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Identify domestic abuse before it turns violent

Filed under: Domestic Violence — ashish @ 9:52 am Wed 30th July 2014

She doesn’t have to hit you for it to be abuse:

She doesn't have to hit you for it to be abuse


  1. Very important message, it shows how biased our courts are.

    None of those things are considered by courts when men are the victims.
    Only when men are broken by them, and react to them.
    They will still ignore them, but not the reaction (cackle, cackle)

    Its like a Women’s Refuge Formula, for women to steal your children.
    And if that doesn’t work, just lie.
    Call the cops, 100% of the time they will kick the man out, even with stab wounds.
    He deserved it apparently.


    Like I said, its like a rape kit, for women.

    Stick a copy of this over their blue and red posters, let the public know the truth.

    Comment by The man in Absentia — Thu 31st July 2014 @ 8:28 am

  2. Hi ashish – if you want to do this another time, read this:
    Using Dropbox to Host Images on your Website

    Comment by JohnPotter — Fri 1st August 2014 @ 12:14 pm


    If I’m reading it correctly you would change the as above to as below?

    … and boom.

    Comment by Downunder — Fri 1st August 2014 @ 12:30 pm

  4. you change “” to “”

    Comment by JohnPotter — Fri 1st August 2014 @ 1:20 pm

  5. In a couple of ways, menz could be improved….. (with due respect as everyone is doing something)

    1) Where’s the good news, where’s the progress?

    Gosh, there’s a lot of funding going to men’s groups. As I look at possible funders and I go over who they paid last round, I see men’s group after men’s group getting $50,000, $60,000, plus, plus, plus for wages.

    Last I heard, one man had opened 11 men’s shelters on his own (massive achievement) and I’ve learned prison guards are running houses for men once they leave prison. Whether the 11 homes are for ex prisoners too, or for men needing refuge, I don’t know.

    2) What about the cases? There’s a lot of incorrect information floating around, IMO.

    Somewhere on this site is footage of police asking a man to leave his property when his female partner was abusive and the cop was filmed telling the man they can’t leave children with a man and if they take away the abusive woman, CYF has to be called and they’ll take the children.

    That was aired on TV because it was unusual. I think the cop took the opportunity to show NZ’ers what he was unhappy about rather than what they do. In real cases, and this has been going on for many years, CYFs are meant to be contacted for ALL domestic violence cases. My law tutor had police come to her house because her partner and her were arguing loudly. The police told her she was fortunate the children were in bed for if the police see a child, CYFs is notified. Children witnessing domestics is child abuse. (of course it depends on police discretion – they don’t have to do anything and don’t if related through ancestors, or in the same rugby team, etc)

    3) Male victims

    I have a client who teaches police about his culture. He gives incorrect information, IMO, but not intentionally.

    His wife was abusive and he says the courts are a joke and that they just slap perpetrators on the hand whether they are men or women. His partner was arrested and he says the police were good about it when they came around. He didn’t leave the house and he’s a single dad.

    3) How many cases really involve ‘police safety orders’these days and under what circumstances?

    I had to make a complaint to the police complaints authority because an abusive, narcissist (unable to be compassionate) keeps getting sent on his way for perhaps a few hours. He doesn’t even have to sober up and I am sick of everyone in families, as neighbours, plus having to evolve around him.

    The police told me the problem is that women aren’t laying charges and the police can do nothing, otherwise. I think it also depends on you culture whether CYFs gets phoned.

    ………… I question these days whether the media is a good source for information too. Actually, I know they are misleading society………… Just saying. 🙂 (a lot, lol)

    Comment by julie — Sat 2nd August 2014 @ 7:31 am

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