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Filed under: General — mama @ 4:28 pm Tue 27th November 2018

I can’t imagine what life might have been like without my father in my life.

I certainly can’t imagine life with just my mother.

My Father:..strong, reliable, busy, had a lot of friends, stalwart of a community, farmer, cop, publican, fencer, not the hobbyist guy..good with his hands,, but the range of his skills was quite amazing.

My Mother:..caring and loving, busy and the household seemed to run itself, amazing household skills, animal husbandry, butter maker baker and cook, clothing manufacturer for the family, charity worker, lovely lady, lovely Mother.

Together they achieved much, separately nigh on impossible.

We talk so about the effect of Fatherless Boys.

What about the Fatherless Girls?

My Granddaughter is out there without a Dad. I wonder if she is okay.
Do I consider her situation stable, I can not say I do, I wonder if she is okay.

A ‘Lawyer for the Child’ told us of the statistics and that if she did not have her Father in her life, then that may well lead her down the track of looking for a Father Figure, setting her up for teenage pregnancy, but apparently I don’t have to Clementinewell worry ’bout that.

Are the Girls OKAY?


  1. It’s an acknowledged problem.

    When Warren Farrell was writing books back in the 1990s an American women wrote a book about just that.

    Fatherless Daughters If I recall the title correctly.

    Comment by Downunder — Tue 27th November 2018 @ 5:55 pm

  2. Pamela Thomas – it’s still available on Amazon along with another similar book called Fatherless

    Comment by Downunder — Tue 27th November 2018 @ 5:59 pm

  3. Thanks for this post Mama.

    Comment by Voices. — Tue 27th November 2018 @ 8:18 pm

  4. Cool, thanks all you Dudes.

    Comment by mama — Tue 27th November 2018 @ 9:09 pm

  5. lets do a little bit of cherrypicking!
    Linda Nielsen
    familycaught$ can be rather dangerous for children.

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Tue 27th November 2018 @ 11:00 pm

  6. #2
    Reading about her, reminded me of Prof. Linda Nielson….

    Comment by MurrayBacon — Tue 27th November 2018 @ 11:03 pm

  7. Quoted from LINDA NIELSON

    “These findings refute a number of popular myths about shared parenting. One among many examples is a 2013 study from the University of Virginia that was reported in dozens of media outlets around the world under frightening headlines such as: “Spending overnights away from mom weakens infants’ bonds.” In the official press release, the researchers stated that their study should guide judges’ decisions about custody for children under the age of four. In fact, however, the study is not in any way applicable to the general population. The participants were impoverished, poorly-educated, non-white parents who had never been married or lived together, had high rates of incarceration, drug abuse, and violence, and had children with multiple partners. Moreover, there were no clear relationships between overnighting and children’s attachments to their mothers.

    My review of 54 studies on shared parenting finds that, independent of parental conflict and family income, children in shared physical custody families—with the exception of situations where children need protection from an abusive or negligent parent—have better outcomes across a variety of measures of well-being than do children in sole physical custody. Knowledge and understanding of these findings allow us to dismantle some of the myths surrounding shared parenting so we can better serve the interests of the millions of children whose parents are no longer living together.”

    I was shocked a few months back when I found that our Justice system was taking in the advice of university bods especially when those same university bods were feministic in their views. I had no idea that sort of thing was the go.

    Comment by mama — Wed 28th November 2018 @ 8:35 am

  8. Thank you guys for those links,,, Pamela Thomas looks so lovely, you just want to hug her!!

    It is sad to read what they say and sadder to know we treat Fathers as they suggest we should not.

    Comment by mama — Wed 28th November 2018 @ 9:05 am

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