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There is NZ cases in chapter 4.
What is amazing is some of the conclusions made. Like false allegations of rape.
There is other evidence in the beginning chapters to help form your argument.
The problem is fact evidence, opinion, or hearsay.
I’m guessing opinion will get you nowhere slowly on this subject.
So you will need to have facts of things happening that prove harm to the child.
And related to manipulation of your parent child relationship.
The statistics expose this as normal, even in unbroken homes.
Yet the industry fights to stop its recognition.
Best interests of the industry’s motive.
Not the child, obviously.
Otherwise you would not have to fight for them.
Comment by DJ Ward — Fri 11th December 2020 @ 12:54 am
I made the comment to an associate recently that people generally become political because of what has disturbed their peaceful existence.
His reply to that was about parental alienation being the reason but he was glad that in his case the judge accepted the research.
Comment by Bevan — Wed 16th December 2020 @ 6:47 pm
You cannot walk through a tree.
You must go left or right.
Unless one cuts down the tree.
Comment by DJ Ward — Wed 16th December 2020 @ 10:02 pm
No, it wooden let you but even if you cut it down you still haven’t walked through it, you have removed the obstacle.
Comment by Bevan — Thu 17th December 2020 @ 8:01 am
The other day i had my Direction Conference regardimg my Aplication for discharge of PO . Instead of following the FRC Rules 2020 clause 416 Z to prepare the forthcoming heraing the Judge :
1. Spent 20 minutes to convince me to drop my Aplication right there , right now
2. Threatened me with : to pay her lawyer and all the Court expenses , that if I carry on and ask for her removal from the case , she will make her opinion about me very clear to a possible new Judge ,
3. The Judge told me I haven’t done anything to improve myself although three yeasr ago I was a car groomer and now I am a graduataed NZ tecaher with over 25 students etc.
4. The judge told me few times I have to go to at lest three months psychiatric tretament. When I asked why , she said : Only a good psyhiatrist can help you
5. The Judge said i have to bring new evidences to support my Aplicati0n. I asked what kind of evidences . No reply
6. The Judge threatened me with being banned from the Court for 5 years and i was given two weeks to withdraw my Aplication,
6. The Judge apologizied to the woman for my “stubbornes”and ” malicious behaviour “etc . etc
Mea culpa 1 : In my affidavit I pointed out that the woman , according the FVIR , reported to the Police thee times home invasion by me ( damaging twice her car while she was at home and once her fence ) The problem with that is she gave one version to the Police ( her car was parked at her driveway) and totaly diferent one to the Court ( her car was parked at the Postman legs restaurant parking slot )
Mea culpa 2 . I asked in my Affidavit that : Could the woman point out to just one , even remotely credible , specific wrong doing of me , that happened from the very first moment i saw her ( 4 years ago ) till now , which caused her a emotional distress and abuse . Although the woman didn’t answer my question , neither in her Affidavit nor verbaly , the Judge told me that is am emotional abuse . .
This Friday I booked with psyhiatrist to havea look at my Affidavit and my attitude to tel me if he can see why I have to undertake at least three months of psyhistric treatment .
The last : The Judge came with 4 large golden / diamond rings o her left hand and two large golden chains around her neck , flashing them all the time . The same Judge did the same ( as can be seen on Internet photo ) when she attended a meeting with recovering drug addicts who came from disfynctional and impoverished families .
Although three days passed after this Direction conference no minute has arrived yet ???
Comment by tony — Thu 17th December 2020 @ 10:43 am
What would you do if you were me ?
Comment by tony — Thu 17th December 2020 @ 10:54 am
Firstly follow the instructions of the Judge.
Visit the doctor.
Sometimes people can’t see they have a condition.
Can the doctor diagnose you with a condition?
Nobody is perfect but if you are not already diagnosed with something, or otherwise know when honest with yourself that something is wrong, then it’s unlikely you have a condition, needing psychiatric care.
Such services can be like the spider.
You offer them money for help.
But if you need no help, what is normal is portrayed as a problem.
A web of lies.
And you will pay, and pay.
Nothing will be fixed.
Example is you may be angry at what’s happened.
So they will want to treat your anger problem.
They cannot treat what made you angry.
