Feminism, it’s not about equality.
A response to this article http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/women-of-influence/94016874/women-of-influence-feminism-has-been-around-for-over-150-years-and-its-still-needed that I’m sure wont be published in Stuff.co.nz
I recently read an opinion by Anna Guenther concerning the future of feminism. She started her opinion off with a tale of some casual sexism, but don’t worry it was sexism against men so that’s okay in feminist world.
She had been asked to speak about the future of feminism and had to decline as she admitted she wasn’t a feminist, however her boyfriend was and was happy to speak. The organiser unsurprisingly said no Anna reported.
Was the speech organiser sexist as she didn’t want a feminist speaker purely based on the sex of the speaker? Either way Anna’s acceptance that he wouldn’t be allowed because of his sex, the unsurprising part was casual everyday sexism. But it’s the kind of sexism that feminist endorse, even revel in.
Anna goes on to say women are dying because of our gender. It’s hard to argue that because it’s true, however it’s only half a story. Men are dying because of our gender too, and in far greater numbers. Yet few feminists care about male suicide rates (80% male), work deaths (95% male), police, firefighters, soldiers, (almost 100% male) and poor health (average life expectancy 10% less than women with worse results for Maori or Pacific Islanders), homelessness, (almost entirely a male problem).
Many men feel as if no one actually cares about these deaths. It’s news, then it’s not. Men who were just trying to feed and house their families work these jobs that keep our country alive but their deaths are unimportant to us really. We will have another Pike River, as we had a Strongman Mine disaster before it.
As Camille Pagila and old school or second wave feminist puts it, “men have sacrificed and crippled themselves physically and emotionally to feed, house and protect women and children. None of their pain or achievement is registered in feminist rhetoric, which portrays men as oppressive and callous exploiters.”
Ask any adult male and he’s likely to have a list of friends, not acquaintances, he’s lost to suicide. However in this very paper I’ve seen articles about suicide with pictures of women or teenage girls, not the men and boys who are actually dying at a rate of 4 to 1. Again casual sexism.
Anna then discusses domestic violence. The publicly endorse narrative concerning this subject could be summarised thus; men are bad women are victims. Again this is a case of half a story because women do suffer domestic violence but men suffer domestic violence too. If fact studies, such as the Dunedin study, show that men suffer as much from the same quantity of domestic violence as women do, but men have no refuge centres to take our children to when we leave and abusive woman.
These studies are rejected by feminists because they wish to control the narrative around domestic abuse. Indeed just uplifting our own children could be quite problematic and result in issues around custody later or criminal charges.
There are some helplines available, for whatever good that would do but even in this token effort to help male victims the casual sexism persists. Many men have wrung these helplines for help to be told the helpline was for men who abuse women and the operator didn’t believe men could be victims. It is hard to believe that a 90kg man can live in fear of a 60kg woman but many do.
Advise heard from most men who have been the victims of a violent woman is never phone the police. Institutional sexism has conditioned them to believe the men bad, woman victim narrative. The few who did often found their claims either outright rejected or turned around to make them the aggressor.
I know in my own personal circumstance, where i suffered from a violent and unbalanced girlfriends abuse, phoning police was never going to solve the issue. As for talking to friends or family, the same reasons that silence female victims kept my mouth shut. We heard all about the under reporting of domestic violence by women but feminists stop short of applying this basic logic to men, indeed it’s not in their interests to do so.
In terms of education Women are now 64% of graduates, meaning men are only 36% of graduates. Casual sexism again, we lead with a positive about women that hides a negative about men. We see this reversed often as well in statements like one in four homeless are women seen recently on social media. A strange way of saying 75% of homeless are men.
No one sees this as a problem, indeed its celebrated. Were the sexes reversed in this equation there would be calls of inquiries and government intervention, but here, silence. If fact on the whole boys are failing at education fullstop, but again this hasn’t raised the hackles of any feminists.
Women are moving into positions of power and leadership, yes it’s slow but why should capable men give up their jobs they worked hard for. If women are as or more capable they will be hired, it is that simple. Business looks out for itself and the bottom line. If Jane can earn us more profit than Bob, we hire Jane.
Finally I believe that feminism has no interest in equality.
Where are the feminists pushing for law changes in areas such as rape,the laws pertaining to rape (only men can be charged), shared parenting, (currently the family court seems incredibly biased), sentencing for crimes, ( women receive 60% of a mans sentence and it seems being a mother is a factor taken into account but being a father isnt).
Overseas and here too i expect, we see situations such as two drunk people having sex, yet only the woman can claim it was rape because she wasn’t able to give consent in that state. Regardless of the state of the male, his consent is not needed.
According to the FBI, 1 in 8 rape complaints are false, yet feminists refuse to deal with this fact. Instead blaming a court system for not convicting everyman accused based on a listen and believe system of justice last seen in places like Salem.
Women who do make false complaints are not called out by feminists for putting other women in danger of not being believed. Indeed they are often given support and even treated like well something must of happened. No thought to the man who has had his life turned inside out, in fact Mary Koss, a prominent feminist lecturer who worked with law enforcement in the USA, stated that she believed men could be improved by a false allegation and that is was impossible for a woman to rape a man. Both these ideas have had far reaching consequences.
In many ways feminism has turned into a she woman man hating club with prominent feminists making statements such as. “I feel that man hating is an honourable and viable political act.” Robin Morgan “The proportion of men must be reduced to and maintained at 10% of the population” Sally Gearhart “All men are rapist.” Marilyn French “We need to put all men in camps and women can take them out like library books.” Julie Bindel “Maleness is a disease” Valerie Solanas Clementine Ford a “journalist” for an Australian feminist leaning magazine and famous mostly for blocking anyone who doesn’t think she the greatest thing since sliced bread on twitter, even jokes about killing men online. Casual sexism, imagine a male reporter joking about killing women. Melanie Griffin, didn’t seem to understand why a depiction of her holding the severed head of Donald Trump would cause such an outroar, yet would some other B grade comedian posted the same picture with Hillary’s head without expecting drama? No of course not. Casual sexism.
If you disagree with any feminist ideas be prepared to be labelled a misogynist. It’s the go to default argument that means we can ignore you because we decided you hate women. There are others, you could be mansplaining, a sexist term used to silence male opinion and shame them into being quite.
Feminism is run more in line with a religion than a living breathing theory that adapts to the real world. It’s central tenet is that women are oppressed and men are oppressing them through some mythical, can see it, can’t prove it’s there god called patriarchy. In patriarchy all men benefit, even those coal miners and suicide victims and homeless at the expense of women.
In my opinion Feminism needs to die and be replaced with egalitarianism, which seeks equality for everyone, regardless of sex, race, sexual preference or any other factor.