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Avoid Women at all Costs

Filed under: General — triassic @ 10:14 pm Wed 9th January 2019

This article illustrates the inevitable outcome of the empathetic nonsense that the #metoo was based on. With more women gaining political power comes the danger of policies based on empathy rather than compassionate reasoning. A 1995 study in the Scandinavian Journal of Psychology showed that women involuntarily imitate other peoples’ emotional expressions more than men. This may give them a proclivity to act in ways that are not conducive to the betterment of society. Paul Bloom’s book, Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion, sets out a good case against viewing empathy as a virtue. Empathy and compassion are not synonymous and it’s very important to understand the difference. Listen here for his discussion with #56 Sam Harris – Abusing Dolores. And here #14 — The Virtues of Cold Blood. on this subject.


  1. I don’t go with the idea of women being empathetic creatures – Men in the original meaning of the word I believe are empathetic.

    Women are sympathetic creatures and relate on that basis to each other.

    Women can be sympathetic to men or equally can hang out the broken wing expecting a sympathetic response.

    What I see in this is the rewriting of history into another Feminist gospel about how good women are.

    A woman who starts believing this stuff is probably best avoided.

    Comment by Downunder — Fri 11th January 2019 @ 3:18 pm

  2. For me , knowing Women who are just ‘marvellous’ on ‘face time’, yet who are utterly not ‘marvellous’ in real life demonstrates this well. Whether it is being empathetic or sympathetic or just pathetic it is a far cry from being compassionate, compassion is surely one of Humans’ most enlightened and important traits.

    Comment by mama — Mon 14th January 2019 @ 1:04 pm


    but instead of a warning against women

    it seems more like a warning

    against the sanity of the good posters
    on this site.

    feels like propaganda for blindness
    discrimination and sexism

    avoid women (mothers, sisters, daughters?)

    feels like reverse feminism.



    Comment by JustCurious — Mon 14th January 2019 @ 7:30 pm

  4. #3 Not sure I understand your response to the post? Did you read or listen to the links?

    Comment by Brent — Wed 16th January 2019 @ 1:16 am

  5. The reverberations of the ME too thing will hang around a long time, the effects on business are massive, wow nothing like a woman scorned. How can Men trust Women now,,it is so damned scarey to know the blokes in your life are wide open to misinterpretation,, to say the least, talk about population control.

    from an article…

    “Workplace harassment first and foremost comes at a steep cost to those who suffer it, as they experience mental, physical, and economic harm,” the EEOC report stated. “Beyond that, workplace harassment affects all workers, and its true cost includes decreased productivity, increased turnover, and reputational harm.”

    These broader costs take various forms. Companies are purchasing “employment practices liability insurance” to cover costs associated with employment lawsuits, according to David Yamada, Professor of Law and the Director of the New Workplace Institute at Suffolk University. For a media company with 20,000 employees, a pre-#MeToo deductible fell around $2.5 million. Now that number has doubled to $5 million, liability expert Tom Hams told Forbes.

    According to Risk Management Prof. Michael McCloskey at Temple University, many insurers took an even harder stance in the wake of the Weinstein scandal, rejecting requests from studio production companies for updated employment practices liability insurance policies. Some insurers are choosing to provide training materials, demanding (and checking) that companies institute anti-harassment policies and procedures – a costly budget add-on.

    Comment by mama — Wed 16th January 2019 @ 2:57 pm

    and makes me want to retch.

    Comment by JustCurious — Sat 19th January 2019 @ 9:12 pm

  7. #6 Whether the title is offensive to anyone is beside the point. It doesn’t have to be the author’s point of view.

    What the title should do is connect the content to the internet by being relevant to both.

    In this case that is more than adequately achieved.

    Comment by Downunder — Sun 20th January 2019 @ 8:26 am

  8. #6 for sensationalism perhaps..or negative attention seeking…is there any value in the post?

    According to you

    “What the title should do is connect the content to the internet by being relevant to both”

    isn’t it “what the content should do is sum up the substance of the post?”
    And should the post not be focused on expanding on the title?

    “A 1995 study in the Scandinavian Journal of Psychology showed that women involuntarily imitate other peoples’ emotional expressions more than men. This may give them a proclivity to act in ways that are not conducive to the betterment of society.”

    “With more women gaining political power comes the danger of policies based on empathy rather than compassionate reasoning.”

