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Increased reporting of sexual abuse of men in New Zealand

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 6:53 am Sat 1st February 2014

Stuff report open for comment

The headline may lead to the assumption that the article refers only to men abusing men

Clearwater said nearly half of the survivors he worked with had suffered abuse at the hands of women.

“It’s a massive problem, we need to get more support for men – we’re the only agency in the country that have been doing this work.”

It may also lead to the assumption that this is an increase only in historic reporting

Detective Senior Sergeant Mike McCarthy said men were now more likely to report sexual assaults – recent and historical.

“Most victims do not report sexual assault because of fear, shame and beliefs they will be blamed.”

Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse Trust national manager Ken Clearwater said there had been a big change in attitudes toward men as victims of sexual violence, including among police.

“We have guys that two or three years ago would have been laughed out of the police station.”

What exactly is the nature of female sexual abuse on men?
What type of abuse is being reported?

What one man accepts or thinks is normal female behaviour another man may consider abuse.

There must be information available somewhere (surely) that outlines what men should consider sexual abuse and for that matter what women should read as unacceptable behaviour.


  1. I think all those who support men have seen the results of female abuse! I seem to recall a hushed up study showing mothers as the greatest abusers of their children!

    I is good to see there may be support.

    Comment by Alastair — Sat 1st February 2014 @ 10:44 am

  2. It is not hard to see the results of female abuse.

    This is specifically about sexual abuse of men, which is something I have never encountered or at least I don’t think I have.

    I would hazard a guess that most men are as ignorant about this as me.

    What exactly are we talking about here?

    Comment by Downunder — Sat 1st February 2014 @ 2:34 pm

  3. Men have not been believed or supported. This not only covers physical violence, try constant put downs, your wife driving away legitimate friends or allowing you to go out. – In simplicity EVERYTHING females claim men do to them. Refer


    These are just two. Study the damage done to these females male victims. “I only feel safe when she is in Jail” one comment recorded. females have organisations encouraging them to play professional victims.

    Comment by Alastair — Sat 1st February 2014 @ 2:51 pm

  4. I understand the obsessive female behaviour;

    Trying to cut off friends
    Trying to control any socialising
    Demands on household expenditure

    Is this what you’re are calling sexual abuse? That’s what feminists call domestic violence.

    I have looked at those two Stuff Links.

    One is an obsessed nutter and the other is a sexual predator. I don’t think that is what this article was getting at, I am assuming there is more to it that this.

    Comment by Downunder — Sat 1st February 2014 @ 4:40 pm

  5. I further note that about 3pm this article ceased to be on public view (Censor Ship?) amd was replaced with Which featured “related to issues such as domestic violence, child poverty, and racism.

    Justice Minister Judith Collins, who presented the report on behalf of the Government, said she welcomed the recommendations.”

    Funny I thought.

    Comment by Alastair — Sat 1st February 2014 @ 4:48 pm

  6. They are all full of SHIT. My personal experience is they WILL NOT TAKE COMPLAINTS – Cant, wont, not allowed to, especially when there is a breach of your Rights by a govt department.

    Take for example the DELIBERATE prevention of a parent – usually fathers – from seeing their children ( the CAUSE of most Domectic Violence ) – a clear breach of most BASIC human right – and yet if you try and complaint to the human Rights Commission = sorry we are NOT permitted to investigate…..

    Ok so what about breaches of NZ Bill of rights – the right to justice, due process and FAIRNESS – complain to the Ombudsman – WILL NOT – point blank refuse to INVESTIGATE – this is a complete SHAM.

    No different than that waste of paper – the guardianship act – while your rights may be listed = TRY GETTING THEM INFORCED by the system…

    The FACADE of HUMAN RIGHTS – BILL OR RIGHTS in NZ – is just that a FACADE – they present a pretty picture as to what you have -= problem is try getting them actioned…….too costly, too time consuming and the best defence of all – REFUSE TO TAKE COMPLAINTS.

    Yes NZ your so great…….

    here again Collins spewing the B/S to the masses ……

    Comment by hornet — Sun 2nd February 2014 @ 12:51 pm

  7. @Alistair…

    re “Facebook predator revealed”

    After a lengthy police investigation, Burgess was charged with two counts of obtaining by deception and one of interfering with a computer system.

    Is that all she’s charged with?

    Comment by gwallan — Mon 3rd February 2014 @ 12:51 am

  8. 6 Have had the same experiences.

    Comment by Scott B — Mon 3rd February 2014 @ 7:00 am

  9. 8 Scotty B – do you want to do something about it? Join forces and demonstrate a consistent pattern – I am sure there are many who have experienced this common tactic – its endemic – They simply REFUSE to take complaints – no complaints = no problem. That is total corruption.

    Comment by hornet — Mon 3rd February 2014 @ 7:16 am

  10. Gwallen #7

    Full details here. ttp://

    Comment by Alastair — Mon 3rd February 2014 @ 5:53 pm

  11. @Alastair…

    I read that and a couple of other articles and they are the only actual charges mentioned.

    Comment by gwallan — Mon 3rd February 2014 @ 6:05 pm

  12. 9 I can’t get involved too much but any protests etc I am there.

    Comment by Scott B — Mon 3rd February 2014 @ 8:39 pm

  13. Good read

    Would be nice to read the next part tomorrow….

    Comment by kumar — Mon 24th February 2014 @ 12:33 pm

  14. UK seems to be heading in the direction of USA, by enforcing laws protecting boy children from sexual abuse by women.

    UK mother, 42, jailed for three years for sleeping with schoolboy.

    Note the euphemism for sexual abuse done by a woman: “sleeping with schoolboy”.

    It is important that boys be protected, as much as for girls. Providing such protection is likely to lead to a reduction in rapists on our streets, 15 or 20 years later. It is really worth actually protecting boys and girls.

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Sun 15th January 2017 @ 7:22 pm

  15. Hi guys, it’s been a while but I have been visiting often.
    Doing well as a stay at home dad.
    And on meds that work.

    Thanks Murray for the article.

    I would like to point out that men that do this are charged with rape.

    In NZ however it is not a crime to rape children.
    Or adults.

    Just kidding, only women are allowed to rape children.
    And men.

    Judith Collins was asked about this and giggled.
    “I’ll ask the ministry of justice officials why that is”

    I never heard why they decided raping children was OK.
    Maybe it was financial, logistical, moral, or even personal reasons.

    Whatever it was.
    Males that are forced to have sex with a female.
    Resulting in pregnancy.
    And even banned from having a relationship with the resulting child.
    Are forced by child support bigots to pay compensation to the rapist.

    Good on you Judith.
    Raping for profit.
    No wonder she giggled.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Sun 15th January 2017 @ 9:02 pm

  16. From the USA
    A little bit of jail for the lady – 10 years – well probably only 5.

    Pity that NZ is so far behind…….

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Mon 16th January 2017 @ 9:51 am

  17. Unfortunately, this article is an example of police refusing to investigate cases where the victims were boys.
    Many years later, they do start to investigate, but by then the perpetrator has gone to the christian Heaven!
    Former British prime minister ‘raped an 11-year-old boy’, police told

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Sat 7th October 2017 @ 10:50 am

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