As they make money from it.
Other options include.
Go to the high court.
She said you did not improve.
When you improved. (Well done by the way)
You exposed things were false.
You were not false.
They say you do wrong.
But say nothing about doing wrong.
Trying to find the truth is emotional abuse of her.
Yet you need the doctor and not her.
Who was false.
Logic dictates the judge wasn’t interested in truth.
So doesn’t herself need a doctor.
That’s highly questionable with the display of vanity.
And lack of reasoning.
It is you being abused.
You could also make a Judicial complaint.
There is false judgement.
You were threatened.
There is degrading treatment.
Comment by DJ Ward — Thu 17th December 2020 @ 11:46 am
Thank you DJ ward for noticing my pathetic post haha
1. Can you tell me how much roughly a High Court process may cost me ? . See , that shows I am not the crazy one , haha
2. Where i can find the legal base / template for asking a Judge to be removed from my case ?
3. Is it possible to acquire a profesional pshytriatist opinion who might challenge the Judge’s opinon that fact finding NZ legal process is a emotional abuse ?
Thanks , whoever you are and Merry Christmas
Comment by tony — Thu 17th December 2020 @ 12:22 pm
A wise man said.
“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.
So another option, is less about anger.
But more about accepting what’s happened.
You still have the right to be heard.
Even if it’s just words on an internet site.
But you have more peaceful options that don’t cost money.
You can’t change what’s happened.
But you can turn your back on it.
Just pass your suffering on to those that own it.
White to the Human Rights Commission.
State you are being subject to degrading treatment.
Arguing your corner.
Your point of view.
Say if you felt angry, or falsely shamed, or denigrated.
Say how you think things were wrong.
Confess your mistakes.
Turn to face the future.
You can feel it.
Time in the past, and time in future.
A moment of clarity.
It is the best of feelings.
Tick, tick, goes the clock.
It cannot be stopped.
Comment by DJ Ward — Thu 17th December 2020 @ 6:02 pm
My spelling sucks.
Write, not white.
Time in the future.
Anyway.
My son has a black eye from a kindy incident.
All a predictable outcome of a behaviour.
Watch where your going.
Or you might run into a piece of wood.
An unseen obstacle.
My daughter has decided on a present for mum.
Secretly it is for her, but it is a present with her mother in mind.
My partner has told me what to buy.
At least she wants it this year.
I am thinking about a group of people with poisoned thinking.
I thought I was at a dead end in my thinking.
But today I saw something.
I must learn to be patient.
I found myself explaining the cycle of life to my daughter.
A discussion about a kitten and a hawk.
I was speaking freely using parable sentences, and arguments.
Adults look at me funny when I do it accidentally.
But she never noticed.
Comment by DJ Ward — Thu 17th December 2020 @ 8:31 pm
Thanks for the poetic justice ha ha . Does someone have an experience with trying to remove the Judge from her/his case ?
Comment by tony — Thu 17th December 2020 @ 9:48 pm
You may need to speak to a lawyer on that issue.
I don’t think you can because it by default would be an admission by the courts that something is wrong.
They consider themselves above the law.
And never accountable.
Technically if you made a judicial complaint then it would be manifestly unjust for you to be judged by that judge.
That would be dependant on the veracity of your complaint.
It sounds like things were wrong to me.
Imagine a sexual harassment case, where the offender judges.
You could carry on with the case, subjecting yourself to the threats.
Doing everything correctly knowing false judgement will happen.
Collecting evidence for a high court case.
You will then have a new judge.
Many who come to this site say.
Do not engage with them.
It is good advice sometimes.
Comment by DJ Ward — Fri 18th December 2020 @ 9:11 am
Thanks DJ Ward
Two weeks ago a truck driver told me : The very first moment you will point your finger at the woman saying she gave a totally different version to the Police and to the Court about the very same allegations – YOU LOOSE. This advice costed me nothing, and it took 2 minutes. I didn’t take his advice.
I just came from a lawyer to receive the same advice ha ha in one hour for $380. Of course, he was well-meaning, and I mean that. I took his advice ha ha. That is even a bigger tragedy.
Comment by tony — Fri 18th December 2020 @ 12:39 pm