    So teeh gist is about making policies effectively based on empathy rather than compassionate reasoning.

    So in reality and wih all things concerned “Avoid women at all costs” just does not make sense at all

    not in this context anyways … unless we are dramatizing for drama sake…

    Comment by JustCurious — Mon 21st January 2019 @ 7:45 am

  9. #8…I think #4 has got it right. For the life of me I cannot understand your argument at all. My title is from the Sydney morning Herald displayed in the first link which may have explained things for you had you read it! My article then went on about empathy which is what the #metoo movement was deeply driven by. Are you offended by the outcome of this movement on the workplace or that I have displayed it on this site? It would appear to me that you’re acting out of empathy for the movement and therefore I do wonder if in fact you are a supporting female?

    Comment by triassic — Sat 26th January 2019 @ 5:35 pm

  10. From the above posts’ Sam Harris’ website on Rushkoffs’ work.

    Nice to know we are not alone.

    Team Human delivers a call to arms. If we are to resist and survive these destructive forces, we must recognize that being human is a team sport. In Rushkoff’s own words: “Being social may be the whole point.” Harnessing wide-ranging research on human evolution, biology, and psychology, Rushkoff shows that when we work together we realize greater happiness, productivity, and peace. If we can find the others who understand this fundamental truth and reassert our humanity―together―we can make the world a better place to be human.

    Comment by mama — Sun 27th January 2019 @ 9:49 am

  11. Weren’t there previous posts from an identity called blame-for-all?

    That’s acceptable … expressing the opinion under the banner men are to blame for all wrong but watch the haters dump when you turn that around to endless forgiveness for women.

    Comment by Evan Myers — Sun 27th January 2019 @ 1:02 pm

  12. The world average fertility rate is 2.5 and dropping – that’s a good indication men are avoiding women or Western women are avoiding children.

    Comment by Evan Myers — Mon 28th January 2019 @ 11:35 am

  13. It was with great joy when I heard recently that one of my nephews was going out with an american chick, I have become disillusioned by women in lil’ ol’ NZ, I hope he can find some enjoyment in life…I never ever would have thought I would think this way, but women are becoming ….can not think of the words the now…

    Comment by mama — Fri 5th April 2019 @ 2:28 pm

  14. @9 – I have wondered at times if justcurious is really a feminist here to create disharmony and promote the feminist and marxist ideologies

    Comment by Frank — Fri 5th April 2019 @ 3:27 pm

  15. @14 following @justcurious comments he has told us;

    He is Māori
    He is ex police
    He lives in Northland
    He has been through the Family Court Mill
    He is trying to work life out.

    I sincerely hope the guy is not here for a laugh.

    Comment by Downunder — Fri 5th April 2019 @ 4:19 pm

  16. 🙂

    The last thing a troll needs is attention.
    I say justcurious… he is just curious.
    Downunder, thought you more sagacious…
    am disappointed.

    I am just high on the hill looking at you all pointing all your fingers in the wrong directions and too fucking chicken or retard to do anything about your own woes, miseries or lives.
    EXCEPT to blame women
    Balme feminists
    blame marxist
    blame everyone except the bastards making the laws without any idea of the consequences of these laws
    Blame everyone except the bastards interpreting these “laws” as they choose fit against the benefit of the unsuspecting and their families
    Blame everyone except the cops that raid peaceful families under threats of violence/punishment/emprisonment from the police themselves more than any domestic violence.
    Blame everyone except the fucking lawyers who usurp our sovereign rights and give jurisdiction to the courts.

    So yeah… It’s like everyone wants to blame someone and put a blanket of imbecility on and claim it is women doing it all when it is the system using the weak or unsuspecting women to wage war against the men…. by passing laws supposedly to protect women from violence and yet using those laws to wage war against the family unit.

    And of course until we address the real problem… NOT WOMEN… we are just wasting ink.

    You guys, I feel are missing the point entirely by focusing on women or feminism when the real issue are the laws that are being made…. and until we do something about them, nothing is changing

    Comment by JustCurious — Fri 5th April 2019 @ 6:48 pm

  17. I unfortunately have not come across any weak or suspecting unsuspecting women recently, would love to meet some unsuspecting innocence dressed in the guise of lovely ladies that might want to make my son a happy man one day, sadly I feel this is too rare a find.

    i have known women who have used the privelage of marriage and it’s monetary gains to set themselves up well into their futures, I have seen women use children as a means to make money and secure themselves with little regard to father or child, i have lost faith in my fellow woman.
    I know they are not all this way, the four or so that I know who are as happily married or partnered as is possible these days are strong wonderful women but are working much harder than their solo parent counterparts.

