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I am a BOY,,, how am I supposed to be??????

Filed under: Boys / Youth / Education,Gender Politics,General,Men's Health — mama @ 12:32 pm Thu 18th July 2019

I know two BOYS,,, one 8, one 10,
Their Lady teachers talk to them in Baby talk, they are 8 and 10!,, 8 and 10!!!

I see other Boys, often they have no Dad,,, their Mothers talk to them like Babies!!!

Please some one tell me, who they will be, will they be okay, will they be strong of mind?

Who will be their role models????

We forget that kids are little people, they are clever as hell, how can we shield their ears when they are coming into contact with the pitchforks of ‘right now’s’ society.

It would be really fantastic if we could put away the pitchforks and give ourselves, as human’s, the respect we really deserve, simple decency and respect for the earshot of one another.

While some push for change so rapid it disregards the other person, it will only serve to disrupt.


  1. They need to be told and feel they are needed/necessary, at the current rate of change and speed of life, are we giving them this?,, all children?, each and every one of us for that matter, are we needed?,,do you feel needed.

    Comment by mama — Thu 18th July 2019 @ 12:58 pm

  2. The way I view this is on the basis of the incompetent woman.

    By talking at the child in a age reduced manner attacks the child’s integrity. I see it as a form of intimidation to keep control of the child rather than a constructive dialogue relevant to the child’s learning.

    Grates my teeth also.

    Comment by Evan Myers — Fri 19th July 2019 @ 9:08 am

  3. This Evan is a big and important overlooked practical way forward to re introduce the Male importance and potency, I am talking about EDUCATION, education has had heady times of recent, much time in the media, it would be the perfect time to launch into the media the push for more Male teachers…get media asking the questions as they do for women,,, we need more women this, we need more women that…Dr Paul Callister all those years back looked at the declining stats for Mens uptake for higher education in this country…

    Comment by mama — Fri 19th July 2019 @ 9:51 am



    Comment by mama — Fri 19th July 2019 @ 10:39 am

  5. To every child his/her language.
    reminds of khalil Gibran again…

    “Three days after I was born, as I lay in my silken cradle, gazing
    with astonished dismay on the new world round about me, my mother
    spoke to the wet-nurse, saying, “How does my child?”

    And the wet-nurse answered, “He does well, Madame, I have fed him
    three times; and never before have I seen a babe so young yet so

    And I was indignant; and I cried, “It is not true, mother; for
    my bed is hard, and the milk I have sucked is bitter to my mouth,
    and the odour of the breast is foul in my nostrils, and I am most

    But my mother did not understand, nor did the nurse; for the language
    I spoke was that of the world from which I came.”

    Comment by JustCurious — Fri 19th July 2019 @ 4:38 pm


    Haven’t read an article on PTSD for some time but this one touches on consequences of separation and children.

    Comment by Evan Myers — Sun 21st July 2019 @ 9:19 am

  7. Some people find it cute to baby talk kids. I have seen one on my neighborhood. It affected the growth of the kid. On the other hand, I also seen one who talks to their kids casually, and I observed that the kid is much mature in thinking and speaking. It will really leave an impact.

    Henry Frid

    Comment by Henry F. — Mon 5th October 2020 @ 4:11 pm

  8. As a child of 11 I asked a question to myself.
    I looked at my past as to how I was treated as a boy.
    I looked to the future as to how I would be treated as a man.
    Was it worth it to carry on, as I suffered my first episode of prolonged severe suicidal depression.
    I looked in the past and found the good and the bad, and it was torturous.
    I looked to the future, and, what are these monsters going to do to me.
    I lost the argument.
    So I did a deal, one of far to many.
    I must suffer with hope, until all hope be lost.
    I would just have to watch, a deal I already made at age 5.

    What then of the boy today, who is watching.
    What hope has he to hold.
    Boys are but children and defenceless.
    They be nothing but a blank canvas.
    What then be the canvas.
    But when they be men they be hated, persecuted, and ridiculed.
    Are you blind when they are not.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Sun 22nd November 2020 @ 8:39 pm

    Good article on the subject. And I don’t think boys that age should be talked to like babies. And if a woman doesn’t have a man, it’s the woman’s problem in the first place. You have to be more interesting to men.

    Comment by Pokitren — Mon 14th February 2022 @ 9:13 pm

  10. Article like this are fun to read

    Comment by monicabing422 — Sat 29th October 2022 @ 3:29 am

  11. Agree, definitely the first opinion is true

    Comment by jselleck893 — Sat 29th October 2022 @ 3:35 am

  12. It’s crucial to communicate with children in a way that respects their growing intellect. Instead of baby talk, engaging them in meaningful conversations, encouraging the to ask questions, and actively listening to their thoughts, might be a better approach.


    Comment by A Gardener — Thu 14th September 2023 @ 9:03 pm

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