We need to be aware in our conversations with other men (and women), that within the depth of our ongoing experiences, we hold valuable information which needs to be collected, if by no other means than the addition to this reservoir of experiences.

The voice of men is too often drowned out in the flow of Feminist bullshit: if that conduit of reality escapes us, the conduit of purification does also.

As an example, this is a situation I came across in a recent discussion.

This relates to a father with adult children (well past adolesence) and still being pursued by IRD for an historical amount of child support. The mother has since been consumed to some degree by serious health issues, and increasely requires help from the children of the relationship.

This is where it gets interesting. Regardless of the increased involvement of the children, the mother’s management of her health didn’t improve. They were, on the face of the situation aware of the mother’s financial situation, but only at the point of her health jeopardizing her employment, did they manage to access her bank account.

Much to their surprise (as it had not been disclosed to them) the mother was still receiving child support. The bank account accessed by a card only showed a trail of 100% surreptitious consumption of confectionery.

By coincidence, I noticed yesterday the article on the RNZ website, about an industry decision to supply water only to primary schools on the basis of the ongoing costs of health.

But when we examine the situation above, the size and cost of the mother’s issues, both to the health system and her children, by comparison to the figures quoted was grossly disproportionate to the value of child support diverted to contribute to the problem, even making allowance for the possibility that IRD retained any penalty element in the collection process.

Silo mentality is possibly a good way to describe this, and I’m sure we can find other relevant situations even if the source is other than enforcement of the child-support equation.

I suspect we have a huge undisclosed cost in the unmonitored behvaiour of women, theoretically ‘protected by society’.