    As for the particular woman whom bore my grandchild, she is possibly the one to take all the cake, possibly evil even. I can not see damsels in distress that need saving with the exception of the worst cases but we are not talking about those here.

    Women are all out there in solidarity and are strong, they are not silly, they have the power and brains to know right from wrong and virtue from selfishness, they are lazy and expectant of a good life even if they have to throw some people away in the process.

    Comment by mama — Fri 5th April 2019 @ 7:19 pm

  18. …I meant to say unsuspecting….

    Comment by mama — Fri 5th April 2019 @ 8:00 pm

  19. #15 and 16,
    ‘I sincerely hope the guy is not here for a laugh’.

    Of course he is, he is Just Curious, whom often can laugh at himself and apologises when he laughs at others..

    “..before you judge a man, walk a mile in his shoes. After that who cares?…He’s a mile away and you’ve got his shoes!”, Billy Connolly

    heehee, I know a little FBesque,,sorry.

    Comment by mama — Fri 5th April 2019 @ 10:27 pm

  20. Oh, @justcurious

    @19 It’s a common problem with men, Mama.

    How to be involved without identifying as one of them. If you watch you’ll see it here quite often.

    I have to agree, European women are the shit of the earth now, and I can understand the different perspective that the cultural divide brings.

    If you weren’t aware, Mama, Maori and European women don’t stand at the same moment to celebrate woman’s day.

    Comment by Downunder — Sat 6th April 2019 @ 8:27 am

  21. #20, I am gunna have to start calling you Wilson soon,,,anyway no I was not aware of that, they have different experiences surrounding the likes of the right to vote,,,,

    Comment by mama — Sat 6th April 2019 @ 1:19 pm

  22. You’re not calling someone a sub woofer are you.

    Comment by Evan Myers — Sat 6th April 2019 @ 2:29 pm

  23. No but they sure have some good names, Thor’s Hammer, yeow,,, Wilson, Tool Time rather.

    Comment by mama — Sat 6th April 2019 @ 4:36 pm

  24. Oh, well, you know, Mama … I thought my extensive research into ancient tribal culture, obscure scientific data, and the thoughts of great philosophers would come in handy … and then you came along.

    Comment by Downunder — Sat 6th April 2019 @ 5:32 pm

  25. ”’just call me Tim……

    Comment by mama — Sat 6th April 2019 @ 6:33 pm

  26. n Arrowtown man who received a $200 freedom camping fine after sleeping in his vehicle in central Queenstown overnight says it sends the wrong message about drink-driving.

    After going drinking with friends on March 21, Glen Wallace found himself alone and “over the limit” about 4am.

    Aware he was in no state to drive, he went to sleep in his ute, which was parked in Rees St.

    After waking up to find the ticket on his windscreen, he got a friend to give him a lift home.

    … looks like it’s gonna cost you $200 not to go home if you sleep in the car.

    Comment by Evan Myers — Mon 8th April 2019 @ 2:14 pm

  27. 🙂
    Need to get your old coagulated blood flowing into your system properly otherwise you will end up with blood clots in your hemorroids…

    What most people cannot see is that the system is like an old sleeping woman.
    She is aware of the world around her but she cannot participate in it.
    Her only state is awareness of the real world but she cannot participate in it because she is not real.
    So she creates a version of her that is designed to capture that real world she is aware of but cannot participate in.
    The system becomes her eyes and ears and arms and legs and mouth and belly.
    The system then becomes a re-creation of the world she senses around her and she goes about capturing it.
    Once she has captured as much information as possible regarding the world out there, she goes about codifying it with rules and regulations to control that world she is only aware of but cannot see, cannot hear, cannot touch, cannot step on or can’t eat.
    This capture she does becomes a replication of the real live world out there which she replicates on paper.
    This is what we know now as legislations and rules or bylaws and such…
    These have nothing to do with human beings. These are essentially designed to regulate the functions, positions and roles of the people employed by the system to act as sentinels, sensors and actors of this system which can only consistently advertise itself and create processes within itself to reassert it’s existence, validity and reality into our own human reality.

