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SHINE- Response to my query

Filed under: General — JohnBrett @ 5:12 pm Tue 31st July 2012

My enquiry:
What assistance does Shine provide for abused men?
I have been involved for many years with Menscentre, and was on the Separated fathers Support Trust which established a Men’s Refuge.
Our experience is that many organizations in the DV field were totally negative to men, and regarded DV as entirely men attacking women.
Our experience with men and women needing help is that both sexes need help when abused.

This is an enquiry for information only, I am not in need of help myself.

I also seek permission to publish any reply on Pauls News, and on the MENZ website

Thank you

John Brett

The response:-

Dear John,

Thank you for your enquiry. Shine supports anyone who has experienced abuse, and most of our services are available to men and women, and their children.

We don’t have a Safe House for men, but we help find safe accommodation for men who need assistance. Our safe@home service is available to men and women, and at present four men, who have been assessed as being at high risk of serious injury or death at the hands of a family member, are living in houses that have had a comprehensive security upgrade to protect them.

Our KIDshine service works with children and their protective parent or caregiver. Our national free Helpline is available to any caller from 9.00am – 11.00pm every day of the year on 0508 744 633. Our callout service responds to all police arrests in Auckland central regardless of gender.

We know from experience and world-wide statistics that violence against women is the most common form of domestic abuse. This does not mean that men who are abused are any less deserving of care and support. For example, it’s a bit like breast cancer – a small percentage of patients are men, and they receive surgery and chemotherapy as needed, but it is still a women’s issue overall. The percentages are very similar for domestic abuse, and this is why most services were set up by women for women. It is great to hear that you set up a service for men. More men might choose to do this if they hear about the work you have done.

I am happy for you to use this information on your websites, and anyone who is interested can visit our website at for further information.

Shine believes that everyone has the right to feel safe in their own home,

Kind regards,


Jill Proudfoot, Client Services Director.

PO Box 90279
Victoria St West
Auckland 1142 P.
021 987 337
09 815 4593 W.
[email protected]

Call free 0508 744 633

I look forward to hearing of anyone’s experiences with this organization


  1. I replied:
    Thank you Jill for your reply

    I have published on MENZ here:

    You may not be aware of the many services offered for fathers and their children, all provided from voluntary work, without any funds at all.
    I know of several men’s refuges, which provide shelter for fathers and their children

    Men’s groups are frequently slandered as ‘fanatical women hating abusers’ and such, however the opposite is true. It is comon to find memberships comprising equal numbers of women, and for women to be the most vociferous in support of men.
    When I was on the board of the Sperated fathers Support Trust, we ran a men’s refuge, and had good relations with some women’s refuges
    On the other hand, we all tire of the rabid, self-justifying hate-speech seen from the National Collective of Women’s refuges, and also from the White Ribbon day organizers. For example see

    I trust we share the belief that women, men and families all deserve to be protected from abuse


    John Brett

    Comment by JohnBrett — Tue 31st July 2012 @ 5:24 pm

  2. I am interested in peoples reaction to this post, and of course we welcome it on Pauls-news (Pauls-news@yahoo or to join Pauls-News is a “Hidden group” and provides a forum for more personal experiences. Personally the only comments I have heard about shine are very negative, but I seek first hand correction of that.

    Comment by Gwahir — Tue 31st July 2012 @ 5:27 pm

  3. Question for Jill.
    What are you doing to tackle the gender imbalance in your service delivery?

    Comment by David Jade Young — Sat 11th August 2012 @ 8:09 pm

  4. David, Have you forwarded this to Shine?

    Comment by Gwahir — Sat 11th August 2012 @ 8:50 pm

  5. I phoned shine asking for help. Their response was for me to “Grow a pair and stand up to her”. I would not recommend shine to any men looking for help with DV.

    Comment by Justin — Sat 12th September 2015 @ 4:26 pm

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