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14 Men talk about the devastation of divorce

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 4:51 am Wed 28th July 2021

There is a misconception women are more heartbroken after divorce than men. The truth is the complete opposite.

Quote 10
“Emotionally, it was horrible. I lost not only my wife, I lost my lover, my best friend, my teammate, and my ‘family.’ To me, divorce just was never an option, until it happened. I felt lost. I had lost the one person who I felt I was allowed to confide in.”

Quote 5
“The biggest thing I noticed during the divorce was how I was seen. I was a resource, not a person. I paid bills: lawyers, child support and spousal support, anyone that wanted money started threatening me, because I had the paycheck. It’s lonely, and you really start to question why you try so hard when no one gives a shit about you. You start to think a lot more about what’s important to you versus what’s just an obligation you’ve carried out of familiarity.”

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And don’t get me started on the years of Family Court proceedings, where she enlists fake family violence orders, unnecessary supervised visits, IRD tax system, tens of thousands in legal bills, child alienation, restricted or zero child contact.

After reading the news article, does anyone wonder why there is so much mental health? Mental Health is the most recent term for suicide, where men are represented 4 to 1.

The article was written in 2014. 7 years on, a few thousand graves later, what has changed?

What is the best quote(s) you most align with? Do you have one of your own?


  1. #15

    I was actually relieved, it was over.
    I didn’t even bother with the divorce.
    Years later I got an ultimatum.
    By my now partner.
    “What! Your still married”

    Anyway, my letter.
    Obviously, what happens to men.
    When relationships, break down.
    Needs to be commented on.

    I am pretty confident.
    That I can use the term.
    Crime Against Humanity.
    When it comes to men’s experiences.
    And divorce.

    Pregnancy, geez.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Wed 28th July 2021 @ 6:05 pm

  2. If you were under the impression that Siouxsie Wiles had some degree of academic professionalism, think again.

    She makes no secret that she regards her male counterparts as inferior and having gained their position by through male privilege rather than individual talent.

    From watching her sway in the breeze according to political need I would suggest her arrogance is a stride ahead of her scientific credibility let alone her gender hostility.

    Comment by Evan Myers — Thu 29th July 2021 @ 7:45 am

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