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The Perverse Effects of Child Support

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 9:50 am Sun 25th June 2017

We need to be aware in our conversations with other men (and women), that within the depth of our ongoing experiences, we hold valuable information which needs to be collected, if by no other means than the addition to this reservoir of experiences.

The voice of men is too often drowned out in the flow of Feminist bullshit: if that conduit of reality escapes us, the conduit of purification does also.

As an example, this is a situation I came across in a recent discussion.

This relates to a father with adult children (well past adolesence) and still being pursued by IRD for an historical amount of child support. The mother has since been consumed to some degree by serious health issues, and increasely requires help from the children of the relationship.

This is where it gets interesting. Regardless of the increased involvement of the children, the mother’s management of her health didn’t improve. They were, on the face of the situation aware of the mother’s financial situation, but only at the point of her health jeopardizing her employment, did they manage to access her bank account.

Much to their surprise (as it had not been disclosed to them) the mother was still receiving child support. The bank account accessed by a card only showed a trail of 100% surreptitious consumption of confectionery.

By coincidence, I noticed yesterday the article on the RNZ website, about an industry decision to supply water only to primary schools on the basis of the ongoing costs of health.

But when we examine the situation above, the size and cost of the mother’s issues, both to the health system and her children, by comparison to the figures quoted was grossly disproportionate to the value of child support diverted to contribute to the problem, even making allowance for the possibility that IRD retained any penalty element in the collection process.

Silo mentality is possibly a good way to describe this, and I’m sure we can find other relevant situations even if the source is other than enforcement of the child-support equation.

I suspect we have a huge undisclosed cost in the unmonitored behvaiour of women, theoretically ‘protected by society’.


  1. We all know the system is rotten to the core but there’s nothing we can do. Bend over guys, spread your cheeks, grit your teeth and wait until your kids turn 18. Unless a future government changes the rules again…

    Comment by Doug — Sun 25th June 2017 @ 6:18 pm

  2. The IRD delivers the suicide bomb, then holds up the soap … what’s it gonna be boy.

    Comment by Downunder — Mon 26th June 2017 @ 8:37 am

  3. Changes for those that pay child support.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Mon 17th July 2017 @ 5:40 pm

  4. They were talking about getting rid of that $2 Billion plus in penalties at the last election – why is it still there today?????????

    On another note, I have been researching the term GAS LIGHTING – which is something we have all experienced – being targeted with false allegations of abuse, that you are threatening and aggressive?
    This is called GAS LIGHTING = a form of character assassination and is designed to make you feel ill, to destroy your confidence and to make sure that the Gas Lighter never has to accept or answer to the TRUTH.
    it is often used by Narcissistic people and by Sociopaths and Psychopaths.

    We are seeing this right now play out as Good Journalists in GORE have been FALSELY ACCUSED by our executive branch of being Aggressive, intimating and abusive as they tried to chase a story as to why barclay was not at work?

    Read up on GAS LIGHTING – do the research and learn how to DEAL WITH it – it destroyed my career, and my confidence over many years and now I understand how ti works and why people do it.

    Comment by hornet — Tue 18th July 2017 @ 7:24 pm

  5. This system is so screwed.This is my situation-

    -I pay my daughters dance fees $1000.00 every 10 weeks $300.00 per year for exams fees plus $4-500 per year for leotards and shoes. Mother makes no contribution to this.
    -I have the two children 102 days per year 2 days short of the 104 required for shared custody
    -My x-wife earns $60000 per year her boyfriend earns $40000 per year a combined income of $100000. She also recieves family tax credits
    -I earn on average $30000 per year

    I want to know why to know why the hell am I paying $160 a week to my x-wife to live and am now $20000 in debt to the IRD.

    Comment by John — Wed 19th July 2017 @ 1:18 pm

  6. Well child support doesn’t bet more perverse than this.
    Nah this is bad but we know there plenty of horrible things taking place.
    Imagine if a women made a mistake she wasn’t aware of.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Wed 26th July 2017 @ 12:17 am

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