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The Relationship Killer

Filed under: General — mama @ 9:15 pm Wed 12th September 2018

It’s the BIG,,, the BAD,,,,it’s RESENTMENT!

# and it tends to stem from,

#- What we feel someone did to us which was unnecessary mean or hurtful
#- What someone did not do for us
#- How we feel when someone has not done enough for us

I do not know too many men who would dwell on the above three things…does this mean that women feel more resentment,, and these feelings, do they surface because of unrealistic expectations (todays standards of)…are woman throwing a wobbly,spitting the dummy, behaving like spoiled children???

Take another selfie girls, remember to pout your best face forward.

# these from article
the main line of this post was taken from an article by Jill Goldson, she is on the Little Mr panel, and I have to say it gives me some faith that she be there.


  1. Above sounds like the very slogan for the Ultra feminist.

    Comment by mama — Wed 19th September 2018 @ 3:25 pm

  2. But now we have the intersectional feminist….anyone?

    Comment by mama — Wed 19th September 2018 @ 3:28 pm

  3. I agree Mama – resentment is the mother of all evils.
    Isn’t resentment unchecked or unprocessed grief?
    A time capsule of arrested developmentL
    Like a mental loop feeding you grief?
    Or more like a suppository with barbs?
    But one that is addictive?
    Because the pain it triggers become one’s sustenance?
    Even though the dose it gives may murder one’s growth?
    And pollute the world inside you?
    Maybe even infect the little people around us?
    Yeah resentment is bitch.
    But the destroyer of families and civilzations.

    You see men and women grow at different rate.
    Relationship often fall due to that.

    Comment by JustCurious — Tue 25th September 2018 @ 1:26 pm

  4. I think women mature faster than men in terms of reality check and overall family needs.
    Men are often clueless – they only see what is before them.

    Kid-less relationships are perfect, there is no driving factor for emotional growth.

    One working parent relationship with the other at home with an appropriate income are great because each parent is empowered in their roles and they often thrive.

    Often the risk in these relationships is idle time. A home dad meeting a home mom or vice versa… The kids keep each other company and so do the adults. They are both committed parents no doubt but the occasion is too good to pass on.

    The other side is the working party having an affair with another worker. It works both ways. Often these relationships thrive because both parents know they need each other for the family sake and learn to look the other way.

    The real relationship killer is the one where there are kids but both parents have to work and have to take shifts. Often this is where resentment comes into it.

    These relationships are often characterized by the women earning the better income and the husband or partner, the care giver. All is fine until a child comes and woman becomes mother but she is on borrowed time. She has to go back to work but suddenly she does not want to and feels she is abandoning her child. But she feels obliged because she earns the better income.

    WATCH OUT!!! Usually, the partner is blamed for that situation. Often she does not even know she holds resentment for him until much later when the catastrophy engulfs the family.

    And then there is the baby blues most people do not account for where depression may have set in but no one knows. A relationship goes through the motions and not realizing the evil head of resentment has set in as well as depression.

    Often the mentality for many a woman I have met was give him a child and that will turn him into a man. That is an old belief that may be still prevalent. Catch the most likely bachelor by spreading your legs.

    So they give him a child hoping to help him settle when sadly he was never looking for a child, when he refuses to grow up and accept a family and take on that responsibility, that is usually when the war or resentment erupts.

    This is not of course all inclusive but every trap designed to keep another person attached to you always fail and what is left often is resentment.

    But then you got affairs, cheating, and so on and so which are outside factors that can create a lot of grief in a relationship that often go unchecked until there is enough resentment buildup. And then boom, the caldera implodes.

    Comment by JustCurious — Tue 25th September 2018 @ 1:47 pm

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