would be grateful if it is possible to delete this thread, or at least the mention of my book. Thanks so much for putting it up when it was still for sale. All the best Robin.

    Comment by Robin Bowles — Sat 12th September 2015 @ 1:22 pm

  9. BTW in a separate email, I am including a response to Enlever ces cernes. We now have a Facebook Group in Oz called the Coalition of Parents of Abducted Children. Lots of interesting and helpful articles posted on it regularly and there is also an active lobby group doing good work informing politicians and other lawmakers/enforcers that this is a huge issue and needs to be addressed. For the kids’ sake, not the parents’. There is ample info on that site to show how damaged abducted children are. It’s child abuse, plain and simple. The ones who come home need years of understanding and therapy. So if you email Ken Thompson at [email protected] he can ‘induct’ you into the Facebook group. All the best, R

    Comment by Robin Bowles — Sat 12th September 2015 @ 1:34 pm

  10. It looks rather arrogant for the Australian familycaught$ to demand that a post which gives the title and a very small amount of information about that book, should be taken down in an independent country.

    My only experience of familycaught$ judges outside of hearings, was an official information request. I believed that I knew the information anyway and was asking more as confirmation and also as a check on the attitude of judges to complying with Official Information Act. judge mahony refused to supply the information, even though I had clearly shown it was departmental information and not related to an individual case. I also quoted Justice Department leaflets, which made the same point about applicability of the OIAct.

    Essentially judge mahony was saying “sue me” by appealing to judicial review. I didn’t need the information that much. His actions showed contempt for the law and for citizens. I suggest that this type of experience does not encourage citizens to voluntarily comply with a takedown request from a different country familycaught$

    I would go further and suggest that the familycaught$ of Australia is probably as much of a supporter of mother abductors, as the NZ familycaught$. Certainly, Robin Bowles data makes that implication, though doesn’t prove it.

    So it appears that the paramount interest, is parents protecting their children from abduction.

    If the caught$ protect mother abductors, then it is extremely important that parents ensure honest public information remains easily available to the public.

    This is exactly what the familycaught$ of Australia is trying to prevent.

    I challenge the familycaught$ Australia and NZ, to show in public whether they are helping or hindering the protection of children from parental abduction.

    The evidence available strongly suggests that they are on the side of abductors, fostering abductions before they have happened and protecting mother abductors from jail after they have been caught.

    Public information is the only weapon to improve the protection of children, from corrupt officials, like the familycaught$ of NZ and Australia.

    Robin Bowles has made the request, apparently “legally” made of her. (I would like to know if that request had a legal and ethical basis, or was really just a call of self-protection by an Australian judge?)

    Dear Robin, please post a copy of the request made of you, to show that it has a legal basis and to allow its compliance with law to be looked at.

    I have huge respect for Robin Bowles work to protect children from parental abduction. I apologise to her, for the pressures that she is coming under from these mafioso, who take profit from making children vulnerable to abduction.

    Rewriting history is straight from George Orwell’s 1984. Trying to do it without a good reason, is mental illness.

    Yours faithfully,

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Sat 12th September 2015 @ 7:53 pm

  11. I apologise, I misunderstood the source of the request to take down all mention of the book. It appears that it has come from lawyers in the defamation case.

    In any case, trying to retract information that has been publicly and legally released several years earlier, is still mental illness and self deluding!

    Even so, my suggestion that society needs access to truthful information still stands.

    It appears that the abductor mother has been hugely protected from the proper, child protecting consequences of her actions, in a situation that a father would have the book thrown at him.

    Child protection is best fostered by honesty between parents, honesty to the public and sensible rule of law.

    I don’t see that trying to rewrite ancient history protects anyone, except for the guilty and those who profit by protecting the guilty.

    Put all views on the table and let the public be well informed and let them judge for themselves. This is safer than threatening people, to hide inconvenient truths.

    Lets protect children from abduction and being used as pawns to extract wasted legal fees from parents and Government.

    Lets protect children from abduction in the first place – not foster legal hearings after the event and damage to the children.