    So talking of women or the handful of women who use the system for their own benefit or talking of the horrible legal processes initiated by those women as a way to continually blame feminism or marxism or whatever other ideology is still dealing with the symptoms as opposed to the causes.

    The way this system operates it that it elects a norm and makes legislation towards that norm and sets it as Law. Funnily enough, being a system that can only adjust itself though new laws, it takes almost forever for those laws to be changed to fit the new or real norms of society that it pretends to address.

    The real problem is not whether the law is right or wrong but the real problem is whehter the law is likely to achieve the stated purpose or goal and in doing so, will it be in breach of human rights?

    Further, once a law is set in place, how do we measure its effects in so far as achieving the stated intention and purpose?

    How do we change it if it can’t achieve its expressedly stated goals and intention or purpose and what if it creates more harm than good?

    When you look at the way the laws are drafted, you can see that all it takes is a strong lobby group to pass new laws and a bunch of biased numbers as background for statistics and a few new “clever” psychologists who are willing to swear until blue that their research strongly back the newly intended law or changes.

    you will observe also that the submission process is behind closed doors. Unless it is done by referendum, there is no transparence whatsoever to the process.

    And since we have elected “RE” presentants” whom are basically charged to pretend to speak for each and everyone of us, the party in power with the majority of seats gets to have the final say on anything or anyone.

    And yet, those people elected have little or no affiliation with the rest of us. In fact their entire career is in a political party. They are professional politicians. They thus have sworn allegiance to a party, to their manifesto and to their own internal code of war/conduct even a the expense of other people that elected them or to the nation they have sworn to for the betterment of the population and its economy.

    My take on women is simply that they are not the problem.

    Some of them are simply stuck with daddy syndrome and are seduced into believing they can level the might of the system to punish their former partners by laying a complaint. All they have to do is play victim and once the system gets a hold of them and starts providing for all their needs, they see no need to fix whatever relationship problem caused it. In fact they are allowed to remain immature. that is their own loss and sadly that of the children too.

    Then you have the one’s with the daddy syndrome combined with the goddess syndrome. hell hath no fury like a woman’s scorn. Those people are vicious and will say and do anything they can to get their own offsprings to reject their father out of fear that these parents targetted are in fact better parents. Or out of unprocessed grief from a bad breakup/relationship. They simply continue the relationship though the court system.

    Then off course, you have the gold digger – happy to ignore and abandon the kids to whatever fate as long as they get the house and half the banks accounts. Some of these women use their bodies simply as tools and investment for lifestyle and property.

    And then off course, you have the women that will not have a bar of either those three above. And these are thankfully in the majority.

    So my take is that the system has stacked the dice on us and has created rules that favour the destruction of the nz family through the abuse of these rules by those in the system and those participating in it.

    But if we want to find a solution to the current quandary we are in (a broken system, broken rules, bad laws, corrupt cops, incompetent judges, pathological liars filling up CYFS ranks and the Police’s, stupid lawmakers and members of parliaments taking their oath of office as a private invitation to orgies and bordels and affairs and political sodomy) we need to stop pointing th efingers at other members of scoiety and start pointing it at those making the rules and decisions which are affecting us.

    Comment by JustCurious — Mon 8th April 2019 @ 3:43 pm

  28. As he walked across the desert he saw the homeland in front of him. Peaceful plains with many hills. He knew each one and the hill people of each hill and each leader – he’d been to them all. He turned and looked back to where he had just come from, still curious about his visit – he was far enough away now that all he could see was the pyramid in the distance.

    Comment by Evan Myers — Tue 9th April 2019 @ 3:25 am

  29. Living in the West: If you avoid the puddles you don’t get wet! Men: Work hard, get your education and put your career first. Never jeopardize your hard earned money through the court system because a women is leaving you. This means, no women in your bed, no cohabitation or whatsoever. You want to have a family life? Leave the West and go to a far east country or south America where women prioritize family. You will have to move there, don’t expect her to come to your home nation. It’s not fair to expect her to leave her family and you don’t want her to become another feminist bullet. Western women are no longer wife material. Don’t try to find this out in the hard way!

    Comment by Better safe than sorry — Wed 17th April 2019 @ 6:01 am

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