I know this video is a bit US but there are parallels to NZ. First of all we dads experience parental alienation.

One of the things the NZ court does and continues to do is ignore alienation or not place a higher priority or importance on alienation. The US seems now to openly call alenation child abuse.

In minute 8:39 parental alienation is not commonly taught, it requires certain types of thinking.

The thinking in NZ is if a mother can successfully alienate the child, then the mother is awarded custody of the child and the family home, everything in that home. It’s a massive prize and reward. Rather than calling it child abuse in NZ we call it an abusive dad and the dad must be booted from the child’s life and have his home and stuff taken from him.

In minute 2:20 the alienator is assaulting the child’s memory, feeling, thinking, relationship with a parent.

In minute 9:37, the alienating parent is recognised as having one of three types of personality orders, or a commination.

1. Borderline personality disorder.
2. Narcissistic personality.
3. Sociopathic personality disorder.

In minute 9:49, in the US 22 million parents, adults are the victims of parental alenation, and they are not reciprocating those behaviours.

Hurting the relationship with dad has its price. It can cause the child to run away, self harm, suicide.

In NZ we wonder why we have a high rate of suicide, why we have massive growth in gangs, doubling from 2000 to 4000 in just 5 years.

The NZ Government and the Family Court need look no further than themselves and their thinking. The US is evolving, NZ is not.