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Sun 13th September 2015 @ 8:04 am

  12. While we wait for familycaught$ to act to protect children from abduction, more children are being abducted.

    familycaught$ and their fellow travellers, profit from extended litigation after abductions. Their incentives are to incentivise abductors, enable them by making passports available despite the fears of the other parent, to setup situations in which the children are vulnerable to abduction and delay the return of the child, to enable extended litigation. They rarely act at a speed that is in proportion to the sense of time of a child, they just want more money.

    It is important that parents take sufficient actions to protect their children , to counter the actions of familycaught$ enabling abductions.

    Constructive change will never come from the heartless souls who unjustly and illegally profit from the status quo.

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Sun 13th September 2015 @ 9:39 am

  13. MurrayBacon it was the Family Court. I have signed an undertaking to the Court that I will try every way I can to remove my book from the www. I think yours is the last site I can find mention of it. As you say. the Family Court of Australia has no power in NZ, but your cooperation would help me. As long as you are not SELLING the book that’s the main thing. Thanks for your prompt reply. Undertaking, which was signed and served to all parties on 4 September, follows, minus the names of the mother (Appellant) and father (first defendant) due to our laws here. Cheers, R


    AT SYDNEY File No: EA51 of 2013
    SYC 889 of 2008



    AND (First Respondent)

    AND BOWLES, ROBIN GLYN (Second Respondent)

    Pursuant to order of the Full Court made on 28 August 2015


    1. I will use my best endeavours to remove from the internet the book ‘Have You Seen My Child: The Quest to Recover a Stolen Child’ and I will not in future publish or permit to be published in any manner (including on the internet) that book; and
    2. I will serve copies (endorsed as to the date of service) of this undertaking on the appellant and on the solicitor for the first respondent within 14 days of 28 August 2015
    3. I promise the court that I will comply with the terms of this undertaking
    4. I acknowledge that this undertaking has the same effect as an order of the court.


    Comment by Robin Bowles — Sun 13th September 2015 @ 12:31 pm

  14. Dear Robin, I am one of hundreds of people who put postings on this website. John Potter owns and runs this website and he started this thread, so could remove this thread.

    Thank you very much for your books covering child abduction. It was in Taken In Contempt that I first learned that the majority of abductors were mothers. Curious how silent the familycaught$ are on that point. Notwithstanding the truth, the familycaught$ treat fathers as if they were the high abduction risk parent. Having been alerted by your book, I was able to see the same ratio in other more subtle sources too.

    Your request above seemed to request that this posting be removed, which only mentions, ie gives the name of the book and a paragraph of what the book is about. That is not the book itself, which you promised to attempt to remove from the internet. (Brave promise, I suspect.)

    Please excuse me being pedantic over rule of law. I am greatly concerned about child abductions. I have experienced within NZ abduction, but not international abduction. I firmly believe that abduction is not a constructive part of parenting and bringing up children. I am aghast at the behaviour that I have seen in NZ familycaught$. In the absence of working public accountability, I encourage parents to take all necessary measures to protect their own children from abduction, though this is near impossible.

    People who enable abductions are every bit as guilty as the abductor, in my opinion and according to the Crimes Act. The damage by abductions to the parenting relationship, goes on far longer than the return of the child. How can our judges be so ignorant?

    Of course I don’t know the details of this case, but such a request from a judge, at such a late stage, appears to me to be unrealistic and a waste of everybody’s time. So unrealistic as to be mental illness.

    Why isn’t this judge using his/her time to look into the performance of the familycaught$ regarding abductions and suggesting constructive changes?

    Even picking up cigarette buts in the street would appear to be more use than trying to manipulate the historical record of the internet.

    Thanks again for your help to parents, your investigations and your helpful advice to parents. You are doing positive things, which are creative and constructive, much more so than the poor self-deluding muppet judge.

    You serve truth and public access to useful information, where the judge appears to take the opposite stance?

    My money is on you, in every respect.

    Best regards,

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Sun 13th September 2015 @ 3:10 pm

  15. Thanks MurrayBacon! It seems even truth has a price at times!. Cheers, R

    Comment by Robin Bowles — Mon 14th September 2015 @ 1:00 pm

  16. Some people love money (best of all, other people’s money) and some people love children.

    A thousand cheers for those who love children, care for children, stand up to those who only love money and support parents.

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Mon 14th September 2015 @ 1:19 pm

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